He aha ke kumu o ka hoʻouka weliweli? No hea mai ka makaʻu kūpono ʻole? I kekahi manawa, hōʻike ʻia ka maʻi maʻi borderline ma kēia ʻano. ʻO ka pōmaikaʻi, hiki ke mālama ʻia. ʻO ka mea nui e ʻike i nā hōʻailona i ka manawa.
Ua pilikia ʻo Elena i ka hoʻouka kaua weliweli. ʻO nā hoʻouka kaua mai kekahi mau kekona a i ka hapalua hola. Ua ala aʻe lākou me ka manaʻo ʻole a me ka noho ʻole. Ua pale kēia iā ia mai ka noho piha ʻana, ka hana a me ke kamaʻilio ʻana. Ua hilahila ʻo ia iā ia iho. ʻO ka mea maʻamau, hoʻomaka ʻo Elena e haʻalele i nā kānaka a haʻalele i kāna mau leʻaleʻa mua.
Ua hoʻomaka ka hoʻouka kaua i ka wā ʻōpio. I ka makahiki 30, ʻaʻole hiki iā Elena ke hoʻopaʻa i kekahi hana no nā mahina ʻoi aku, ua kokoke ka male ʻana i ka hāʻule, ʻaʻohe mau hoaaloha i koe.
Ua ʻike nā kauka iā ia me ka maʻi maʻi borderline personality. ʻAʻole like ʻo Elena i ka maʻi maʻamau me kēia maʻi. Ua loaʻa iā ia kahi ʻano huna o ka maʻi.
Eia kekahi mau hōʻailona o ka maʻi palena palena ma kona ʻano huna:
1. ʻO ka makemake e mālama i nā pilina ma nā koina a pau. ʻAʻole ʻo Elena e haʻalele i kāna kāne, ʻoiai nā pilikia o ka male. Mai kona wā kamaliʻi, ua haʻalele ʻo ia i kona mau mākua, a i kona wā ʻōpiopio, ua aloha ʻo ia i ke kāne āna i male ai.
2. Ka pilina paʻa ʻole a me ka naʻau i loko o ka ʻohana. Ua hōʻike mua ʻia kēia ma ka pilina me ka makuahine. Ua hōʻino a hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻo ia iā Elena. Ua ho'ōki ke kaikamahine i ka kamaʻilioʻana me kona makuahine ma hope o kekahi SMS me nā'ōlelo hōʻino, aʻelua pule ma hope mai, me he mea lāʻaʻohe mea i hanaʻia, heleʻo ia e kūʻai me ia. Ua kāohi ʻo Elena i ka huhū a me ka huhū.
3. Manaʻo kuhi hewa e pili ana iā ʻoe iho. I ka wā liʻiliʻi ʻo Elena, hoʻouna pinepine kona makuahine iā ia e komo i nā hoʻokūkū nani. Hoʻokumu ia mau hanana i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole e pili ana i ke kino ponoʻī. Ua hoʻoholo ʻo Elena inā he uʻi ʻo ia i ka helehelena, ʻaʻole pono ʻo ia e hana me nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo. Ma muli o kēia, ua kāohi ʻo ia i ka huhū, ke kaumaha, ka hilahila, ka hewa, a me ke kaumaha no nā makahiki he nui.
4. Impulsivity a me ka luku iho. ʻAʻole ʻo Elena i hōʻole i kona hoʻohana ʻana i ka waiʻona a me nā lāʻau lapaʻau. Ua maʻalahi ʻo ia i ka hoʻohana ʻole ʻia, hōʻeha iā ia iho, ʻai nui. Ua hahai nā hana ʻino i kekahi i kekahi. Inā hiki iā ia ke ho'ōki i ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau psychotropic, ua hoʻomaka koke ʻo ia e hoʻolilo kālā me ka ʻole. Ua lanakila ʻo ia i ka maʻa o ka ʻili ʻana i kona ʻili, ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia e "hopu" i ke koʻikoʻi. Hoʻololi mau ʻia nā ʻano hana hōʻino iā ia iho.
5. Nā ho'āʻo pepehi kanaka mau. I ka nānā mua ʻana, ʻaʻohe manaʻo suicidal ʻo Elena, ua hōʻole ʻo ia i kēlā mau manaʻo. Eia naʻe, ua loaʻa iā ia nā lāʻau overdoses. ʻO kona manaʻo lōʻihi i ka hoʻopōʻino iā ia iho a me kāna ʻano pōʻino i hiki ke kapa ʻia ʻo ia mau hana he hoʻāʻo pepehi huna.
6. Ka hopohopo nui, ke kaumaha a me ka huhū. I kona wā kamaliʻi, ua aʻo ʻia ʻo Elena e hilahila nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole - ka hopohopo, ka huhū, ka hopohopo. ʻOiai ʻaʻole ʻae ʻia ʻo ia e hōʻike i kēlā mau manaʻo ma ke akea, hūnā ʻo ia. ʻO ka hopena, ua ala mai ka panic attack, a i ka wā makua, ua hoʻohui ʻia nā pilikia digestive.
7. Manaʻo mau o ka nele o loko. ʻOiai i ka maikaʻi o nā mea iā Elena, ua ʻoluʻolu ʻo ia. Ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia e hōʻino i ke ʻano o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, me ka ʻike ʻole i hoʻāʻo e hōʻike i kahi manaʻo o ka nele o loko. Akā naʻe, ua hālāwai kēia me ke kū'ē ikaika mai kāna kāne a me nā ʻohana ʻē aʻe i makemake ʻo ia e hūnā i kona mau manaʻo mai nā mea a pau.
8. Huhu huhu. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Elena ʻaʻole ʻo ia e huhū. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ua aʻo ʻia ʻo ia mai ka wā kamaliʻi ʻaʻole pono e hōʻike ʻia ka huhū. Ua hōʻiliʻili ʻia ka huhū i nā makahiki, a i kekahi manawa aia nā mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia. Ma hope o kona hilahila, ua hana hou ʻo ia i ka hana ʻino iā ia iho, ka ʻai nui a i ʻole ka waiʻona.
9. Nā manaʻo paranoid. ʻO ke kaʻina o ka hoʻokolokolo ʻana a ke kauka i hoʻomaka ai ʻo Elena e hoʻohaʻahaʻa i nā mea a pau a hoʻomaka hou. Loaʻa iā ia nā manaʻo e pili ana i ka paranoia. Makaʻu ʻo ia i ka hopena o nā ʻohana, ka hoʻohewa ʻana o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. A ʻo ka mea nui loa - e haʻalele nā mea āpau iā ia.
10. Nā hōʻailona o ka hemo. I kekahi manawa ua like ʻo Elena "haʻule i waho o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo", me he mea lā e nānā ana ʻo ia iā ia iho mai ka ʻaoʻao. ʻO ka pinepine, hiki koke kēia ma mua o ka hoʻouka kaua weliweli a ma hope koke iho. Ma mua o ka hele ʻana i ke kauka, ʻaʻole i haʻi aku ʻo Elena i kekahi e pili ana i kēia, hopohopo ʻo ia e manaʻo ʻia ʻo ia he mea ʻino.
Hiki ke mālama ʻia nā maʻi ʻokoʻa o ka palena palena a me ka maʻi. Kōkua ka Psychotherapy i nā maʻi he nui: dialectical behavioral therapy, schema therapy, psychological education. I ka ʻike ʻana o Elena i ka mea e hana maoli ana iā ia, ua emi ka weliweli, a i ka wā lōʻihi, ua kōkua ʻo psychotherapy iā ia e aʻo e hoʻokō maikaʻi i nā ʻike manaʻo.
E pili ana i ka mea kākau: ʻO Kristin Hammond he mea ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo psychologist.