Ke komo nei i kahi kūlana paʻakikī, ʻike i kahi pilikia i loko o kahi pilina a i ʻole ma kahi poho ma mua o kahi koho, ʻimi pinepine mākou i ka ʻōlelo aʻo: noi mākou i nā hoaaloha, nā hoahana a i ʻole ka Pūnaewele. Ke alakaʻi ʻia nei mākou e ke kumu i aʻo ʻia mai ka wā kamaliʻi: no ke aha e hana ai i kahi mea i hana mua ʻia ma mua o mākou. Eia nō naʻe, i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā pilikia pilikino, ʻaʻole hana pinepine kēia kumukānāwai, a ʻo ka ʻōlelo aʻo e hoʻonāukiuki ai ma mua o ka hoʻomaha. No ke aha kēia hana a pehea e ʻimi ai i kahi hopena?
Ke ʻimi nā mea kūʻai aku i ke kōkua, noi pinepine lākou i ka ʻōlelo aʻo. No ka laʻana, pehea e puka ai i waho o kahi pilina a pehea e hoʻoponopono ai. Nīnau lākou inā pono e haʻalele i ka hana, ʻo ia ka manawa e hānau ai i kahi pēpē, he aha ka mea e hana ai e lilo i mea hilinaʻi nui, hoʻōki i ka hilahila.
Me he mea lā ʻo ka hapa nui o nā nīnau e like me ka honua - ʻaʻole anei lākou i loaʻa i kahi ʻano kānāwai maʻamau a i ʻole ka mālama ʻana i ka pila e kōkua i kēlā me kēia hihia? Nīnau pololei kekahi poʻe e pili ana i kēia, no ka laʻana: "Ke manaʻo nei ʻoe he wā e hiki mai ana ka pilina me kēia kanaka?" Auē, eia wau e huhū: ʻaʻole wau a me kaʻu mau hoa hana i pane āpau. "A laila he aha kā mākou e hana ai?" — ninau mai oe. "E haku i ka huila," wahi a'u.
Ua hana ke kanaka i nā mea hana maʻalahi e maʻalahi ai ke ola ʻana i ka hana hou ʻana i nā mea i loaʻa i kēia manawa. Akā inā pili i nā pilikia e like me ke kūkulu ʻana i ka pilina, ka loaʻa ʻana o ka hilinaʻi, ke kū ʻana i ke kaumaha, a i ʻole ka ʻae ʻana i ka nalowale, ʻaʻohe koho ʻē aʻe akā e hana hou i ka huila. ʻAe, kahi kūpono no mākou.
Ke hoʻomanaʻo nei au, i koʻu wā kamaliʻi, ua hoʻololi mākou i nā kaʻa kaʻa me kahi keikikāne ma muli o ka ʻike. Ua like ʻo ia me ke kaʻa kaʻa maʻamau, akā ʻoluʻolu ʻole ia: ʻaʻole hiki i kona mau wāwae ke hiki i nā wāwae, a ʻo ka noho me he mea paʻakikī loa. E like nō ia inā hahai wikiwiki ʻoe i ka ʻōlelo aʻo a kekahi a hoʻomaka e hoʻonohonoho i ke ola e like me ke ʻano o kekahi: e like me nā hoaaloha, e like me ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma ka TV a i ʻole nā mākua.
Ke ola nei i ko mākou mau manaʻo a me ka wehe ʻana i nā mea hou, hoʻohui mākou i kā mākou kaʻa ponoʻī.
ʻO kekahi hapa, ʻo ka psychotherapy kahi hana o ka hana hou ʻana i ka huila, kahi ʻimi akahele a me ka akahele no nā pane i nā nīnau "pehea wau" a "he aha ka mea e kūpono iaʻu." ʻAʻole hiki ke aʻo ʻia nā pilina mai nā puke, ʻoiai hiki ke kōkua inā kōkua lākou iā ʻoe e nīnau iā ʻoe iho i nā nīnau kūpono. E ʻōlelo kākou ua koho ka naʻauao i ka hoa kūpono no mākou. Akā ʻo ke koho ʻana i kahi hoa e like me ke ʻano i hōʻoia ʻia, ma muli o ka hopena e hālāwai ai mākou me kahi kanaka ola, a ʻaʻohe o mākou koho akā e ola i kēia mau pilina iā mākou iho, e hoʻokolohua a hoʻoponopono i loko o lākou.
He aha kāu e ʻōlelo ai i kāu hoa ke hakakā ʻoe? Pehea e ʻae ai i ke kālā, ʻo wai ka mea e lawe i ka ʻōpala? Pono ʻoe e haku i nā pane iā ʻoe iho. ʻO wai o lākou e lilo i ʻoiaʻiʻo, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoholo wale ma ka hoʻolohe ʻana iā ʻoe iho. A, he mea ʻokoʻa loa lākou mai nā mea i ʻōlelo ʻia e nā hoaaloha a i ʻole ka Pūnaewele.
No ka ʻae ʻana i ka nalowale, ʻaʻohe ala ʻē aʻe ma mua o ke ola ʻana. No ka lilo ʻana i mea hilinaʻi, he mea nui ia e noʻonoʻo i hea mai ia, pololei koʻu insecurity. He aha kaʻu e hoʻolohe ai i mea hilahila iaʻu?
No laila, ke noho nei me nā manaʻo a me ka wehe ʻana i nā mea hou, hoʻomaʻamaʻa mālie mākou - iā mākou iho a i ʻole me ke kōkua o kahi psychotherapist - hōʻuluʻulu i kā mākou kaʻa ponoʻī. E loaʻa i kekahi me nā lipine ʻulaʻula a me ka hīnaʻi no nā puke, ʻo kekahi me nā kaila paʻa a me nā huila ikaika. A ma hope o ka hoʻokuke ʻana mai ka honua ma luna o kahi kaʻa a mākou i hana ai no mākou iho, hoʻomaka mākou e hele wāwae i ko mākou ʻano maoli.