A hiki i kēia manawa, paʻakikī e noʻonoʻo i kahi kāne i ka haʻalele makua. A i kēia manawa ke kamaʻilio nui ʻia nei kēia kumuhana. ʻO wai e hoʻoholo i kēia - henpecked, loafer a i ʻole eccentric? "He makuakāne maʻamau, ʻaʻole wau ʻike i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe i kēia kūlana," i ʻōlelo ʻo Intars Busulis, mea mele, i komo i ka hōʻike "Three Chords", makuakāne o ʻehā mau keiki. I hoʻokahi manawa, noho ʻo ia i hoʻokahi makahiki i ka home me kāna keiki hānau hou.
7 September 2019
“Noʻu iho kahi ʻohana nui. ʻElua oʻu kaikuahine a me ʻelua mau kaikunāne. Ua launa maikaʻi mākou me kekahi, ʻaʻohe manawa e wehewehe ai i ka pilina, pili mau mākou i ka ʻoihana: ke kula mele, ke kaha kiʻi ʻana, nā hulahula ʻōiwi, ʻaʻole mākou i kau paikikala - ʻaʻohe manawa, - hoʻomanaʻo ʻo Intars. - ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke ʻōlelo ua moemoeā wau e loaʻa ana kaʻu mau keiki he nui, akā ʻaʻole naʻe ia e makaʻu iaʻu. He maikaʻi ke loaʻa nā kaikaina a me nā kaikuahine. Aia kekahi kanaka kokoke iā ʻoe e huli ai, e kūkākūkā i kekahi mea.
ʻO 23 wau i ka manawa a kaʻu wahine a me kā mākou keiki mua. ʻAʻole wau i manaʻo ua wanaʻao. Akā i kēia manawa he 17 mau makahiki ʻo Lenny, a ʻo wau nō ʻōpio (41 mau makahiki ʻo Busulis. - Approx. "Antenna"). I ka hānau ʻia o kaʻu keikikāne, lawelawe wau i ka pūʻali koa, hoʻokani i ka trombone i ka orchestra o ka National Armed Forces o Latvia. Akā ma muli o nā kūlike ʻole me nā luna, ua hoʻokuʻu ʻia wau. Ua hala wau i kahi hana no hoʻokahi makahiki. Ua mākaukau e lawe i kekahi, akā ʻaʻole i loaʻa. A he keiki liʻiliʻi māua ʻo Inga, hoʻolimalima hale, i kēia manawa hoʻokahi hale noho, a ʻo kekahi ʻē aʻe. Ua paʻakikī nā kūlana: ma kekahi wahi ʻaʻohe wai, pono e hoʻomehana ʻia kekahi me ka wahie. ʻO kaʻu wahine wale nō kai hana. He wahine lawelawe ʻo Inga i ka hale ʻaina hōkele. ʻAʻole wale ʻo ia i loaʻa, akā lawe pū mai i ka meaʻai i ka home. Ua maikaʻi ia manawa. No laila hāʻawi mau ʻia mākou i ka ʻāina kakahiaka ”.
ʻO Intars me ke kaikamahine hiapo ʻo Amelia.
“Ua hana kaʻu wahine, a hana wau me kaʻu keiki. ʻAʻole wau i manaʻo he pilikia naʻu iho, kahi kūlana weliweli, ʻo ia wale nō nā ʻano. ʻAe, he mau kūpuna ko mākou, akā ʻaʻole mākou i huli iā lākou no ke kōkua, ua like mākou penei: inā ʻaʻohe kumu koʻikoʻi, kūleʻa mau mākou iā mākou iho. Ua nānā nui mai nā makuahine me nā keiki iaʻu? Aʻole maopopo. ʻAʻole wau i noʻonoʻo e pili ana, ʻaʻohe oʻu paʻakikī e pili ana iā ia. Akā ua loaʻa iaʻu ka manawa kūpono e hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa me kaʻu keikikāne, e nānā pehea e ulu ai, hoʻololi, aʻo e hele wāwae, ʻōlelo. Ma ke ala, ʻo ka huaʻōlelo mua āna i hoʻopuka ai he tetis, ʻo ia hoʻi "papa" i ka Latvian.
ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu ke kumu e manaʻo ai kekahi e hoʻohaʻahaʻa ke kāne e noho ma ka home me kahi keiki. Hōʻoiaʻiʻo wau he mea maʻalahi iaʻu i kēia manawa ke pāʻani i kahi ʻahamele no 11 mau kānaka ma mua o ka noho ʻana i hoʻokahi lā me kahi pēpē ma ka home wale nō. Huki ke keiki iā ʻoe ma nā wahi āpau: koi paha kekahi i ka meaʻai, a laila pāʻani me ia, a laila pono ʻoe e hānai iā ia, a laila e hoʻomoe iā ia. A pono ʻoe e makaʻala mau. “
I Malaki 2018, lilo ʻo Busulis i makua kāne no ka hā o ka manawa. Me kāna keiki ʻo Janis.
"Mai ka 2004, hiki i nā kāne ma Latvia ke haʻalele i ka wā hānau makuahine. Ma waena o kaʻu poʻe kamaʻāina aia kekahi i hoʻohana i kēia kuleana. Naʻu iho e hana me ka leʻaleʻa, inā pono. ʻOiai aia nō kekahi e manaʻo nei: he kāne wale nō wau inā lawe wau i ke kālā i ka home. Akā ʻike wau iaʻu iho ʻaʻole hoihoi lākou i kekahi inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hana e like me ka makuakāne ma ka home. Manaʻo wau ʻaʻole pono ke kāne e hana wale, e lilo i "ʻeke", ikaika kino, alakaʻi alakaʻi ʻoihana; inā he keiki, pono ʻo ia ka makuakāne o ka mea mua, he kākoʻo no kāna hapalua. Inā makemake kāu wahine e hana, akā leʻaleʻa kou noho ʻana me kāu keiki a hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻolima, no ke aha? A i ʻole ke ʻoi aku kāna loaʻa kālā ma mua o kāu, manaʻo wau ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e hāʻawi iā ia i ka manawa kūpono e noho i ka ʻoihana, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi no kāu ʻohana.
ʻO ka lilo ʻana i makua maikaʻi kahi hana nui a, manaʻo wau, ʻo ka hana paʻakikī loa ma ka honua. ʻO kaʻu mea i aʻo ai i koʻu manawa me kaʻu keikikāne ke ahonui. E ʻōlelo mākou e ala ke keiki i ka pō, uē, pono ʻo ia e hoʻololi i kāna diaper, a ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e ala aʻe, akā pono ʻoe. A hana ʻoe ia. Mālama i kahi keiki, aʻo pū ʻoe iā ʻoe iho. Hoʻomaopopo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e pono e hoʻolilo i ka manawa a me ka ikaika e aʻo iā ia i nā mea he nui, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi e like me ka hele ʻana i ka paila, a laila e maʻalahi a hoʻomālielie ʻoe ma hope. Nui ka hana, a hoʻomanawanui ʻoe a maʻa mau iā ia i nā mea āpau, a i ka hopena e holo pono nā mea āpau, ʻōlelo haʻaheo ʻoe: ʻike ʻo ia i ka paʻa ʻana i ka puna, ʻai a hele pū i ka lua ponoʻī. A he aha ka hana i hana ʻia e loaʻa ai kahi hopena! “
Me kāna wahine ʻo Inga i ka hoʻomaka o kā lāua pili.
"Hoʻomaʻo mau wau i ka noho maluhia me nā keiki. ʻOiai hōʻike lākou i ke ʻano, hoʻāʻo e piʻo ma lalo o lākou iho. Akā ʻaʻole pono e ʻae ʻia ke keiki e hoʻopololei iā ʻoe, e hoʻolana i kāna mau makemake. A ʻo ʻoe, ma ke ʻano he mākua, koi i kāu pono iho; i kekahi manawa, hāʻawi ʻo ia iā ʻoe i kāu aloha, a lilo ia i mea maʻalahi iā ia.
Mai hāʻawi i nā impulses. Ke hāʻule ka pēpē, makemake wau e holo koke iā ia, lālau iā ia, kōkua. Akā ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻeha ʻo ia, ʻoiai e uē ana. Kali ʻoe i ke keiki e ala aʻe. No laila, aʻo aku ʻoe iā ia e kūpale i nā ʻano ʻano like nona iho.
I kekahi manawa nānā wau i nā mākua ʻē aʻe i nā keiki i nā hale kūʻai e hele wawe nei, e koi nei i nā mea pāʻani e makemake lākou e hele i aneʻi a i kēia manawa. Hoʻonohonoho lākou i nā hiʻohiʻona, me ka manaʻolana ʻaʻole e hōʻole ʻia lākou. A ʻike paʻa kā mākou poʻe keiki he mea makehewa ke ʻano e like me kēlā, pono e loaʻa nā mea āpau. A inā lākou e nānā i kekahi mea i loko o ka hale kūʻai, haʻi mākou iā lākou: “E aloha i ka mea pāʻani a hele kāua.” ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo e hōʻole mākou iā lākou āpau. He hale piha kā mākou o nā mea pāʻani, akā ʻaʻole lākou i hoʻokipa ʻia me ke kōkua o ka makemake, akā he mea pūʻiwa, paipai.
Inā, no ka laʻana, hoʻomaʻemaʻe lākou, holoi i nā pā, hānai i ka pōpoki, hele wāwae me ka ʻīlio, a i ʻole no kekahi kumu - no kahi lā hoʻomaha a lā hānau paha. ʻAʻole wale "makemake wau - e kiʻi." ʻAʻole mākou he naʻau paʻakikī, makemake mākou e hōʻoluʻolu i nā keiki, e hōʻoluʻolu iā lākou. Eia kekahi, aia nā manawa kūpono, akā ʻaʻole kūpono i ka manaʻo o ke keiki inā makemake ʻo ia, e loaʻa iā ia nā mea āpau i ka manawa hoʻokahi. “
ʻO ke keiki kāne like ʻo Lenny, ka mea a kona makuakāne i hānai ai i ka makahiki mua o kona ola, ʻo Raymond Pauls a me ka mea pena kiʻi ponoʻī.
"I ka 2003, ma hope o hoʻokahi makahiki o koʻu noho ʻana ma ka home, ua kāhea kahi hoaaloha iaʻu a ʻōlelo mai e hana ana ʻo ia i kahi hui jazz a pono lākou i kahi mea mele. Ua kūʻē wau iā ia: "He trombonist wau," a ua hoʻomanaʻo ʻo ia i koʻu wā ʻōpio ua mele wau i kahi hui. ʻLelo: "ʻEā, he hack kaʻu, a ʻelua ou pule e hoʻomākaukau ai i nā ʻāpana jazz he 12." ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻoluʻolu wau i ka hana. Ua hāʻawi ʻo ia i 50 lats no ka ʻahamele, ma kahi o 70 euro, kālā maikaʻi loa i kēlā manawa. Ua lilo kēia noi i wahi hoʻomaka i kaʻu ʻoihana mele ...
Ke loaʻa iaʻu kahi hana, noho kaʻu wahine ma kahi like, no ka mea ʻaʻole maopopo iā mākou e loaʻa ana kēia iaʻu i kēia mau mea no ka manawa lōʻihi. He limahana maikaʻi ʻo Inga, mahalo ʻia ʻo ia, hoʻomohala ʻo ia i ka alapiʻi ʻoihana. A laila hānau ʻia kā mākou kaikamahine, a hiki iā mākou ke hoʻolele i kaʻu wahine ma ka wā hānau makuahine.
ʻEhā kā mākou keiki i kēia manawa. E haʻalele ana ʻo Lenny, ke keiki hiapo, i ke kula i kēia makahiki aʻe. He kāne akamai ʻo ia, makemake ʻo ia i nā haʻuki, akā maikaʻi pū kona leo. ʻO ke kaikamahine ʻo Emilia 12, ke aʻo nei ʻo ia ma ke kula mele, hoʻokani i ka saxophone, ma ka puʻuwai he wahine wahine maoli ʻo ia. He 5 mau makahiki ʻo Amalia, hele i ke kula kamaliʻi, aloha i ke akeakamai e pili ana i ke ola, nā hulahula a hauʻoli mākou me nā tālena like ʻole. A e piha koke ana paha ka pēpē Janis i hoʻokahi a me ka hapa makahiki, a me he mea lā ua maopopo iā ia nā mea āpau.
"I ko mākou ʻohana ʻaʻole maʻamau ka kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka hana, ʻaʻohe TV ma ka home, no laila ʻo koʻu komo ʻana i ka hōʻike" Three Chords ", no ka nui o koʻu makemake, ʻaʻole e ukali ʻia e nā keiki. ʻAʻole mākou e kau i kā mākou ʻono iā lākou i kekahi mea, me ke mele.
Laki mākou i hiki ʻole iā mākou ke lawe i kahi nanny, hoʻomanawanui mākou iā mākou iho a ʻaʻohe mea e ʻimi ai i ke kōkua mai kahi malihini mai. Manaʻo wau he mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻoili ʻana i kāu ʻike i kahi keiki ma mua o ka mea i hana ʻia e kekahi kanaka, nona nā manaʻo e pili ana i ke ola, malia paha, ʻaʻole kūlike me kā mākou. Akā ʻaʻole mākou e hōʻole i ke kōkua o nā kūpuna. Hoʻokahi mākou ʻohana. ʻO wau wale nō ke kuleana no kā kā mākou ʻohana waihona. Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo he hana wale kaʻu wahine, a he mea hoʻokani wale wau, he mele. “