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- Ke ʻōlelo nei ʻoe he moʻolelo wale nō ka makua kūpono. No ke aha mai ?
- He aha ka mea e pale ai i ka hana a nā mākua e like me kā lākou makemake?
- Aia kekahi mau hana kūikawā no nā makua kāne a me nā mea ʻē aʻe no nā makuahine?
- ʻOi aku ka paʻakikī o ke kuleana o ka makua ma mua o ka wā ma mua?
- Manaʻo ʻoe, e like me ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "ua hoʻoholo ʻia nā mea āpau ma mua o 6 mau makahiki"?
- No laila he aha ka ʻōlelo aʻo āu e hāʻawi ai i nā mākua e hoʻihoʻi iā lākou i ka mana o kā lākou ʻano?
Ke ʻōlelo nei ʻoe he moʻolelo wale nō ka makua kūpono. No ke aha mai ?
I loko o kekahi kanaka, ʻaʻohe mea e like me ka hemolele. A laila, ʻaʻole ia he moʻolelo wale nō, he mea pōʻino nō hoʻi. Ke nīnau mākou iā mākou iho i ka nīnau "He makua maikaʻi wau?" », Hoʻopili mākou iā mākou iho, akā pono mākou e nīnau iā mākou iho i nā pono o kā mākou keiki a pehea e hālāwai ai me lākou. Ma mua o ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ke ʻano o ka pilikia maoli, manaʻo ʻoe i ka hewa no ia mea a hoʻopau i ka huhū ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi i kāu mea e makemake ai.
He aha ka mea e pale ai i ka hana a nā mākua e like me kā lākou makemake?
ʻO ka pane mua ʻo ka luhi, ʻoi aku ka wā ʻōpiopio o ke keiki, no ka mea, ʻike pinepine nā makuahine iā lākou iho e mālama iā ia. Eia kekahi, hāʻawi ʻia nā mākua i ka ʻōlelo aʻo e pili ana i ka hoʻonaʻauao ʻana i kā lākou keiki, e poina ana he pilina ia o ka hana. ʻO ka mea hope loa, pono ʻoe e ʻike i ka hana ʻana o ko mākou lolo ma o ka hana hou ʻana i nā kūlana i ʻike mua ʻia. Inā uē kou mau mākua iā ʻoe i kou kīkēkē ʻana i kāu aniani ma ka papaʻaina, e hana hou ʻoe i kēia ʻano me kāu keiki ma waho o ka automatism maʻalahi.
Aia kekahi mau hana kūikawā no nā makua kāne a me nā mea ʻē aʻe no nā makuahine?
Ua manaʻo ʻia no ka manawa lōʻihi ua hopohopo nui nā wahine i kā lākou keiki ma mua o nā kāne. Eia naʻe, ua hōʻike ʻia nā haʻawina ʻo nā kāne i noho ma ka home e like me ka hopohopo e pili ana i ke kuleana o kā lākou mau keiki. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, liʻiliʻi nā kāne i nā kumu hoʻohālike a me nā ʻano makua kāne no ka mea ʻaʻole liʻiliʻi ko lākou makuakāne ponoʻī i kā lākou hoʻonaʻauao. Nīnau kekahi mau makua kāne iā lākou iho i nā nīnau he nui e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka hānai ʻana i kā lākou keiki, ʻaʻole like me nā makuahine pono e ʻike i ka mālama ʻana a no laila ua hewa. Ma ke ala like, ʻike mākou ʻaʻole loaʻa i nā makuahine nā bonus ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia me nā makuakāne, ka mea i mahalo nui ʻia i ka wā e mālama pono ai lākou i kā lākou keiki.
ʻOi aku ka paʻakikī o ke kuleana o ka makua ma mua o ka wā ma mua?
I ka wā ma mua, hānai ʻia kahi keiki e kahi kaiāulu holoʻokoʻa. I kēia lā, hoʻokahi wale nā mākua me kā lākou keiki. ʻAʻole hiki pinepine nā kūpuna no ka mea e noho mamao ana lākou, a ʻo kēia kaʻawale ʻana he mea hoʻonāukiuki. No laila ke noho nei ʻo Farani i kekahi o nā ʻāina mana loa: ʻoi aku ma mua o 80% o nā mākua e ʻae i ka hahau ʻana i kā lākou mau keiki. Eia naʻe, i ka ulu nui ʻana o ka canvassing, uku lākou ma ke kūʻai ʻana iā lākou i ka lole, soda, e ʻae iā lākou i ke kīwī, e hoʻoikaika hou i ko lākou hewa.
Manaʻo ʻoe, e like me ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "ua hoʻoholo ʻia nā mea āpau ma mua o 6 mau makahiki"?
Nui nā mea ma mua o ka hānau ʻana. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻike mākou i kēia lā ke hana nei nā mea kupaianaha i ka pae o ka fetal a, mai nā lā mua, hiki i nā mākua ke ʻike he ʻano ponoʻī kā kā lākou pēpē. Eia naʻe, ke ʻōlelo mākou "ua pāʻani ʻia nā mea āpau", ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo ua pāʻani ʻia nā mea a pau. Loaʻa ka manawa e hoʻoponopono ai i kāu mau hewa ma ke alo ʻana i kāu moʻolelo a me ka ʻae ʻana i kāu kuleana. ʻAʻole pono e kū mālie ka pilina makua-keiki. E makaʻala ʻaʻole e kau i kahi lepili ma kāu keiki liʻiliʻi e like me "he lohi ʻo ia", "he hilahila ʻo ia"…
No laila he aha ka ʻōlelo aʻo āu e hāʻawi ai i nā mākua e hoʻihoʻi iā lākou i ka mana o kā lākou ʻano?
Pono lākou e aʻo i ka hanu a ʻaʻa e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka pahuhopu ma mua o ka hana ʻana. No ka laʻana, inā ʻoe e uē i kāu keiki no ka hoʻokahe ʻana i kāna aniani, e hoʻohewa wale ʻoe iā ia. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, inā e hoʻomanaʻo ʻoe ʻo kāu pahuhopu ke aʻo iā ia e makaʻala ʻaʻole e hoʻomaka hou, hiki iā ʻoe ke noho mālie a noi wale iā ia e kiʻi i kahi huaʻala e holoi i ka papaʻaina. ʻO ka ʻike ʻana i kāu moʻolelo ponoʻī e hiki ai ke hana hou i ka hoʻomāinoino ʻana i ka ʻōlelo, ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana a me nā hewa ʻē aʻe i loaʻa iā mākou, me kā mākou mau keiki ponoʻī.