Manaʻo ka poʻe he nui ke kumu o ka hele ʻana i kahi psychologist e kiʻi i kahi hoʻonohonoho o nā manaʻo kikoʻī, e like me ke kūkākūkā me ke kauka. ʻAʻole pēlā, wahi a ka mea lapaʻau ʻo Alena Gerst. ʻO ka hana a kahi loea akamai, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻolohe ʻana a nīnau i nā nīnau kūpono.
He waiwai ʻole nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo. He hana pōkole wale nō ia, he ʻano kōkua mua: e kau i kahi kāʻei sterile i kahi ʻeha e pono ai ka mālama koʻikoʻi.
Hoʻomaopopo ka poʻe psychotherapist kūpono i ka pilikia, akā hōʻole i ka hāʻawi ʻana i ka ʻōlelo aʻo. Pono nā kānaka a pau e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i kēia ʻoihana e aʻo i ke akamai waiwai o ka noho hāmau. He paʻakikī - no ka mea lapaʻau ponoʻī a no ka mea kūʻai aku. Eia naʻe, ʻo ka hiki ke ʻike i nā kikoʻī he nui i hiki ke hana nui i ka psychotherapy. He mea nui e hoʻomaopopo he mea hoʻolohe nui kāu kauka lapaʻau, ʻaʻole he kākāʻōlelo.
ʻAʻole kēia manaʻo e nānā wale lākou iā ʻoe a hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka manawa e ʻōlelo ai. Hoʻolohe pono kēlā me kēia ʻoihana akamai i nā ʻōlelo kikoʻī e hoʻoholo ai i ke ala o nā kamaʻilio hou aʻe. A ma ke ʻano maʻamau, ʻekolu mau kumuhana.
1. He aha kou makemake
ʻAʻohe mea i ʻike iā mākou ma mua o mākou. ʻO ia ke kumu ʻaʻole kōkua ka ʻōlelo aʻo e haʻalele i ka honua. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, uaʻike lōʻihi nā pane, akā i kekahi manawa e moe hohonu loa lākou, hūnāʻia ma lalo o nā manaʻolana, manaʻolana a me nā moeʻuhane o nā poʻe'ē aʻe.
No ka ʻoiaʻiʻo loa, kakaikahi ka poʻe i hoihoi i kā mākou makemake maoli. Hoʻohana nui mākou i ka hoʻoikaika a me ka ikaika e hoʻāʻo e hoʻokō i nā makemake a me nā pono o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Hōʻike kēia iā ia iho ma nā mea nui a me nā mea liʻiliʻi. Pehea mākou e hoʻopau ai i kā mākou hopena pule, he aha kā mākou e ʻai ai no ka ʻaina awakea, he aha ka ʻoihana a mākou e koho ai, me wai a me ka wā e mare ai mākou, inā he mau keiki a ʻaʻole paha.
Ma nā ʻano he nui, nīnau ka mea lapaʻau i hoʻokahi mea: he aha kā mākou makemake maoli. Hiki i ka pane i kēia nīnau ke alakaʻi i nā ʻike i manaʻo ʻole ʻia: e hoʻoweliweli kekahi mea, e ʻoluʻolu kekahi. Akā ʻo ka mea nui, ʻo mākou e hele mai iā mākou iho, me ka ʻole o ka ʻōlelo ʻana mai waho. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, aia ka manaʻo i ka lilo ʻana iā ʻoe iho a me ka noho ʻana ma kāu mau lula ponoʻī.
2. He aha kāu makemake e hoʻololi
ʻAʻole mākou ʻike mau e makemake mākou e hoʻololi nui, akā ʻaʻole paʻakikī kēia e koho mai kā mākou ʻōlelo. Akā, ke haʻi ʻia mai ko mākou makemake iā mākou, hana pinepine mākou me he mea lā ʻaʻole mākou i noʻonoʻo.
Hoʻolohe ka mea lapaʻau i kēlā me kēia ʻōlelo. Ma ke ʻano maʻamau, ua hōʻike ʻia ka makemake no ka hoʻololi ʻana i nā ʻōlelo wiwo ʻole: "Malia paha hiki iaʻu (la) ...", "Ke manaʻo nei au he aha ka mea e hana inā ...", "Ua manaʻo mau wau he mea maikaʻi ia ...".
Inā ʻoe e komo i loko o ka manaʻo hohonu o kēia mau memo, ʻike pinepine ʻia nā moeʻuhane i hoʻokō ʻole ʻia ma hope o lākou. Ke komo nei i loko o nā makemake huna, ʻo ka mea lapaʻau e hoʻokuʻu iā mākou e hālāwai me nā makaʻu subconscious. ʻO ka makaʻu i ka hāʻule ʻole, ka makaʻu ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻāʻo i kahi mea hou, ka makaʻu ʻaʻole e loaʻa iā mākou ke kālena, ʻoluʻolu, a i ʻole ke kālā e pono ai mākou e hoʻokō i kā mākou pahuhopu.
Loaʻa iā mākou he mau kaukani kumu, i kekahi manawa hiki ʻole ke hilinaʻi ʻia, no ke aha ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hana i kahi ala liʻiliʻi i kā mākou moeʻuhane. ʻO ke kumu o ka psychotherapy ʻo ia ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka mea e kāohi iā mākou mai ka loli a makemake mākou e hoʻololi.
3. Pehea kou manaʻo iā ʻoe iho
ʻAʻole ʻike ka nui o ka poʻe i kā lākou hana ʻino iā lākou iho. Hoʻokumu mālie ʻia kā mākou ʻike hewa ʻana i kā mākou "I", a i ka manawa lōʻihi, hoʻomaka mākou e manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo ko mākou manaʻo o uXNUMXbuXNUMXbhe ʻoiaʻiʻo.
Hoʻolohe ka mea lapaʻau i nā ʻōlelo loiloi ponoʻī. Mai kāhāhā inā hopu ʻo ia i kou noʻonoʻo maikaʻi ʻole. ʻO ka manaʻoʻiʻo i kā mākou hemahema ponoʻī ke komo i loko o ka subconscious a ʻaʻole mākou e ʻike i ko mākou koʻikoʻi iā mākou iho.
ʻO kekahi o nā hana nui o ka psychotherapy ʻo ia ke kōkua i ka hoʻopau ʻana i ia mau manaʻo. Hiki paha: ʻoiai inā manaʻo mākou ʻaʻole lawa mākou, ʻokoʻa ka manaʻo o ke kauka. Hoʻopuka ʻo ia i nā manaʻo wahaheʻe i hiki iā mākou ke loaʻa ka manaʻo maikaʻi a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo iā mākou iho.
Na ke kauka lapaʻau e alakaʻi i ke kamaʻilio ʻana, akā ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e hāʻawi ʻo ia i ka ʻōlelo aʻo. Ke hālāwai mākou me ia, ʻike mākou iā mākou iho. A i ka hopena, maopopo mākou i ka mea e pono ai ke hana. ʻŌlelo Sami. Akā me ke kōkua o psychotherapy.
E pili ana i ka mea kākau: ʻO Alena Gerst he psychotherapist, kauka psychologist, a me ka limahana hana.