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ʻAʻole makemake ke keiki e ʻai. ʻO kahi pilikia maʻamau. ʻO nā mākua e pono e hoʻoponopono i ia mea ua hoʻokaʻawale ʻia i ʻelua mau hoʻomoana: hoʻoikaika kekahi i ke keiki e ʻai e like me ka papa kuhikuhi, ʻaʻole e hoʻokau kekahi iā ia. Akā makemake nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua e hoʻonā i ka pilikia ma ka honua a puni, ʻo ia hoʻi, e hana i kahi makemake olakino i kā lākou pēpē. Hiki paha? ʻOi loa!
ʻEkolu mea nui e pili ana i ka makemake e ʻike kēlā me kēia mākua
Ma mua o kou hoʻomaka ʻana i kahi papahana e hoʻomaikaʻi i kou makemake, e hoʻomanaʻo pono.
- Pili paha ka makemake ʻole e ʻai me ka maʻi. ʻO ka mea mua, e nānā i nā hōʻailona olakino āpau, a laila hoʻomaka i nā hana ʻeleu. Inā maʻi ke keiki, ʻaʻole wale ʻoe e hana i kekahi makemake i loko ona, akā haʻo pū kekahi i ka manawa.
- ʻO ka makemake i ke olakino ʻaʻole makemake nui i nā manawa āpau. Aia kekahi poʻe ʻaʻole ʻai lawa, a maikaʻi kēlā. Maliʻa paha ʻo kāu keiki kekahi o lākou. E kamaʻilio me kāu kauka, e lawe i nā hoʻokolohua, e ʻike pono ua lawa ka nui o nā huaora a me nā minelala o kāu pēpē, a mai koi i kahi papa ʻekolu papa.
- ʻO ka ʻai ʻana he mea ʻino e like me ka ʻai ʻole. A ʻo nā hopena ʻaʻole pono ka momona. ʻO kēia nā neuroses, a me nā maʻi ʻai (anorexia a me ka bulimia), a me ka hōʻole wale ʻana i kekahi mau huahana.
E hoʻomanaʻo i nā mea e pili ana i ka meaʻai, he maʻalahi loa e hōʻeha, no laila e akahele e like me ka hiki e pili ana i kāu hana, a kamaʻilio pinepine me nā kauka.
ʻO nā lula nui o ka hānai ʻana
ʻAʻole nui nā lula o ka hānai ʻana. ʻO kekahi o lākou, ʻo ka mea nui loa, penei: “Mai hoʻoikaika loa i ke keiki e ʻai.” ʻO ia ke koi "a hiki i kou wā e ʻai ai, ʻaʻole ʻoe e haʻalele i ka papa ʻaina" a me nā ultimatum ʻē aʻe e hana i ka hōʻole ʻana i ka meaʻai i ka pēpē. Me ka hoʻomanawanui kūpono, e hoʻokō ʻoe i ka hopena ʻē aʻe: ʻoiai inā makemake ke keiki e ʻai, e ʻai ʻo ia me ka makemake ʻole, no ka mea he mau hui maikaʻi ʻole kāna me nā meaʻai.
ʻO ke kānāwai aʻe e hilinaʻi i kāu keiki e pili ana i ka meaʻai. ʻO ka hapa nui o nā keiki, inā ʻaʻole i luku ʻia kā lākou ʻono e nā burger a me ka soda, ʻike i ka nui o nā meaʻai e pono ai a me ke ʻano. ʻAʻohe pilikia o ka pēpē me ke kaupaona (ma waena o ka pae maʻamau, ʻoiai ma ka palena haʻahaʻa), ʻaʻohe pilikia me ka neʻe (holo, pāʻani, ʻaʻole ʻoluʻolu), ʻaʻohe pilikia me ka noho (maʻamau, maʻamau)? No laila ʻaʻohe ou mea e hopohopo ai. Inā makemake ʻia, hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe i nā hoʻokolohua e hōʻoia i ka lawa o nā huaora a me nā minelala o ke kino.
ʻO kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e ʻai nā keiki me ka ʻai ʻole e like me ka papa kuhikuhi. ʻOiaʻiʻo, paʻakikī ke hoʻohui i kēia me ka koi ʻaʻole e koi iā ʻoe e ʻai. Akā hiki i kekahi mea. No ka hele ʻana i kahi papa ʻai, e kelepona mau i kāu keiki i ka manawa kūpono e ʻai ai. Holoi lima ʻo ia, noho ma ka papaʻaina, nānā i ka meaʻai i hāʻawi ʻia, ʻono. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e ʻai, e hoʻohuli iā lākou e hoʻāʻo i kahi puna, a ʻo ia nō. Inā hoʻāʻo ʻoe a hōʻole, hāʻawi i ka wai a i ʻole ke kī, hua. E hoʻokuʻu e hoʻomau i ka pāʻani. Ma hope o ka manawa, e hana ke keiki i ka noho ma ka papaʻaina i ka manawa like i kēlā me kēia lā a ʻai i kekahi mea. Me ka maʻa, e ʻike pū ʻia ka ʻai.
ʻO kekahi mea koʻikoʻi ʻo ka nele o nā meaʻai ma waena o nā meaʻai. ʻO ka manawa mua, i ka wā e ʻai ʻole ai ke keiki i ka manawa kūpono, ʻaʻole hiki ke hana me ka ʻai ʻole. Akā, pono ʻoe e hōʻemi i kā lākou helu a koho i nā mea ʻaʻole e hoʻopau i ka ʻai, akā e hoʻā. ʻO kēia nā ʻāpala, nā pahū home, nā nati, nā hua maloʻo.
Ke hoʻokumu nei i kahi hoihoi i ka meaʻai
ʻO ke kumu nui i makemake ʻole ai ke keiki e ʻai, ʻo ka hoihoi ʻole i ka meaʻai. I loko nō o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ke ola ka meaʻai, ʻaʻole maopopo i kāu pēpē i kēia. Nona, ka manawa o ka mana-ka manawa i haehae ʻia ai ʻo ia mai kahi pāʻani hoihoi. Akā hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻololi i kēlā.
ʻO ka mea mua, e kōkua nā pāʻani kuke iā ʻoe. Hiki iā ʻoe ke pāʻani ma ka home me nā keiki a i ʻole nā huahana maoli (nā huaʻai a me nā mea kanu), a i ʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke pāʻani ma ke kamepiula ma nā pahu uila kūikawā, e like me ʻaneʻi. E koho i ka polokalamu kahi i hoʻomākaukau ʻia ai ka meaʻai āu e makemake ai e hoʻāʻo kāu keiki. No ka laʻana, he steak a he omelet paha. A pāʻani! Ma hope o ka hoʻomākaukau ʻana i ia kīʻaha i ka pāʻani, makemake paha kāu keiki e hoʻāʻo. A inā ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia, hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kekahi.
A mai poina e hāʻawi i kāu keiki i nā huahana like ʻole. E hoʻomanaʻo i ka ʻoi aku o nā kīʻaha like ʻole a ke keiki e hoʻāʻo ai, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kona hoʻokele ʻana iā lākou a ʻoi aku ka kiʻekiʻe o kou manawa e loaʻa ai kahi mea āna e makemake ai. A ʻo ka ʻai ʻana me ka makemake ʻo ia ke kī i ka ʻai maikaʻi a me ke ʻano maikaʻi!