"Hiki ke loaʻa ka hauʻoli i nā manawa pōʻeleʻele, ke poina ʻole ʻoe e huli i ka mālamalama," wahi a ke ʻano naʻauao o kahi puke kaulana. Akā, hiki ke loaʻa iā mākou ka dissatisfaction i nā manawa maikaʻi loa, a ma nā pilina "kūpono". A ʻo ko mākou makemake wale nō e hiki ke kōkua iā mākou e hauʻoli, wahi a ka mea noiʻi a me ka mea kākau o nā puke e pili ana i ka male a me nā pilina ʻo Lori Lowe.
ʻO ka hiki ʻole o ka poʻe ke ʻike i ka ʻoluʻolu i ko lākou ola ponoʻī ke kumu nui o ka hauʻoli. ʻO ko mākou ʻano he mea ʻole mākou. Pono mākou i kahi mea ʻē aʻe. Ke loaʻa iā mākou ka mea a mākou e makemake ai: kahi hoʻokō, kahi mea, a i ʻole kahi pilina maikaʻi, hauʻoli mākou no kekahi manawa, a laila ʻike hou mākou i kēia pōloli i loko.
"ʻAʻole mākou e māʻona piha iā mākou iho," wahi a Laurie Lowe, ka mea noiʻi a me ka mea kākau o nā puke e pili ana i ka male a me nā pilina. — E like me ka hoa pili, ka loaʻa kālā, ka home, nā keiki, ka hana a me kou kino ponoʻī. ʻAʻole piha mākou i ko mākou ola holoʻokoʻa. "
Akā ʻaʻole ia manaʻo ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke aʻo i ka hauʻoli. I ka hoʻomaka ʻana, pono mākou e hoʻōki i ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana i ka honua a puni mākou no ka hāʻawi ʻole ʻana iā mākou i nā mea āpau a mākou e makemake ai.
Hoʻomaka ko mākou ala i kahi kūlana hauʻoli me ka hana i nā manaʻo
Ua kākau ʻo Dennis Praner, ka mea kākau o Happiness Is a Serious Issue, "ʻO ka mea nui, pono mākou e haʻi i ko mākou ʻano ʻoiai mākou e lohe a mahalo iā ia, ʻaʻole ʻo ia, akā ʻo ka noʻonoʻo e hoʻoholo inā ʻoluʻolu mākou."
Hiki i ke kanaka ke hana i kahi koho - e hauʻoli. ʻO kahi laʻana o kēia ka poʻe e noho ʻilihune a ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli nui ma mua o ko lākou mau hoa waiwai ʻoi aku ka waiwai.
Me ka ʻoluʻolu ʻole, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻoholo i ka hauʻoli, ʻo Laurie Low ka manaʻo. ʻOiai i loko o kahi honua i loaʻa ka hewa, hiki iā mākou ke loaʻa ka hauʻoli.
Aia nā mea maikaʻi i ko mākou hiki ʻole ke māʻona piha i ke ola. Paipai ia iā mākou e hoʻololi, hoʻomaikaʻi, hoʻoikaika, hana, hoʻokō. Inā ʻaʻole no ka manaʻo o ka hauʻoli, ʻaʻole e hana nā kānaka i nā ʻike a me nā mea hana e hoʻomaikaʻi ai iā lākou iho a me ka honua. He mea nui kēia i ka ulu ʻana o nā kānaka a pau.
Hoʻomaopopo ʻo Prager i ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o ka pono - maikaʻi - ka ʻoluʻolu a me ka pono ʻole.
E hauʻoli mau ana mākou i kekahi mea, akā ʻaʻole ia manaʻo ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hauʻoli.
Ka inaina pono me kāna hana e hoʻomaikaʻi ai ka poʻe noʻonoʻo. ʻO ka hapa liona o ka ʻoluʻolu maikaʻi e koi iā mākou e hana i nā loli koʻikoʻi i ke ola.
Inā ʻoluʻolu mākou i kahi pilina hoʻopōʻino, ʻaʻohe o mākou manaʻo e ʻimi i ka hoa kūpono. ʻO ka hōʻoluʻolu ʻole i ke kiʻekiʻe o ka pilina e paipai i ka kāne e ʻimi i nā ala hou e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i ka maikaʻi o ke kamaʻilio.
Ka inaina pono ole pili me nā mea koʻikoʻi ʻole (e like me ka huli ʻana manic no nā kāmaʻa "kūpono") a i ʻole i waho o kā mākou mana (e like me ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hoʻololi i ko mākou mau mākua).
"ʻO kā mākou hauʻoli i kekahi manawa ua hoʻokumu maikaʻi ʻia, akā inā ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻopau ʻia kona kumu, hoʻonui wale ia i ka hauʻoli," wahi a Prager. "ʻO kā mākou hana ke ʻae i ka mea hiki ʻole iā mākou ke hoʻololi."
E ʻoluʻolu mau mākou i kekahi mea, akā ʻaʻole kēia manaʻo ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hauʻoli. ʻO ka hauʻoli wale nō ka hana ma kou kūlana o ka noʻonoʻo.
Ke makemake ʻole mākou i kekahi mea i loko o ka hoa kāne a i ʻole ka hoa pili, he mea maʻamau kēia. A ʻaʻole kēia manaʻo ʻaʻole kūpono ʻo ia iā mākou. Malia paha, kākau ʻo Laurie Lowe, pono mākou e noʻonoʻo ʻaʻole hiki i ke kanaka kūpono ke hoʻokō i kā mākou makemake āpau. ʻAʻole hiki i kahi hoa ke hoʻohauʻoli iā mākou. He hoʻoholo kēia a mākou e hana ai ma o mākou iho.
E pili ana i ka loea: ʻO Lori Lowe kahi mea noiʻi a me ka mea kākau o nā puke e pili ana i ka male a me ka pilina.