He mea maʻalahi ke ʻano o ka moʻolelo haʻihaʻi: e hana hou i ka koi like me ka ʻole o ka hoʻohuli ʻia e nā kumu. Maikaʻi nā keiki a pau i kēia ʻano, ʻo ia ka manawa no nā mākua e mākaukau pū!
ʻo kahi laʻana. La wela wela. Hele ʻo Annika 4 makahiki i ke kūʻai ʻana me kona makuahine.
Annika: Kūʻai ʻo Māmā iaʻu i hau kalima
Māmā: Ua kūʻai mua au iā ʻoe i kēia lā.
Annika: Akā, makemake au i ka hau kalima
Māmā: ʻO ka ʻai nui ʻana i ka ice cream he mea pōʻino, e loaʻa iā ʻoe ke anu
Annika: E Māmā, makemake nui au i ka ice cream!
Māmā: Ua pō, pono mākou e hoʻi i ka home.
Annika: ʻAe, e ka makuahine, e kūʻai mai iaʻu i hau hau, e ʻoluʻolu!
Māmā: ʻAe, ma ke ʻano he ʻokoʻa…
Pehea ʻo Annika i hana ai? Ua mālama wale ʻo ia i nā manaʻo hoʻopaʻapaʻa a kona makuahine. Ma mua o ke kūkākūkā ʻana i ka nui o ka ice cream maikaʻi ʻole ke ʻai a hoʻomaka i ka nui o kou hiki ke loaʻa i ke anu, ua ʻōlelo hou ʻo ia a pōkole a wikiwiki i kāna noi - e like me kahi moʻolelo haki.
ʻO Māmā, ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, hana ʻo ia i ka hana a nā poʻe mākua a pau i kēlā ʻano kūlana: hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻo ia. Ke kūkākūkā nei ʻo ia. Makemake ʻo ia e hoʻomaopopo a ʻae kāna keiki. Hana like ʻo ia inā makemake ʻo ia i kekahi mea mai kāna kaikamahine. A laila lilo kahi hōʻailona maopopo i kahi kūkākūkā lōʻihi. I ka hopena, ua poina mua ʻo mama i kāna mea i makemake ai. ʻO ia ke kumu i makemake nui ai kā mākou mau keiki i nā kamaʻilio like ʻana me ko lākou puʻuwai a pau. Eia hou, he manawa hou lakou e hopu piha ai i ka noonoo o ko'u makuahine.
la'ana:
Mama (kuikui, nana i na maka o Annika, paa ia ia ma na poohiwi a olelo pokole: «E Annika, e hoʻokomo ʻoe i nā mea pāʻani i loko o ka pahu i kēia manawa."
Annika: Akā, no ke aha?
Māmā: No ka mea, ua hoopuehu oe ia lakou
Annika: ʻAʻole au makemake e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i kekahi mea. Pono wau e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i nā manawa a pau. ʻO ka lā a pau!
Māmā: ʻAʻohe mea like me kēia. I ka manawa hea ʻoe i hoʻomaʻemaʻe ai i nā mea pāʻani i ka lā āpau? Akā, pono ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo pono e hoʻomaʻemaʻe ma hope o ʻoe iho!
Annika: A ʻaʻole hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻo Timmy (ke kaikaina ʻelua makahiki) iā ia iho!
Māmā: Liʻiliʻi nō ʻo Timmy. ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke hoʻomaʻemaʻe ma hope ona.
Annika: Hiki iā ia ke hana i nā mea a pau! Aloha wale ʻoe iā ia ma mua oʻu!
Māmā: ʻAe, he aha kāu e kamaʻilio nei?! ʻAʻole ʻoiaʻiʻo kēia a ʻike maopopo ʻoe.
Hiki ke hoʻomau ʻia ke kūkākūkā e like me kou makemake. Noho mālie ka makuahine o Annika. I kēia manawa, ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hana i kēlā mau hewa makua maʻamau a mākou i kamaʻilio mua ai ma ka Mokuna 4. Akā inā hoʻomau ke kūkākūkā ʻana no kekahi manawa, hiki nō paha ia. A ʻaʻole ʻike ʻia inā e wehe ʻo Annika i nā mea pāʻani. ʻO ia hoʻi: Inā makemake maoli ʻo Māmā e hele ʻo Annika i waho, a laila ʻaʻole kūpono kēia kūkākūkā.
ʻO kekahi laʻana. ʻO kahi kamaʻilio like ʻana ma waena o Lisa 3 makahiki a me kona makuahine kokoke i kēlā me kēia kakahiaka:
Māmā: Lisa, e aahu.
Lisa: Akā ʻaʻole wau makemake!
Māmā: E hele mai, e lilo i kaikamahine maikaʻi. E ʻaʻahu a pāʻani pū kāua i kekahi mea hoihoi.
Hoʻohui: Ma ke aha?
Māmā: Hiki iā mākou ke hōʻiliʻili i nā puʻupuʻu.
Hoʻohui: ʻAʻole wau makemake i nā puʻupuʻu. Luuluu lakou. Makemake au e nānā TV.
Māmā: I ke kakahiaka nui a me ka TV?! Ma waho o ka nīnau!
Hoʻohui: (Uē) ʻAʻole ʻae ʻia iaʻu e nānā i ka TV! Hiki i nā kānaka a pau! ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu wale nō!
Māmā: ʻAʻole ʻoiaʻiʻo kēlā. ʻAʻole nānā nā keiki a pau aʻu i ka TV i ke kakahiaka.
ʻO ka hopena, uē ʻo Lisa no kahi pilikia ʻokoʻa loa, akā ʻaʻole naʻe ʻo ia i ʻaʻahu. ʻO ka mea maʻamau e hoʻopau kēia me ka lawe ʻana o kona makuahine iā ia i kona mau lima, kau iā ia ma kona mau kuli, hōʻoluʻolu a kōkua i kona ʻaʻahu, ʻoiai ʻo Lisa ʻike pehea e hana ai iā ia iho. Eia nō hoʻi, e ka makuahine, ma hope o kahi hōʻailona maopopo, ua huki ʻia ʻo ia i kahi kūkākūkā ākea. Ua lanakila ʻo Lisa i kēia manawa i ke kumuhana TV. Akā me ka noʻonoʻo like, hiki iā ia ke pāʻani maʻalahi me nā mea lole i waiho ʻia e kona makuahine - mai nā soka a i kahi scrunchie pili. He mea hoʻokō maikaʻi loa no kahi kaikamahine ʻekolu makahiki ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ke kula kindergarten!
Pehea e pale aku ai nā makuahine o Annika lāua ʻo Lisa i kēia mau kūkākūkā? ʻO ke ʻano o ke ʻano "broken record" ma ʻaneʻi.
I kēia manawa, hoʻohana ka makuahine o Annika i kēia ʻano hana:
Māmā: (Squats, nānā i kāna kaikamahine i nā maka, lawe iā ia ma nā poʻohiwi a ʻōlelo aku): E Annika, e hoʻokomo ʻoe i nā mea pāʻani i loko o ka pahu i kēia manawa!
Annika: Akā, no ke aha?
Māmā: Pono e hana i kēia manawa: e hōʻiliʻili ʻoe i nā mea pāʻani a waiho i loko o kahi pahu.
Annika: ʻAʻole au makemake e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i kekahi mea. Pono wau e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i nā manawa a pau. ʻO ka lā a pau!
Māmā: E Annika, e hoʻokomo i nā mea pāʻani i loko o ka pahu.
Annika: (hoʻomaka e hoʻomaʻemaʻe a ʻōhumu ma lalo o kona hanu): Nā manawa apau loa au…
He ʻokoʻa loa ke kamaʻilio ʻana ma waena o Lisa a me kona makuahine inā hoʻohana ka makuahine i kahi "moʻolelo haki":
Māmā: Lisa, e aahu..
Hoʻohui: Akā ʻaʻole wau makemake!
Māmā: Eia, e Lisa, e hookomo i kou lole.
Hoʻohui: Akā makemake wau e pāʻani me ʻoe!
Māmā: ʻO Lisa, ke ʻaʻahu nei ʻoe i nā pālule i kēia manawa.
Lisa (ʻakaʻaka akā ua ʻaʻahu)
ʻAʻole ʻoe i manaʻo he maʻalahi nā mea a pau? E ho'āʻo iā ʻoe iho!
Ma ka mokuna mua, ua haʻi mua mākou i ka moʻolelo o Vika ʻewalu makahiki, nāna i hoʻopiʻi i ka ʻeha o kona ʻōpū a hele i ka lua i 10 mau manawa ma mua o ka hele ʻana i ke kula. Ua kūkākūkā kona makuahine me ia no ʻelua pule, hōʻoluʻolu iā ia a haʻalele iā ia i ka home 3 manawa. Aole nae i hiki ke imi i ke kumu o ka "maka'u" koke o ke kula. I ke ao a me ke ahiahi, ua ʻoliʻoli ke kaikamahine a olakino maikaʻi. No laila ua hoʻoholo ʻo Māmā e hana ʻokoʻa. No ke ʻano a me ka mea a Vicki i hoʻopiʻi ai a hoʻopaʻapaʻa ai, ua like ka hana a kona makuahine i kēlā me kēia kakahiaka. Kūlou ʻo ia a hoʻopā i ka poʻohiwi o ke kaikamahine a ʻōlelo mālie akā paʻa. “E hele ana ʻoe i ke kula i kēia manawa. E kala mai au he paʻakikī loa kēia iā ʻoe." A inā hele ʻo Vicki, e like me ka wā ma mua, i ka lua i ka minuke hope loa, e ʻōlelo ka makuahine: “Aia ʻoe i loko o ka lua. ʻO ka manawa kēia e haʻalele ai ʻoe». ʻAʻohe mea ʻē aʻe. I kekahi manawa ua hoʻopuka pinepine ʻo ia i kēia mau ʻōlelo. Ua nalowale loa ka ʻeha ma ka ʻōpū ma hope o hoʻokahi pule.
Mai kuhi hewa, he mea koʻikoʻi nā kūkākūkā ma waena o nā mākua a me nā keiki a hiki ke hana i nā manawa he nui i ka lā. I ka ʻai ʻana, i ka hoʻomana ahiahi, i ka manawa āu e hāʻawi ai i kāu keiki i kēlā me kēia lā (e ʻike i ka Mokuna 2) a me ka manawa kūʻokoʻa wale nō, ma ia mau kūlana kūpono lākou a alakaʻi i nā hopena maikaʻi. Loaʻa iā ʻoe ka manawa a me ka manawa e hoʻolohe ai, e hōʻike i kou makemake a e hoʻopaʻapaʻa iā lākou. E hoʻomaka i kāu mau kamaʻilio ponoʻī. ʻO nā kumu āpau āu i haʻalele ai i waho o ka pae i ka wā o ka noi ʻana o ka "moʻolelo haʻihaʻi" hiki ke hōʻike mālie a kūkākūkā ʻia. A inā he mea nui a pono ke keiki, hoʻolohe ʻo ia me ka hoihoi.
ʻO ka pinepine, hoihoi nā kamaʻilio ʻana i nā keiki ma ke ʻano he mea hoʻohilahila a me ke ʻano hoʻi e huki ai i ka manaʻo.
Ua hakakā ʻo Miriama, 6, e ʻaʻahu i kēlā me kēia kakahiaka. 2-3 manawa o ka pule ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hele i ke kula kindergarten no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻo ia i mākaukau i ka manawa. ʻAʻole kēia i hoʻopilikia iki iā ia. He aha ka mea e hiki ke hana i kēia hihia e "aʻo ma ka hana"?
Ua hoʻohana ʻo Māmā i ke ʻano "break record": "E ʻaʻahu ʻoe i kēia manawa. E lawe au iā ʻoe i ka māla i ka manawa. ʻAʻole i kōkua. Noho ʻo Miriama ma ka papahele me kona mau lole moe a ʻaʻole i neʻe. Ua haʻalele ʻo Māmā i ka lumi a ʻaʻole i pane mai i ke kelepona a kāna kaikamahine. I kēlā me kēia 5 minuke, hoʻi mai ʻo ia a ʻōlelo hou i kēlā me kēia manawa: “Miriam, makemake ʻoe i kaʻu kōkua? Aia ka pua, haʻalele mākou i ka hale. ʻAʻole i manaʻoʻiʻo ke kaikamahine. Ua hoʻohiki ʻo ia a uwē aʻe, ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ʻaʻahu. I ka manawa i ʻae ʻia, lawe ka makuahine i kāna kaikamahine ma ka lima a lawe iā ia i ke kaʻa. I ka lole moe. Lawe ʻo ia i kona ʻaʻahu me ia i ke kaʻa. Me ka ʻōlelo hōʻino nui, ua ʻaʻahu ʻo Miriama iā ia iho ma laila me ka wikiwiki o ka uila. ʻAʻole ʻōlelo iki ʻo Māmā. Mai ke kakahiaka aʻe, ua lawa ka ʻōlelo aʻo pōkole.
E manaʻoʻiʻo a ʻaʻole paha, hana mau kēia ʻano hana i ka makahiki kindergarten. He mea kakaʻikahi loa ka ʻike ʻia ʻana o ke keiki i loko o ka māla me ka lole moe. Akā, e mākaukau nā mākua i loko, ma ke ʻano he hopena hope loa. Manaʻo nā keiki. ʻO ka mea maʻamau, hoʻoholo lākou i ke kekona hope e ʻaʻahu.
- ʻO kekahi hiʻohiʻona like ʻole o ka hakakā ma waena oʻu a me kaʻu kaikamahine ʻeono makahiki. Ua kākau wau iā ia i ka lauoho, ua ʻike ʻo ia a ʻae. I ka manawa e hele ai, hoʻomaka ʻo ia e uē a hōʻole ʻo ia e haʻalele i ka hale. Nānā au iā ia a ʻōlelo mālie: “He manawa ko mākou ma ka mea hoʻomaʻamaʻa lauoho no kekahi manawa a e kiʻi wau iā ʻoe i ka manawa. ʻAʻole pilikia kou uē ʻana iaʻu, a maopopo iaʻu ua maʻa pū ka luna lauoho i kēia. Uwe pinepine nā keiki liʻiliʻi i ka wā ʻoki lauoho. A hiki iā ʻoe ke maopopo i hoʻokahi mea: inā ʻoe e ʻoluʻolu, hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi iā ʻoe iho pehea e ʻoki ai i kou lauoho. Ua uē ʻo ia ma ke ala a pau. I ko lākou komo ʻana i ka lauoho lauoho, kū ʻo ia a ʻae wau iā ia e koho i kahi ʻoki lauoho nona iho. I ka hopena, ua hauʻoli loa ʻo ia i ka lauoho hou.
- Maximilian, 8 makahiki. Ua pilikia ka pilina me koʻu makuahine. Ua kūkākūkā au me ia i ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pōkole a me ka hoʻohana ʻana i ke ʻano moʻolelo haʻihaʻi. A eia hou, noho ʻo ia ma ka ʻaoʻao o kāna keiki e hana ana i kāna haʻawina home a huhū ʻo ia no ka hiki ʻole iā ia ke noʻonoʻo a paʻa i nā kāleka pôpeku. ʻEkolu manawa āna i koi ai: "E waiho i nā kāleka." ʻAʻole i kōkua. ʻO ka manawa kēia e hana ai. ʻO ka mea pōʻino, ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hoʻoholo mua nona iho i kāna mea e hana ai ma ia hihia. A hana ʻo ia, hāʻule i ka huhū a me ke kaumaha. Lālau ihola ʻo ia iā lāua a haehae ihola. Akā, ua hōʻiliʻili ke keiki iā lākou no ka manawa lōʻihi, kūʻai aku, mālama kālā no lākou. Uwe nui ʻo Maximilian. He aha kāna i hana ai? Ua paʻakikī loa nā kāleka i ka noʻonoʻo. He mea kūpono loa ka wehe ʻana iā lākou no ka manawa, akā aia wale nō a pau nā haʻawina.
ʻenehana mooolelo haʻihaʻi i ka hakakā
ʻAʻole maikaʻi ka hana ʻenehana haʻihaʻi me nā keiki wale nō, akā me nā pākeke pū kekahi, ʻoi aku hoʻi i nā kūlana hakakā. E ʻike i ka ʻenehana moʻoʻōlelo haʻihaʻi