Hoʻonohonoho ʻia ʻoe no kahi ola hoihoi lōʻihi me kāu mea aloha. ʻAʻole naʻe lākou i maopopo i ke koʻikoʻi a me ka hohonu o kona ʻano iā ʻoe. He aha nā hōʻailona e hōʻike ai ʻaʻole i pau ka manaʻo ʻoiaʻiʻo i kāu hoa? Haʻi ʻia e ka mea kākau ʻo Wendy Patrick.
Ua pāʻani paha ʻoe i kēia pāʻani ma ka liʻiliʻi hoʻokahi: noho ʻoe me kahi hoaaloha i loko o kahi cafe a hoʻāʻo e noʻonoʻo i ke ʻano o ka pilina o nā kāne ma nā papaʻaina kokoke. No ka laʻana, ʻaʻole i wehe nā mea ʻelua ma ka puka makani i ka papa kuhikuhi - ua aloha nui lāua kekahi i kekahi a ʻaʻole hoʻomanaʻo i ke kumu i hele mai ai lākou. Hoʻokuʻu ʻia kā lākou mau kelepona i ka ʻaoʻao, e hiki ai iā lākou ke hoʻokokoke i kekahi i kekahi a kamaʻilio me ka ʻole o ke keakea. ʻO kēia paha kā lākou lā mua a i ʻole ka hoʻomaka ʻana o kahi pilina aloha…
ʻO ka ʻokoʻa loa i kēia poʻe laki, aia kekahi kāne ʻelemakule e kū kokoke ana i ka lumi kuke (ke wikiwiki nei paha lākou a makemake e kiʻi wikiwiki i kā lākou meaʻai). ʻAʻole lāua e kamaʻilio kekahi i kekahi a me he mea lā ʻaʻole lāua i ʻike kekahi i kekahi ʻoiai e noho pū ana lāua. Hiki ke manaʻo ʻia ua male lāua no ka manawa lōʻihi, paʻakikī lāua ʻelua i ka lohe ʻana a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi i ka hāmau (ʻo ka wehewehe ʻoi loa!). A i ʻole ke hele nei lākou i kahi wā paʻakikī i ka pilina i kēia manawa. Ma ke ala, ʻaʻohe o lākou kelepona ma ka papaʻaina, akā no ke kumu ʻē aʻe: ʻaʻole lākou e kali hou i nā kelepona a me nā leka ma ka hana, a ʻaʻole wikiwiki nā hoaaloha e hoʻomanaʻo iā lākou iho.
Eia nō naʻe, ʻoi aku ka hoihoi iā ʻoe o kēia kāne ʻelemakule, ʻoiai inā ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina lōʻihi. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hilinaʻi a hāwanawana i kou hoa, "E hōʻoia kāua ʻaʻole e hiki mai kēia iā kāua." Akā pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai inā e neʻe ana ʻoe ma ke ala pololei? Eia kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻoholo i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka hohonu o ka manaʻo o kāu hoa.
ʻO ka hoihoi maoli a pau ʻole
Inā ʻoe i hui no ʻelua mahina a ʻelua makahiki paha, makemake maoli kāu hoa i kāu manaʻo, makemake e ʻōlelo, a i ʻole e hana nei. He mea nui iā ia ka mea āu i moemoeā ai a i manaʻolana ai, ʻo ia hoʻi, e hoʻoikaika ʻo ia e hoʻokō i kāu mau iini.
ʻO ka noiʻi a Sandra Langeslag a me kāna mau hoa hana e hōʻike ana i ka poʻe i makemake nui iā ʻoe e hoihoi i kekahi ʻike e pili ana i kou ola, ʻoiai nā kikoʻī liʻiliʻi loa. Ke aʻo ʻana i kēia ʻike, hoʻomanaʻo lākou i nā mea āpau. Ua wehewehe ʻo ia he hopena koʻikoʻi ka hauʻoli e pili ana i ke aloha aloha i nā kaʻina hana cognitive.
ʻOiai ua aloha ka poʻe i komo i ke aʻo ʻana no kahi manawa pōkole, manaʻo nā mea kākau ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻomanaʻo ʻia kēlā ʻano hoʻomanaʻo a me ka nānā pono ʻana i ka wā mua. Manaʻo ʻo Sandra Langeslag a me kāna mau hoa ʻo kēlā mau hoa i male no nā makahiki he nui a aloha nui kekahi i kekahi e hōʻike pū ana i ka ʻike e pili ana i kā lākou mea aloha, ʻo ke ʻano wale nō ka mea i ʻokoʻa ma laila.
Hōʻike nā hoa hoʻolohe i kā lākou kūpaʻa ma ka hōʻike ʻana i ka manaʻo maoli no kou ola ma waho o ka home.
No ka mea i loko o kahi pilina lōʻihi, ʻaʻole ia he hauʻoli e hiki mai ana i mua, akā he manaʻo o ke aloha a me ka ʻike hui, ʻo ia ka ʻike i hōʻiliʻili ʻia e hana nui i ka hoihoi i ka ʻike e pili ana i ka wahine.
ʻO kekahi nīnau pehea e hoʻopau ai nā hoa i kēia ʻike i loaʻa. Hōʻike kēia i ko lākou pilina maoli kekahi i kekahi. Makemake ke kanaka aloha e hoʻohauʻoli iā ʻoe. Hoʻohana ikaika ʻo ia i ka ʻike e pili ana iā ʻoe (ka mea āu e makemake ai, mai nā leʻaleʻa i ke mele a i nā meaʻai punahele) i mea e leʻaleʻa ai ʻoe a leʻaleʻa pū me ʻoe.
Hōʻike nā hoa pili i ka pilina lōʻihi i ke kūpaʻa ʻana ma ke komo maoli ʻana i kou ola ma waho o ka home. Makemake lākou e ʻike i ka hele ʻana o ke kamaʻilio paʻakikī me ka luna i kēia pule, a i ʻole ʻoluʻolu ʻoe i ka hui me ke kaʻi hou. Nīnau lākou e pili ana i nā hoaaloha a me nā hoahana a lākou i ʻike ai ma ka inoa no ka mea makemake lākou iā ʻoe a me kou ola.
Hoike Aloha
ʻO kahi hoa hana e haʻi pinepine i kona laki i ka hālāwai ʻana me ʻoe a noho pū me ʻoe, ʻoi aku paha, ʻo ia kona manaʻo. Pili mau kēia ʻōlelo hoʻomaikaʻi, e hōʻike ana e aloha mau ana ʻo ia iā ʻoe. E ʻoluʻolu, ʻaʻole pili kēia ʻike i ke ʻano o kou nānā ʻana, he aha nā talena i hāʻawi ʻia iā ʻoe, inā e hāʻule ana nā mea āpau mai kou mau lima i kēia lā a ʻaʻole paha. E pili ana kēia iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he kanaka - a ʻo kēia ka hoʻomaikaʻi maikaʻi loa o nā mea āpau.
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Hāʻawi ʻia i nā hōʻailona ma luna aʻe, maʻalahi ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana e hoʻomana mau ka hoa iā ʻoe. Akā ʻo nā moʻolelo lōʻihi e pili ana i ke aloha, ka mahalo a me ke kūpaʻa ʻana, ʻaʻole hiki ke kū ʻole. ʻO ka hapanui pinepine, hōʻike lākou i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana o nā hoa ʻelua e mālama i kahi pilina olakino. A ʻo ka hana nui ma kēia mālama akahele o kāu hui e pāʻani ʻia e ka hoihoi, ka nānā ʻana, ka ʻae a me ka mahalo kekahi i kekahi.
E pili ana i ka mea kākau: ʻO Wendy Patrick ka mea kākau o Red Flags: Pehea e ʻike ai i nā hoa hoʻopunipuni, nā Saboteurs, a me nā poʻe ʻino.