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- 1. Kōkua ka huhū iā ʻoe e hoʻoponopono i nā manaʻo o ka mana ʻole.
- 2. He alakaʻi ka huhū no ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana ʻaʻole mākou makemake i ka mea e hana nei
- 3. ʻO ka huhū ka wahie no ka hoʻokō ʻana i nā hana
- 4. Hōʻike ka huhū iā mākou i ko mākou ʻokoʻa mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
- 5. ʻO ka huhū e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kū a kaua aku.
Ua aʻo ʻia mākou mai ka wā kamaliʻi: "ʻino ka huhū." He nui ka poʻe o mākou i maʻa i ke kāohi ʻana i ko mākou huhū a aneane poina mākou i ka manaʻo. Akā ʻo ka huhū ko mākou ikaika. Ma ka hōʻole ʻana, hoʻonele mākou iā mākou iho i ka ikaika e pono ai ke ola piha, wahi a psychologist Maria Vernik.
ʻO ka huhū a me ka ikaika mai ka kumu hoʻokahi, nona ka inoa ʻo ka ikehu. Akā, inā makemake mākou i ka ikaika i loko o mākou iho, a laila mai ka wā kamaliʻi ua aʻo ʻia mākou mai aloha i ka huhū. Me he mea lā e alakaʻi i nā paio a me nā hakakā. ʻO ka hōʻike ʻana i ka huhū hiki ke hoʻopōʻino. Akā ma waena o ka huhū noʻonoʻo a me ka noho mālie, nui nā manawa e hōʻike ai i ka huhū.
ʻAʻole like ka manaʻo huhū a me ka huhū. 'Ōleloʻia nā keiki: "Hiki iāʻoe ke huhū, akā,ʻaʻole e hakakā," e kaʻana like i ko lākou mau manaʻo a me nā hana.
"Hiki iā ʻoe ke huhū" - Hoʻomanaʻo pinepine wau iaʻu iho i kēia huaʻōlelo, e like me nā poʻe a pau i ulu i loko o kahi hui me ka pāpā ʻana i ka huhū.
Me ka huhūʻole,ʻaʻoleʻoe e loiloi i ke kūlana o ka hanaʻino e like me ka hanaʻino,ʻaʻoleʻoe e puka i waho i ka manawa
He mea maikaʻi ka manaʻo huhū, inā e ʻike wale i ka mea e hana nei i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. E noʻonoʻo ua nalowale ʻoe i ka ʻeha. Ke hele nei ʻoe i kahi umu wela, e loaʻa iā ʻoe ke ahi nui, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻōla a aʻo i ka pale ʻana i ka umu.
Eia kekahi, me ka huhū ʻole, ʻaʻole ʻoe e loiloi i ke kūlana o ka hana ʻino e like me ka hana ʻino, ʻaʻole ʻoe e puka i waho i ka manawa a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho i ke kōkua psychological mua ma hope o ka mea i hana ʻia.
ʻO ka mea'ē aʻe,ʻo ke kanaka, i hui pū me kona huhū, hoʻokaʻawale i nā kūlana o ka hanaʻino ma muli o kaʻoiaʻiʻo i loko o ia mau mea e maopopo ai kona huhū. ʻAʻoleʻo ia e hāʻawi i kona huhū no ka pilina a iʻole ka "kiʻi pono'ī."
I ka laʻana kuni, ua nalowale ka pilina ma waena o nā mea ʻeha a me ka lolo e hana ana i ka hōʻailona mai nā mea loaʻa. ʻO ke kanaka i pāpā ʻia ʻaʻole e hōʻike i kona huhū a ua hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻia i ka manawa like (heʻe, paʻi, hahau, ʻeleʻele, hoʻoweliweli) lōʻihi ka manawa hoʻopili hou i ka pilina ma waena o ka huhū a me ka ʻae ʻana i kēlā manaʻo. "ʻAʻole au e hōʻole hou i koʻu huhū" he hoʻoholo i hiki ke hana ma ke ala.
ʻO ka hana mua e hoʻohui hou me kou huhū, a no laila ka ikaika, ʻo ia ke ʻike i kou huhū.
Inā ua "off" ka huhū, ua hoʻokaʻawale mākou i nā mea e hana nei iā mākou, i loko o mākou iho a i ka launa pū ʻana me kekahi kanaka. "Malia paha ua noʻonoʻo wau no ke aha wau e ʻōlelo ai i kekahi mea i ka mea kamaʻilio?" — e ala mai ana keia kanalua ke maopopo ole ia'u he huhu ko'u manao. ʻO ka wahi o ka huhū ʻike ʻole e noho ʻia e ka manaʻo o ka hopohopo, hopohopo, ʻike ʻia ke kūlana he leʻaleʻa, makemake ʻoe e holo mai ia. I ka manawa like, ʻaʻole maopopo loa ka mea e hana ai, no ka mea, ʻaʻole maopopo ka huhū.
ʻO ka hana mua e hui hou ai me kou huhū, a no laila ʻo ka ikaika, ʻo ia ka ʻike ʻana i kou huhū: pehea, pehea, i nā kūlana e hōʻike ai iā ia iho. ʻO ka hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kou huhū i ka wā e ala mai ai me he mea lā he ala nui e hālāwai ai i kou mana nalowale. Manaʻo i ka huhū a hoʻomau i ka manaʻo.
Ma ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana i ka huhū ʻole, ʻike mākou e ʻoki ʻoi aku ma mua o ka huhū wale nō: nalowale mākou i kahi hapa nui o mākou iho. Me ka nui o ko mākou ikaika, nele paha mākou i ka ikaika e hana i nā mea maʻalahi.
E nānā kākou i ʻelima mau kumu i "maikaʻi" ai ka huhū.
1. Kōkua ka huhū iā ʻoe e hoʻoponopono i nā manaʻo o ka mana ʻole.
ʻO nā ʻōlelo a mākou e ʻōlelo ai iā mākou iho, pono i kēlā me kēia makahiki: "hiki iaʻu", "ʻO wau iho", "E hana wau" he mau hōʻike ia o ko mākou ikaika. ʻO ka manaʻo e pili ana au i ke ola, me nā mea pili, ʻaʻole wau makaʻu e ʻōlelo a hana, hiki iaʻu ke ʻike i ka manaʻo ponoʻī, hilinaʻi iaʻu iho, manaʻo i koʻu mana.
2. He alakaʻi ka huhū no ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana ʻaʻole mākou makemake i ka mea e hana nei
ʻOiai inā ʻaʻole i loaʻa iā mākou ka manawa e hoʻomaopopo me ko mākou mau manaʻo ua loli ke kūlana, ua ʻōlelo mua ko mākou huhū: "Ua hewa kekahi mea, ʻaʻole kūpono iaʻu." Loaʻa iā mākou ka manawa kūpono e hoʻololi i ke kūlana o nā mea e hoʻoweliweli i ko mākou pono.
3. ʻO ka huhū ka wahie no ka hoʻokō ʻana i nā hana
Ke hoʻomanaʻo nei ʻoe i nā hihia i kōkua ai ka ʻuhane hakakā, kahi paʻakikī a i ʻole ka hoʻomāinoino ʻana i nā hopena maikaʻi? No ka laʻana, huhū i kekahi, hana ʻoe i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ma ka hanu hoʻokahi.
Inā ʻoe e nānā ākea i ka huhū, lilo ia i mana kupua e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻohuli i nā manaʻo i mau hana, a me nā manaʻo i nā huahana. ʻAʻole kōkua ka huhū i ka moeʻuhane, akā e hoʻokomo. E hoʻomaka i kahi mea hou, e hoʻomau a hoʻopau i kāu mea i hoʻomaka ai. E lanakila i nā pilikia. Hana ʻia kēia mau mea e ko mākou ikaika, i hoʻomaka pololei i kekahi manawa me ka huhū. Lawe ʻia mai ka hoʻokūkū, manaʻo lili a kūʻē paha.
4. Hōʻike ka huhū iā mākou i ko mākou ʻokoʻa mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
ʻO ka huhū ka ikaika o ke kaʻawale. Hiki iā mākou ke nīnau i kā mākou mau lepili a ʻimi i ko mākou manaʻo ponoʻī. Ke aʻo ʻana i kahi mea hou, huhū paha mākou: "ʻAʻole, ʻaʻole kūpono kēia iaʻu." I kēia manawa, aia kahi manawa e ʻike ai i kāu ʻoiaʻiʻo, e hoʻomohala i kāu mau manaʻoʻiʻo, e hoʻomaka ana mai "ka ʻaoʻao".
ʻO ka huhū e hāʻawi iā mākou i kēlā ikaika, me ka ʻole o ka hiki ʻole ke haʻalele i ka semolina i hoʻokahi makahiki a haʻalele i ko mākou mau mākua i ka iwakālua. ʻO ka ikaika o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana (huhū) hiki iā ʻoe ke nānā mālie i ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o kou kūlana a me nā kūlana ʻē aʻe. Hiki ke ʻokoʻa kekahi, a hiki iaʻu iho. A ʻaʻole kēia manaʻo ʻaʻole pili ka huhū a me nā pilina. Hiki iaʻu ke huhū, hiki i kekahi ke huhū mai iaʻu, hōʻike mākou i ko mākou huhū, ʻaʻole ia e hōʻiliʻili a ʻaʻole pahū.. ʻO kēia ka mea e kōkua iā mākou e hoʻomau i ka pilina ma keʻanoʻoiaʻiʻo, e like me ia, me nā hauʻoli a me nā mea hoʻonāukiuki a pau i loko o kekahi pilina.
5. ʻO ka huhū e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kū a kaua aku.
ʻO ka hiki ke pale i kou mau pono he makana pololei o ka huhū. ʻO ka huhū e hiki ai iā mākou ke pale i ka hewa, kūponoʻole no mākou e kamaʻilio iā mākou iho, me ka nānāʻole i ke kiʻekiʻe o ka pilina me ka mea hakakā a me nā kūlana o ke ola. Hāʻawi ia iā ʻoe i ke kuleana e pale i kou kino a me kou ʻuhane, ka hiki ke wehewehe, kū i kou ʻāina, koi, hakakā.
I ka hōʻuluʻulu ʻana, ʻo ke kāohi ʻana i ka huhū i loko o mākou iho he ala i ke kaumaha, ʻoiai mākou e hoʻonele iā mākou iho i ka ikehu. Maikaʻi ka huhū ke ʻike a hoʻomaopopo ʻia, ʻaʻole pili i ke ʻano o kā mākou koho e hōʻike ai. ʻO ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka mea a ka huhū e haʻi mai nei iā mākou, maopopo mākou i ko mākou ola i loko a aʻo i ka hana maoli.
ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke nānā wale i ko mākou huhū ma ke ʻano he ikaika luku a hiki ʻole ke hoʻopaʻa ʻia, akā lawe pū kekahi i nā pilikia a aʻo e hoʻohana i ka ikaika o ka huhū e hōʻike, neʻe a hōʻike iā mākou iho.