"Ma hea kahi e loaʻa ai ke kanaka waiwai? I kēlā me kēia manawa aʻu e hehi ai i ka rake hoʻokahi - no ke aha ia? He aha kaʻu e hana ai inā ʻaʻole loaʻa iaʻu ke kelepona ma hope o ka lā? Ua hele ka mea hoʻoponopono o ka pūnaewele, ʻo Yulia Tarasenko, i nā haʻi'ōlelo a ke kanaka psychologist ʻo Mikhail Labkovsky e ʻike i nā nīnau a ka poʻe hoʻolohe e hiki mai ana a inā paha hiki ke hauʻoli i ka hola a me ka hapa.
ʻO nā lā pule, ke ahiahi, ke kikowaena o Moscow. Hooilo. Paʻa ka lobby o ka Hale Kūwaena o nā Architects, aia kahi laina i loko o ke keʻena ʻaʻahu. ʻElua papa ma luna o ka haʻi'ōlelo a Labkovsky.
ʻO ke kumuhana ʻo "Pehea e male ai", ʻo ke ʻano wahine o ka poʻe i ʻike mua ʻia. ʻO ka hapa nui o nā wahine he 27 a hiki i ka 40 (aia nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua). ʻEkolu mau kāne i loko o ke keʻena: he mea paʻi kiʻi, he ʻelele o nā mea hoʻonohonoho a ʻo Mikhail ponoʻī.
ʻAʻole ʻo kahi haʻiʻōlelo lehulehu he monologue o kahi loea i ʻike ʻia, akā he pōkole, ma kahi o ʻumi mau minuke, hoʻolauna a me ka launa pū ʻana: e nīnau i kahi nīnau - loaʻa kahi pane. ʻElua ala e leo ai i kahi ʻeha: i loko o kahi microphone a i ʻole ma ka hāʻawi ʻana i kahi memo i kākau nui ʻia, hiki ke heluhelu a loaʻa i kahi nīnau.
ʻAʻole pane ʻo Mikhail i nā memo me ka ʻole o ka nīnau: ʻo kēia paha, hiki ke lilo i kāna ʻehiku. ʻEono mua:
- e hana wale i kou makemake
- mai hana oe i kou makemake ole
- e ʻōlelo wale i kāu mea makemake ʻole
- mai pane mai ke ninau ole ia
- e pane wale i ka ninau
- hoʻokaʻawale i nā mea, kamaʻilio wale no ʻoe iho,
ʻO kekahi ala a i ʻole, i kāna pane ʻana i nā nīnau mai ka poʻe hoʻolohe, ua leo ʻo Mikhail iā lākou. Mai nā nīnau, ʻike ʻia ka laulā a ʻoi aku ka nui o ke kumuhana ma mua o ka mea i manaʻo ʻia.
Aia ma ka microphone he blonde ʻōpio. Aia kahi pilina me kahi kanaka "kūpono": nani, waiwai, nā Maldives a me nā mea hauʻoli ʻē aʻe o ke ola. Akā ʻaʻole naʻaupō. ʻO Scandal, hoʻopuehu, i kēia manawa ua hoʻohālikelike ʻo ia i nā mea āpau me ia, ʻaʻohe mea hiki ke kū i ka hoʻokūkū.
"He neurotic ʻoe," wehewehe ʻo Mikhail. — Ua hoihoi mai kela kanaka ia oe no ka mea, ua anu ia oe. Pono mākou e hoʻololi iā mākou iho.
Ma hope o kēlā me kēia moʻolelo ʻelua he anu, hōʻole i nā makua kāne. No laila ka hoihoi i ka poʻe i ʻeha
— Me he mea lā makemake ʻoe i kahi pilina: e loaʻa i kahi mea āu e kamaʻilio pū ai. Akā, pono ʻoe e kūkulu hou i kou ola, e hoʻokaʻawale i ka papa i loko o ka lumi keʻena, e hoʻoneʻe i nā mea ... - ʻo ka brunette 37 makahiki.
"E hoʻoholo ʻoe," kīloi ʻo Labkovsky i kona mau lima. — A i ʻole maikaʻi ʻoe a me kekahi, a laila ʻae ʻoe i ke kūlana e like me ia. A i ʻole ʻaʻole lawa kāu pilina - a laila pono ʻoe e hoʻololi i kekahi mea.
Ma hope o kēlā me kēia moʻolelo ʻē aʻe he anu, hōʻole i nā makua kāne i hele ʻole mai ke ola o kā lākou mau kaikamahine a i ʻole ke ʻano maʻamau. No laila ka hoihoi i ka poʻe i ʻeha: "ʻino pū kekahi, ʻaʻohe mea ʻokoʻa." Hoʻomaka hou ke kūlana: ʻelua mau mea hoʻolohe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he ʻelima mau male ma hope o lākou. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole kēia wale nō ke kūlana hiki.
— Pehea e hiki ai iaʻu ke huki i ke kanaka — paʻa, i loaʻa iā ia ʻekolu manawa ʻoi aʻe ma mua o aʻu, hiki iā ia ke mālama inā ʻākoakoa wau i ka haʻalele makuahine ...
— No laila, ʻaʻole koʻikoʻi nā ʻano pilikino iā ʻoe?
— Aole au i olelo pela.
Akā ʻo ʻoe iho i hoʻomaka me ke kālā. Eia kekahi, ua hoʻolaha lākou: ʻekolu mau manawa o ka loaʻa kālā ma mua o kāu. ʻAʻole ʻelua a me ka hapa, ʻaʻole ʻehā…
— ʻAe, he aha ka hewa?
— He mea pono i ka wa e imi ana ka wahine me ka manao maikai ia ia iho i ke kane like me ia. ʻO ia wale nō.
PILL HAUOLI
Hele mākaukau kekahi poʻe i ka papa. Ma hope o ke aʻo ʻana i nā lula a me ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hahai iā lākou, nīnau ke kaikamahine i kahi nīnau: ʻoi aku ia ma mua o 30, ua hui pū ʻo ia me kahi kāne ʻōpio no ʻelua a me ka hapa makahiki, akā hōʻole ʻo ia e kamaʻilio koʻikoʻi e pili ana i nā keiki a me ka male - ʻo ia. hiki ke hoʻomaka i ka launa pū me kekahi i ka manawa like? Ke hele nei kekahi mea.
ʻakaʻaka ka poʻe hoʻolohe - ʻo ka hoʻāʻo e loaʻa i ka indulgence me he mea lā he naʻaupō. He lokahi ka hale: kani aloha i ka pane ʻana i kekahi mau moʻolelo, ʻūhū i nā moʻolelo ʻē aʻe. Hele mai ka poʻe hoʻolohe i ka manawa like: i kahi haʻiʻōlelo no ka haʻalele ʻana i nā pilina neurotic ma mua, i kahi haʻiʻōlelo e pili ana i ka manaʻo ponoʻī - lohi loa. Ma ke ala, ʻo ka haʻiʻōlelo e pili ana i ka hana ʻana i kahi papahana kūleʻa mai kou manaʻo ponoʻī e hōʻiliʻili i ka nui o nā kāne - 10 mau kānaka mai kahi lumi o 150 mau kānaka.
Hele mākou i nā haʻi'ōlelo lehulehu no ke kumu hoʻokahi a kokoke i 30 mau makahiki i hala aku nei ua ʻākoakoa ko mākou mau mākua ma nā pā TV e nānā i nā kau o Kashpirovsky. Makemake wau i kahi hana mana, kahi ho'ōla wikiwiki, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, ka hoʻopau ʻana i nā pilikia āpau i hoʻokahi aʻo.
Ma ke kumu, hiki kēia ke hahai ʻoe i nā lula ʻeono. A ʻae mākou i kekahi o nā mea a mākou i lohe ai me ka hauʻoli: i ka honua, i ka wā e kāhea aku ai nā mea a pau e haʻalele i ka wahi hōʻoluʻolu, e hoʻoikaika iā ʻoe iho, ʻōlelo ikaika ʻo Labkovsky e hana ʻole i kēia. ʻAʻole makemake e hele i ka hale haʻuki? No laila, mai hele! A "ʻaʻole wau i hoʻoikaika iaʻu iho, akā ua manaʻo wau i ka piʻi ʻana o ka ikehu" - hana ʻino iā ʻoe iho.
Wahi a Michael i ka mea e pono ai ka hapa nui o mākou e lohe: aloha iā ʻoe iho e like me ʻoe.
Akā, i nā hihia "haʻalele ʻole", ʻōlelo ʻo Mikhail: pono mākou e hana me kahi psychologist (ma kekahi mau hihia, he neurologist, psychotherapist a psychiatrist). I ka lohe ʻana i kēia, nui ka poʻe i huhū: ʻoi aku ka nui o ka helu ʻana no ka hana mana koke, ʻo ka manaʻoʻiʻo i kahi "pill for everything".
ʻOiai kēia, hoʻomau nā haʻi'ōlelo e hōʻiliʻili i nā keʻena nui, ʻaʻole wale ma Moscow: aia kāna mau mea hoʻolohe ponoʻī ma Riga a me Kiev, Yekaterinburg, St. Petersburg a me nā kūlanakauhale ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole hoʻomaikaʻi iki i kona ʻano, ʻoluʻolu, ʻakaʻaka. A ʻo kēia mau hālāwai e kōkua i nā poʻe e hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole ʻo lākou wale nō i loko o ko lākou mau pilikia, he mea maʻamau ka mea e hana nei iā lākou i manaʻo ʻia he mea maʻamau hou.
“He manaʻo hoihoi: ʻokoʻa nā kānaka a pau, ʻokoʻa nā ʻano o kēlā me kēia kanaka, a ua like nā nīnau! — kaʻana like Ksenia, 39 makahiki. "No ka mea like a mākou e mālama nei. A he mea nui kēia: e hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole ʻoe wale nō. A ʻaʻohe pono e hoʻopuka i kāu nīnau i loko o ka microphone - ʻoiaʻiʻo, i ka wā o ka haʻiʻōlelo, e hana nā mea ʻē aʻe iā ʻoe, a e loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi pane.
“Maikaʻi ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana he mea maʻamau ka makemake ʻole e mare! A ʻaʻole e ʻimi i kāu "hopena wahine" he mea maʻamau nō hoʻi," ʻae ʻo Vera, 33 mau makahiki.
ʻIke ʻia ʻo Michael e ʻōlelo nei i ka mea e pono ai ka hapa nui o ka poʻe e lohe: e aloha iā ʻoe iho e like me ʻoe. ʻOiaʻiʻo, aia ka hana ma hope o kēia, a ʻo ka hana a ʻaʻole paha ke kuleana o kēlā me kēia.