"Inā ʻaʻole kōkua ke keiki a puni ka hale, ʻaʻole ʻo ia e ulu"

Manaʻo nā mākua i kā lākou mau keiki i ke aʻo ʻana a me nā hana hoʻomohala, i ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i nā mākau naʻauao. A no kēia, ua hoʻokuʻu ʻia lākou mai nā hana a pau o ka hale - "e aʻo ʻo ia, e hana i kahi ʻoihana, a ma hope ke koena." Akā ʻo ke komo mau ʻana i nā hana maʻamau o ka ʻohana e hiki ai i ke keiki ke ulu.

ʻO ke keiki hana hale e ʻoi aku ka lanakila ma ke ola, wahi a Kauka Marilyn Rossman. Eia kekahi, no ka poʻe kūleʻa loa, ʻike ʻia nā hana o ka home i ka makahiki ʻekolu a ʻehā paha. A ʻo ka poʻe i hoʻomaka e hana i kekahi mea a puni ka hale wale nō i ko lākou ʻōpio ʻaʻole i kūleʻa.

ʻOiai ʻaʻole pono i ke keiki ke mop i ka papahele a i ʻole ka kuke ʻana i ka ʻaina kakahiaka, pono nō ʻo ia e hana i kekahi mea a puni ka hale, ʻike pehea e hana ai, a loaʻa ka ʻae makua no kāna haʻawina. Hoʻokumu kēia i ke ala kūpono i ka hana, i mea pono i ka wahi hana a me ke ola kaiaulu.

Nā mākau hana kumu

Eia nā mākau nui a me nā mākau ola a Julia Lithcott-Hames i ʻōlelo ai e pili ana i ka puka hoʻonaʻauao mana ʻohana Family Education Network.

I ka makahiki ʻekolu, pono ke keiki:

- kōkua i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe i nā mea pāʻani

- kaʻaʻahu kūʻokoʻa a wehe ʻole (me ke kōkua mai kahi kanaka makua);

- kōkua e hoʻonohonoho i ka papaʻaina;

- palaki i kou mau niho a holoi i kou maka me ke kōkua o ke kanaka makua.

Ma ka makahiki ʻelima:

- hana i nā hana hoʻomaʻemaʻe maʻalahi, e like me ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana i ka lepo a me ka holoi ʻana i ka papaʻaina;

- hānai holoholona;

— palaki i kou mau niho, pulu i kou lauoho a holoi i kou maka me ke kokua ole;

- kōkua me ka holoi lole, no ka laʻana, lawe iā lākou i kahi holoi.

Ma ka makahiki ʻehiku:

- kōkua i ka kuke ʻana (hoʻoulu, hoʻoluliluli a ʻoki ʻia me ka pahi ʻōpala);

- hoʻomākaukau i nā meaʻai maʻalahi, no ka laʻana, hana i nā sandwiches;

— Kōkua i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana i ka meaʻai

- holoi i nā kīʻaha;

- hoʻohana palekana i nā mea hoʻomaʻemaʻe maʻalahi;

- hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka lua ma hope o ka hoʻohana ʻana;

- hana i ka moe me ke kōkua ʻole.

Ma ka makahiki ʻeiwa:

— pelu lole

- aʻo i nā ʻenehana humuhumu maʻalahi;

- e mālama i ke kaʻa kaʻa a i ʻole nā ​​kāmaʻa holo wāwae;

- hoʻohana pono i ka pulumu a me ka lepo;

- hiki ke heluhelu i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a kuke i nā meaʻai maʻalahi;

- kōkua i nā hana mahiʻai maʻalahi, e like me ka hoʻoinu ʻana a me ka weeding;

- lawe i ka ʻōpala.

Ma ka makahiki 13:

- hele i ka hale kūʻai a kūʻai iā ʻoe iho;

- hoʻololi i nā pepa

- hoʻohana i ka mea holoi ipu a me ka mea maloʻo;

- palai a hoʻomoʻa i ka umu;

- hao;

- ʻoki i ka mauʻu a hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka pā;

— E malama i na kaikaina a me na kaikuahine.

Ma ka makahiki 18:

- e hoʻomaʻamaʻa maikaʻi i nā mea a pau i luna;

- e hana i nā hana hoʻomaʻemaʻe paʻakikī a me ka mālama ʻana, e like me ka hoʻololi ʻana i ka ʻeke i loko o ka mīkini hoʻomaʻemaʻe, hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka umu a me ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana i ka ʻauwai;

- hoʻomākaukau i ka meaʻai a hoʻomākaukau i nā kīʻaha paʻakikī.

Malia paha, ma hope o ka heluhelu ʻana i kēia papa inoa, e weliweli ʻoe. Nui nā kuleana i loko o ia mea a mākou e hana ai iā mākou iho, ma kahi o ka hāʻawi ʻana iā lākou i nā keiki. ʻO ka mea mua, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi iā mākou: e hana wikiwiki mākou a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, a ʻo ka lua, makemake mākou e kōkua iā lākou a manaʻo i ka ʻike, mana loa.

Akā ʻo ka wikiwiki o kā mākou hoʻomaka ʻana e aʻo i nā keiki i ka hana, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ka lohe ʻana mai iā lākou i ka wā ʻōpio: "No ke aha ʻoe e koi mai nei iaʻu? Inā he mau mea koʻikoʻi kēia, no ke aha lā wau i hana ʻole ai i kēia ma mua?

E hoʻomanaʻo i ka hoʻolālā lōʻihi i hoʻāʻo ʻia e ka ʻepekema no ka hoʻomohala ʻana i nā mākau i nā keiki:

— hana mua makou no ke keiki;

- a laila e hana me ia;

- a laila e nānā i kāna hana ʻana;

— ʻo ka hope, hana kaʻawale loa ke keiki.

ʻEono kānāwai o ka hoʻonaʻauao hana

ʻAʻole i lohi ka hana hou ʻana, a inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i maʻa i kāu keiki i ka hana, a laila e hoʻomaka e hana i kēia manawa. Hāʻawi ʻo Julia Lythcott-Hames i ʻeono mau lula o ka hana no nā mākua.

1. E hoʻohālike

Mai hoʻouna i kāu keiki e hana i ka wā e moe ana ʻoe ma luna o kahi moe. Pono nā lālā a pau o ka ʻohana, me ka nānā ʻole i ka makahiki, ke kāne a me ke kūlana, i ka hana a me ke kōkua. E ʻike nā keiki i kāu hana. E noi iā lākou e hui pū. Inā 'oe e hana i kekahi mea i loko o ka lumi kuke, ma ka pā hale a i loko o ka hale kaʻa - e kelepona i ke keiki: "Makemake au i kou kōkua."

2. Manaʻolana i ke kōkua mai kāu keiki

ʻAʻole ka makua ke kōkua pilikino o ka haumāna, akā ʻo ke kumu mua. I kekahi manawa, mālama nui mākou i ka leʻaleʻa o ke keiki. Akā, pono mākou e hoʻomākaukau i nā keiki no ke kanaka makua, kahi e pono ai kēia mau mākau a pau iā lākou. ʻAʻole paha ʻoliʻoli ke keiki i ka ukana hou - ʻaʻohe kānalua e makemake ʻo ia e kanu iā ia iho ma ke kelepona a i ʻole e noho pū me nā hoaaloha, akā ʻo ka hana ʻana i kāu mau hana e hāʻawi iā ia i ka manaʻo o kona pono a me kona waiwai.

3. Mai kala mai a hele i nā wehewehe pono ʻole

He kuleana a he kuleana ko ka makua e noi aku i kāna keiki no ke kōkua ma nā hana o ka hale. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e wehewehe pau ʻole i ke kumu āu e noi nei i kēia, a e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻoe ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia, akā pono ʻoe e hana, e hoʻoikaika ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoluʻolu e nīnau iā ia. ʻO ka wehewehe nui ʻana e hoʻohālike iā ʻoe me he mea lā e hoʻopiʻi nei ʻoe. Hoʻopilikia wale ia i kou hilinaʻi. E hāʻawi wale i kāu keiki i kahi hana hiki iā ia ke mālama. E ʻōhumu iki paha ʻo ia, akā i ka wā e hiki mai ana e mahalo ʻo ia iā ʻoe.

4. Hāʻawi i nā kuhikuhi pololei a pololei

Inā he mea hou ka hana, e hoʻokaʻawale iā ia i nā ʻanuʻu maʻalahi. E haʻi pololei i ka mea e hana ai, a laila e haʻalele. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e lele i luna. E hōʻoia wale ʻoe e hoʻopau i ka hana. E ho'āʻo, hāʻule a hoʻāʻo hou. E ninau: "E hai mai ia'u i ka wa i makaukau ai, a e hele mai au e ike." A laila, inā ʻaʻole pilikia ka hihia a ʻaʻole pono ka nānā ʻana, haʻalele.

5. Mahalo me ke kaohi

Ke hana nā keiki i nā mea maʻalahi - lawe i ka ʻōpala, hoʻomaʻemaʻe iā lākou iho mai ka papaʻaina, hānai i ka ʻīlio - hoʻomaikaʻi nui mākou iā lākou: "Maikaʻi! He akamai ʻoe! ʻO kahi maʻalahi, aloha, hilinaʻi "mahalo" a i ʻole "ua hana maikaʻi ʻoe" ua lawa. E mālama i nā hoʻomaikaʻi nui no nā manawa i hoʻokō maoli ai ke keiki i kahi mea maʻamau, ʻoi aku iā ia iho.

ʻOiai inā ua hana maikaʻi ʻia ka hana, hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi i ke keiki i nā mea e hiki ke hoʻomaikaʻi ʻia: no laila i kekahi lā e hana ia. Hiki ke hāʻawi ʻia kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻo: "Inā ʻoe e paʻa i ka bākeke e like me kēia, ʻaʻole e hāʻule ka ʻōpala mai loko mai." A i ʻole: “E ʻike i ke kāʻei o kou pālule hina? No kou holoi ʻana me ka jeans hou. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka holoi ʻana i nā jeans i ka manawa mua, inā ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻopau i nā mea ʻē aʻe.

Ma hope o kēlā, ʻakaʻaka - ʻaʻole ʻoe huhū, akā aʻo - a hoʻi i kāu ʻoihana. Inā hoʻomaʻamaʻa kāu keiki i ke kōkua ʻana a puni ka hale a hana iā ia iho, e hōʻike iā ia i kāu mea e ʻike ai a mahalo i kāna hana.

6. Hana i kahi hana maʻamau

Inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e hana ʻia kekahi mau mea i kēlā me kēia lā, ʻo nā mea ʻē aʻe i kēlā me kēia pule, a ʻo nā mea ʻē aʻe i kēlā me kēia kau, e maʻa nā keiki i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo i loko o ke ola aia kekahi mea e hana ai.

Inā ʻoe e haʻi i kahi keiki, "E hoʻolohe, makemake wau e hele ʻoe i ka ʻoihana a kōkua," a kōkua iā ia e hana i kahi mea paʻakikī, ma hope o ka manawa e hoʻomaka ʻo ia e kōkua i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.