Hiki paha ke lilo i mea liʻiliʻi a pono paha? E hui pū nā hoa palupalu a mālie? Ua pane ʻia kā mākou mau nīnau e kahi mea hoʻoponopono ʻohana pili i ka naʻau.
He aha ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o ka vulnerability a me ka sensitivity?
Natalia Litvinova: ʻO ka sensitivity ke ʻano o kā mākou ʻike ʻana i nā hanana mai ke ola, nāwaliwali - ke manaʻo mākou iā mākou iho ke kumu o lākou. Inā paha ua ʻōlelo ʻoe i kahi mea ʻoluʻolu ʻole i kāu kamaʻilio. E hoʻopaʻapaʻa kekahi ʻano nāwaliwali e like me kēia: ʻo ia hoʻi noʻu. No laila naʻu ka hewa. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e ʻae iā ʻoe, no ka laʻana, i loko o kahi ʻano ʻino. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e nīnau iā ia iho inā he kuleana kou e kamaʻilio pū me ia ma ia leo. Lawe kokeʻo ia i nā mea a pau i kāna moʻokāki pono'ī.
Hiki i ka poʻe maʻalahi ke ola me nā hoa like, a i ʻole makemake ʻoe i kahi mea ʻoi aku ka mānoanoa a me ke kaulike e kaulike?
He pohihihi na mea a pau maanei. ʻO ka launa pū ʻana o nā ʻano ʻano like ʻole he mau bonus: ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kēlā mau hoa, mālama kekahi i kekahi me ka mahalo a me ka nānā pono, pololei i nā ʻōlelo a me nā hana. Manaʻo lākou i nā hihia e hōʻeha ai iā lākou, a no laila ʻaʻole lākou makemake e hōʻeha i kā lākou hoa.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, i ka wā e kamaʻilio ai, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka loaʻa ʻana o nā pae like ʻole.
ʻO ka mea e pane aku i nā mea i ʻoi aku ka mālie, hiki ke lilo i kumu hoʻohālike no ka mea e ʻeha ka pane ʻana i ka mea e hana nei. Ma o kēia mau hiʻohiʻona, manaʻo paha kahi hoa paʻakikī he mea ʻē aʻe i kāna mau ʻike, a ma hope o ka manawa e hoʻomaka ai e koho.
Hōʻike ʻia kahi mea hou aʻe i ka wā o kahi kūlana i ʻike ʻole ʻia. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hana ʻana o kahi kāne inā, ʻoiai e hopohopo kekahi, e hoʻoholo ana kekahi. Akā aia kekahi mau pōʻino: ʻaʻole maopopo i ka hoa pili ʻole i ke kiʻekiʻe o nā ʻike o kekahi.
He aha ka mea e hoʻoholo ai i ka pae o ka naʻau?
ʻO ka hauʻoli o ka ʻōnaehana nerve kahi ʻano i "hāʻawi ʻia" iā mākou i ka wā hānau. Hoʻopili maoli ʻia ka pae o ka naʻau e ke kaiapuni a mākou e ulu ai. Inā pilikia mau ka makuahine a uwē i kēlā me kēia lono koʻikoʻi, hiki i kēia ke hoʻoweliweli i ke keiki, a hoʻomaka ʻo ia e manaʻo i ka hopu ʻana i nā mea āpau.
Ma kahi o ka moʻolelo like me nā keiki a ka poʻe ʻona a me nā mākua e hoʻohana nei i ka hana ʻino kino a me ka pono. I loko o ia mau ʻohana, pono ke keiki e hoʻomohala i ka naʻau i mea e hopu ai i nā manaʻo makua. E ʻike i ka wā e noi ai i kekahi mea, a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka peʻe i loko o ke keʻena. ʻO kēia hana ke kī i ke ola.
Hiki ke hōʻemi ʻia kahi kiʻekiʻe o ka naʻau i loaʻa ma ka waiho ʻana i ke keiki i kahi ʻoluʻolu, palekana a palekana. Eia nō naʻe, inā uē ʻole ke keiki ma muli o kahi pāʻani haʻihaʻi, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻopiʻi i nā mea āpau i ka naʻau nui. No nā keiki, he pōʻino kēia hanana, e like me nā mākua, no ka laʻana, ka nalowale o kahi hale a i ʻole kaʻa.
Hiki i nā mākua ke desensitised?
ʻAe, inā hāʻawi ʻo ia iā ʻoe i ka pilikia nui. No ka laʻana, ma ka hoʻololi ʻana i kou kaiapuni: hiki i kahi kaiapuni lokomaikaʻi ke hana kupanaha ma o ka hoʻololi ʻana i ka ʻike o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
No ke aha ʻaʻole kōkua pinepine nā kelepona e hoʻomaha?
ʻAʻole pono ka haʻi ʻana i kekahi e hoʻomaha, ʻaʻole ia e hana. Akā ma hope o ia hoʻopiʻi pinepine ʻana i ka makemake e kōkua, ʻoiai ua hōʻike ʻia ma ke ʻano kekee. ʻIke ʻia ka manaʻo: hopohopo ka mea aloha, no laila ke aʻo aku nei au iā ia e ʻoluʻolu. Akā ʻaʻole hopohopo ʻo ia ka hoʻopau ʻana i ka manaʻo. ʻAʻole mākou e koho i ko mākou mau manaʻo. ʻAʻole mākou e ʻōlelo iā mākou iho i ke kakahiaka, "E lilo wau i mea maʻalahi i kēia lā!"
No laila, he mea pono e hoʻomanaʻo pinepine iā ʻoe iho he kūpono nā manaʻo a me nā pane a pau, loaʻa iā mākou ke kuleana - a manaʻo.
Inā mālama ʻoe i kekahi e hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻomaha iā ʻoe, a ʻike ʻoe makemake ʻo ia e kōkua, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e wehewehe mālie iā ia ʻaʻole pono kēia. A wehewehe pehea e hana ai. Akā inā hōʻole lākou e hoʻolohe iā ʻoe, a laila hiki ke hoʻololi i ka leo o ke kamaʻilio ʻana ma ka wehewehe ʻana i kou mau palena. No ka laʻana, e ʻōlelo ʻaʻole pono ʻoe i kēlā ʻōlelo.
Pehea ka pili o ka naʻau, ka naʻau, a me ke aloha?
ʻO ka sensitivity ka pane i kahi hoʻoulu kino o waho, e like me ke kani. ʻO ka ʻōnaehana nerve ke kuleana no ia, he mea kēia o ka physiology, a paʻakikī loa ka hoʻohuli ʻana iā ia. ʻO ka noʻonoʻo a me ke aloha, a i ʻole ka hiki ke ʻike i ka manaʻo o kekahi, he mea ʻē aʻe. ʻO nā waiwai ʻelua, inā makemake ʻia, hiki ke hoʻomohala ʻia ma ka noʻonoʻo ʻana iā ia iho ma kahi o kekahi.
Ua ʻike paha nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i ka naʻau kūlohelohe e like me ka hypersensitivity?
ʻAʻole au e nānā i kēia. Kaʻina ʻēkoʻa. "Mai makaʻala", "poina", "mai lawe i ka naʻau", "e mālie" - he ala kēia e kauo ana mai ka wā Soviet. A i kēia lā ua hoʻomaka mākou e nānā i ko mākou kūlana, nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo. Aia nā ʻoihana e mālama nei i ke kūlana manaʻo o nā limahana. I kēia manawa, ʻaʻole nui nā ʻoihana like ʻole, akā maopopo ke neʻe mālie nei mākou i nā ala ʻē aʻe, kahi i manaʻo ʻole ʻia ai ka naʻau a me ka hypersensitivity he pilikia.
Malia paha e lilo kākou i mea maʻalahi e hoʻolilo i ka honua i wahi maikaʻi?
ʻAʻohe pane hoʻokahi i kēia nīnau. Inā mākou e manaʻo me ka piʻi ʻana o ke kiʻekiʻe o ka naʻau i ka honua e ʻoi aku ka empathy a me ka mahalo i kekahi i kekahi, a laila, ʻo wau, ʻoiaʻiʻo, no ia. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, he nui nā ʻoihana kahi i kūpono ʻole ai ka hōʻike ʻana o ka naʻau. Ma kahi e pono mau ai ka noʻonoʻo a me ka helu anu, me ka ʻole o ka hana koʻikoʻi hiki ke noʻonoʻo ʻia.