ʻO ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i ke aloha, ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe no ke olakino a me ka pōmaikaʻi he ʻano maikaʻi ʻole i waena o ka poʻe kōkua ʻoihana i nā kānaka. He aha ke aloha ʻona a pehea e ʻike ai, wehewehe ʻo Masha Subanta, ka luna o ka Kind Club Foundation.
"Toxic" aloha lilo i ka wā e hoʻomaka ai kekahi e "hana maikaʻi" i ka lilo o kekahi, e hoʻohana i nā waiwai o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole e hoʻolohe i nā manaʻo o nā mea ʻē aʻe. E nānā pono kākou i ka mea i hōʻike ʻia iā ia iho.
1. Ua ʻōlelo ʻia ʻoe e kōkua. ʻAʻohe mea ʻaiʻē i kekahi. Ke kōkua ʻoe, ʻaʻole no kou manaʻo he kuleana a hopohopo paha ʻoe i ka hoʻopaʻi ʻana, akā no kou makemake maoli, ʻo ia kōkua wale nō ka waiwai.
Kāhea ʻia ma nā ʻoihana pūnaewele "mai makaʻu ʻole", "he poʻe mākou a ʻo wai paha", "ʻaʻole hiki ke kala ʻia ma ke ala" ʻaʻole e huki, akā hoʻihoʻi. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, he hana hūnā lākou i nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo. Hilahila mākou a koi ʻia e hana i nā mea a mākou i makemake ʻole ai. Akā hiki ʻole ke kapa ʻia he aloha.
2. Helu lākou i kāu kālā a aʻo i ka mea e hana ai me ia. Ma mua o ka inu ʻana i ke kīʻaha kofe, kūʻai aku iā ʻoe iho i kahi kapa ʻē aʻe, a i ʻole hoʻomaha hoʻomaha, pono ʻoe e hāʻawi i kāu kālā i kahi mea "mea nui." He mea nui ia wai? Nāu? A hiki anei ke kāhea aku i kahi hana maikaʻi inā hoʻemi ʻia kou mau makemake i ke kaʻina hana?
Hana mākou a pau e ola maikaʻi. He kūpono ko mākou makemake e hoʻopiha i ka waiwai a uku iā mākou iho no kā mākou hana. He mea pono ke makemake i kekahi mea nou iho.
ʻO ka mea nui, makemake maoli ke kanaka e kōkua. A laila e hana hou ʻo ia
Hoʻomaka ka lokomaikaʻi me ke kanaka a hele mai kēlā me kēia kanaka. No laila, he mea nui e mālama ka mea hāʻawi i nā mea ʻē aʻe. A i ʻole, ʻelua mau ala ma mua: ʻo ia hoʻi, e pono koke i ke kōkua, a i ʻole e haʻalele ʻo ia i ke aloha, me ka manaʻo ʻole e kōkua i nā mea āpau.
No ke kōkua ʻana i ka maikaʻi o kou hiki ke manaʻo ʻoe i ka hemahema, e hoʻolohe i kou mau manaʻo i mea e koho ai i ke ala ʻoluʻolu loa e kōkua ai - ʻo kēia kahi ala ʻoi aku ka akahele i ke aloha.
3. Ua hewa mau ʻoe. Ua ʻōlelo ʻia ʻaʻole lawa kāu kōkua. ʻOi aku paha, i hoʻokahi manawa i kou ola ua ʻoi aku ka pōmaikaʻi. Hoʻomaka ʻoe e kaupalena iā ʻoe iho i nā mea āpau, akā ʻaʻole i pau ka manaʻo ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻāʻo nui.
ʻO ka mea nui, makemake maoli ke kanaka e kōkua. A laila e hana hou ʻo ia. E nānā iā ʻoe iho: ke hana ʻoe i kahi hana maikaʻi, pono ʻoe e hauʻoli i kou ʻuhane.
4. Hōʻole lākou e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i nā palapala. I ka pane ʻana i nā nīnau kūpono loa - kahi āu e ʻike ai i nā palapala a me ka nui o ka uku, he aha kā lākou e manaʻo ai e hana no kēia kālā a pehea e kōkua ai, inā he mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo mai nā kauka - lele nā hoʻopiʻi iā ʻoe: "He aha Ke ʻimi nei ʻoe i ka hewa?"
Ke hōʻino ʻia nei ʻoe, hilahila ʻoe he kanaka ʻuhane ʻole ʻoe a ke hoʻopau nei i kāu mau nīnau he makuahine hiki ʻole ke hōʻoluʻolu, he keiki makua ʻole pōʻino, he maʻi ʻilihune? Holo, ʻaʻohe minamina i ke keiki / pipi / makua. Pono ka poʻe e hoʻonohonoho i ka hōʻiliʻili e hōʻike a wehewehe i kahi e hele ai kāu kālā.
He manawaleʻa a pilikino ke aloha. ʻO kēia kā mākou pilina me ke ao nei, a ma kēlā me kēia pilina e maikaʻi
E huki i nā hopena i kou lohe ʻana: "ʻAʻole lākou i hāʻawi i hoʻokahi ruble, akā hana lākou i nā koi", "Ehia ka nui o kāu hoʻololi? E hoʻihoʻi aku au i kēia kālā iā ʻoe i ʻole ʻoe e hopohopo nui."
Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole hiki mai kēia - pinepine ma hope o ka nīnau mua e hoʻouna ʻia ʻoe i ka pāpā.
5. ʻAʻole ʻoe i noi i ka ʻōlelo aʻo, akā ua aʻo ʻia ʻoe i ke kōkua pololei. Kōkua ʻoe i nā keiki? No ke aha ʻaʻole nā holoholona? Holoholona? ʻAʻole ʻoe minamina i nā kānaka? No ke aha ʻoe e hele ʻole ai i nā keiki makua ʻole?
Ke kākau mai ka poʻe loea "sofa" iaʻu e kōkua au i ke ala hewa a me ka hewa, pane pōkole wau: wehe i kāu kālā a kōkua e like me kou manaʻo. He manawaleʻa a pilikino ke aloha. ʻO kā mākou pilina kēia me ko ke ao nei, a i loko o kēlā me kēia pilina, pono ia e maikaʻi, inā ʻaʻole he aha ke kumu o lākou?