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He aha ka wahine hiki ʻole…
ʻO kekahi o nā hōʻailona o ko mākou manawa ua lōʻihi ka feminization, ʻo ia hoʻi, ka predominance o nā wahine ma nā wahi āpau e hoʻoikaika ikaika i ke ʻano, a me nā hopena e pili ana i kēia.
ʻO ka wahine, ʻoiaʻiʻo, hiki iā ia ke aʻo i ka decisiveness, straightforwardness, purposefulness, hanohano, lokomaikaʻi, ʻoiaʻiʻo, wiwo ʻole i nā keikikāne a me nā kaikamahine, hiki iā ia ke hoʻomohala i nā ʻōpio i nā ʻano pono no kahi alakaʻi e hiki mai ana, hoʻonohonoho ...
Hoʻopili pinepine ʻia ka wahine me kahi mea e pono ai - hiki iā ia ke hana me ke kāne ʻole, a no laila makemake ʻo ia e pani iā ia! Hiki i ka wahine ke hana nui! Hiki iā ia ke ʻoi aku ma mua o ke kāne ma nā ʻano kāne maʻemaʻe ("ka hoʻoholo kāne", "ka pololei kāne", "ka lokomaikaʻi kāne", etc.), hiki ke ʻoi aku ka wiwo ʻole ma mua o nā kāne he nui ...
Ke hoʻomanaʻo nei au i ke ʻano o ke poʻo o kahi keʻena ʻenehana nui o kahi mea kanu i "kahi" i kāna mau subordinates: "ʻOi aku ma mua o hoʻokahi haneli mau kāne ma ka ʻoihana, a ʻo ke kāne maoli wale nō, a laila ..." A kapa ʻo ia i ka inoa o ka wahine!
Hoʻokahi mea hiki ʻole i ka wahine ke hana ʻo ke kāne. Mai hoʻopaʻa paʻa, ʻaʻole wiwo ʻole, ʻaʻole ʻike ke Akua i ka hanohano a me ka hanohano e like me ka makemake o kekahi, akā he kanaka wale nō, me nā hemahema he nui ...
I kēia manawa, ʻaʻole pono ka makuahine i ka mahalo ʻia o kāna keiki, ʻoiai ʻo ia ka hauʻoli i kona ʻano like me ia, hiki iā ia ke ʻike iā ia iho me ke kāne.
E nānā i nā keiki kindergarten. ʻAʻohe mea e haʻi aku i kahi keikikāne: pono ʻoe e hoʻohālike i nā kāne a i ʻole nā keiki kāne. Ua koho pono ʻo ia i nā ʻano a me nā neʻe i loko o nā kāne. I kēia mau lā, ua hoʻolei ka pēpē i kāna kinipōpō a i ʻole nā ʻiliʻili me ke kōkua ʻole, e nalu ana ma hope o kona pepeiao, e like me nā keiki āpau. Akā, i ka pau ʻana o ke kauwela ma ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kahi ʻelemakule, ʻo kēia keiki kāne hoʻokahi, ma mua o ka hoʻolei ʻana i ka ʻiliʻili, kahi lāʻau, hana i kahi kowali kāne maʻemaʻe, hoʻoneʻe i kona lima ma ka ʻaoʻao a kulou i kona kino i laila. A ʻo ke kaikamahine, ʻo kona mau makahiki a me kāna ipo wahine, ke koli mau nei ma hope o kona poʻo ... No ke aha?
No ke aha i kope ai ʻo Oleg liʻiliʻi i nā ʻano o kona kupuna kāne a ʻaʻole kona kupuna wahine? No ke aha i huhū ai ʻo Boris liʻiliʻi ke lohe ʻo ia i kahi hoʻopiʻi aloha maikaʻi loa mai kahi hoa hoa ʻaʻole ʻae ʻole e kamaʻilio: "E, ma hea ʻoe i hele ai?" Ma hope o kēia "hōʻino", hōʻole ʻo Boris e ʻaʻahu i kahi kapa me kahi pāpale i hoʻopaʻa ʻia me ka velvet, a ʻoluʻolu i ka wā e hemo ai ka puʻupuʻu, e hoʻololi iā ia me kahi kola nondescript a me kahi beret "kāne" ...
ʻOiaʻiʻo, i nā makahiki i hala iho nei, ua aneane nalowale ke ʻano o ka lole i nā hiʻohiʻona o kekahi kāne, e lilo i ʻoi aku ka "genderless". Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole koi nā kāne i ka wā e hiki mai ana i kahi pālule, ʻaʻole i ka lole, akā "pants stitched", "jeans me nā ʻeke". . . A e like me ka wā ma mua, ua huhū lākou inā kuhihewa lākou he mau kaikamahine. ʻO ia hoʻi, hoʻāla ʻia ka mīkini ʻike kāne like.
Pono nā moa mele e lohe i ke mele o ko lākou hoa makua kāne i kekahi manawa o ko lākou mau makahiki, i ʻole, ʻaʻole lākou e aʻo i ka hīmeni.
Pono ke keikikāne e launa pū me ke kāne - i nā makahiki like ʻole, a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi - mau. ʻAʻole wale no ka ʻike ... ʻaʻole wale no ke keikikāne, akā no ke kaikamahine pū kekahi ...
Ma nā pili o ka "organic"
ʻAʻole hiki ke ana ʻia me nā mea kani, ʻaʻole hiki ke koho ʻia i nā huaʻōlelo ʻepekema kaulana. Akā naʻe, hōʻike ʻole kēia hilinaʻi kūlohelohe iā ia iho i nā kūlana o kahi haukapila neuropsychiatric.
ʻO ka mea mua, ʻo ka pono kūlohelohe o ke keiki no ka pilina kino a me ka naʻau me ka makuahine e hōʻike iā ia iho, ʻo ia ka mea e hoʻopilikia ai i nā ʻano like ʻole o ka noʻonoʻo. ʻO ke keiki ka ʻōpū o ke kino o ka makuahine, a ʻoiai ua kaʻawale ʻo ia mai ia mea, e lilo ana i mea kūʻokoʻa i ke kino, e pono mau ana ʻo ia i ka pumehana o kēia kino, ka hoʻopā ʻana o ka makuahine, kāna aloha ʻana no ka manawa lōʻihi. A i kona ola a pau, ua lilo ʻo ia i kanaka makua, pono ʻo ia i kāna aloha. ʻO ia, ʻo ka mea mua, he hoʻomau kino kino ia, a no kēia kumu wale nō kona hilinaʻi noʻonoʻo ma luna o ia mea. (I ka wa e mare ai ka makuahine i ka «makuakane o kekahi mea», ua ike pinepine ia keia me he mea la he hoouka ia e ka malihini i ka pili nui loa i ke ola o ke keiki! Ka hoohewa ana i kana hana, ka hoowahawaha o ka manao ponoi, ke koi pololei e «ae aku i ka makua o kekahi. ma ke ʻano he makua kāne - ʻo kēia mau mea wale nō ke kumu o ka manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole iā ia.
He pilina like ke keiki me kona makuakāne - inā no kekahi kumu e koi ʻia ʻo ia e pani i kona makuahine.
Akā ʻokoʻa ka manaʻo o ka makua kāne. Ma ke ʻano he poʻe makua, hiki ʻole i nā keikikāne a me nā kaikamahine mua ke hoʻopuka i nā huaʻōlelo i ko lākou mau manaʻo mua o kona pili. Akā ʻo ka mea mua - ma ke ʻano maʻamau - he manaʻo ikaika kēia, aloha a kokoke, e hoʻopuni ana iā ʻoe, e pale ana iā ʻoe, a, e like me ke komo ʻana iā ʻoe, lilo iā ʻoe iho, hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi manaʻo o ka invulnerability. Inā ʻo ka makuahine ke kumu o ke ola a me ka pumehana e ola ai, a laila ʻo ka makua kāne ke kumu o ka ikaika a me ka puʻuhonua, ʻo ia ka hoa mua mua nāna i hāʻawi i kēia ikaika me ke keiki, ka ikaika ma ke ʻano ākea o ka ʻōlelo. No ka manawa lōʻihi ʻaʻole hiki i nā keiki ke hoʻokaʻawale i waena o ka ikaika kino a me ka noʻonoʻo, akā manaʻo maikaʻi lākou i ka hope a huki ʻia iā ia. A inā ʻaʻohe makua kāne, akā aia kekahi kanaka kokoke i lilo i puʻuhonua a i hoaaloha kahiko, ʻaʻole nele ke keiki.
ʻO ka ʻelemakule - he kāne no ke keiki, mai ka wā kamaliʻi a kokoke i ka ʻōpio, pono e hana i kahi ʻano palekana maʻamau mai nā mea āpau i loaʻa i ka hoʻoweliweli: mai ka pōʻeleʻele, mai ka hekili hikiʻole ke hoʻomaopopoʻia, mai kahi'īlio huhū, mai "he kanahā powa", mai "space gangsters", mai ka hoalauna Petka, mai "nā malihini" ... "ʻO koʻu makuakāne (a iʻole" koʻu kaikuaʻana ", aiʻole" ko mākou makua kāne Sasha ”) ka-ak hāʻawi! ʻO ia ka ikaika loa!»
ʻO ka poʻe o kā mākou mau maʻi i ulu me ka makua ʻole a ʻaʻohe ʻelemakule - nā kāne, e haʻi (ma nā ʻōlelo ʻē aʻe a me nā ʻōlelo like ʻole) e pili ana i kahi manaʻo i kapa ʻia e kekahi poʻe i ka huāhuā, ʻo nā mea ʻē aʻe - makemake, ʻo nā mea ʻē aʻe - ka nele, a ʻaʻole i kapa ʻia kekahi. ma kekahi ʻano, akā ua ʻōlelo ʻia e like me kēia:
— I ka wā i hoʻomaka hou ai ʻo Genka e kaena ma kahi hālāwai: "Akā ua lawe mai koʻu makuakāne iaʻu i nā mea ʻono a kūʻai mai i pū hou!" Huli au a hele aku, a i ʻole e hakakā. Hoʻomanaʻo wau ʻaʻole makemake e ʻike iā Genka ma hope o kona makuakāne. A ma hope mai, ʻaʻole ʻo ia i makemake e hoʻi i ka hale i ka poʻe makua kāne. Akā, he kupuna kāne kahu hipa kā mākou ʻo Andrei, noho hoʻokahi ʻo ia ma ka lihi o ke kauhale. Hele pinepine au iā ia, akā hoʻokahi wale nō, ʻaʻohe keiki ...
Nui nā keiki o ka poʻe i loaʻa ʻole kahi makua kāne pili, i ko lākou mau makahiki ʻōpio, ua loaʻa i nā kākalaioa ʻoi o ka manaʻo nui i ka pale ʻana iā lākou iho me ka ʻole o ka pono. Ua ʻike ʻia ke koʻikoʻi ʻehaʻeha o ka pale ʻana i ka poʻe a pau i loaʻa ʻole i ka pae kūpono i ka wā ʻōpiopio.
A pono nō hoʻi kahi ʻōpio i ka makua kāne ma ke ʻano he hoaaloha kahiko. Akā, ʻaʻole ia he puʻuhonua, akā he puʻuhonua, kahi kumu o ka mahalo iā ia iho.
A hiki i kēia manawa, ʻo kā mākou mau manaʻo e pili ana i ka hana o ka ʻelemakule - nā kāne i ke ola o kahi ʻōpio he hewa ʻole, primitive, pōʻino: "Pono mākou i kahi ʻōlelo aʻo ...", "E hāʻawi i kahi kāʻei, akā ʻaʻohe mea ...", "Oooh. , ʻaʻohe makua ʻole, ʻaʻohe lua hohonu iā ʻoe, mai makaʻu ʻole, ulu lākou me ke kāne ʻole ... ”A hiki i kēia manawa, hoʻololi mākou i ka mahalo me ka makaʻu!
Hiki i ka makaʻu - no ka manawa - ke kāohi i kekahi mau manaʻo. Akā, ʻaʻohe mea maikaʻi e hiki ke ulu i ka makaʻu! ʻO ka mahalo wale nō ka ʻāina momona, kahi kūlana kūpono no ka hopena maikaʻi o ka ʻelemakule i ka ʻōpio, ke alakaʻi o kona ikaika. A hiki ke kapa ʻia kēia mahalo, pono, akā ʻaʻole hiki ke noi, he mea ʻole ke koi, e hana i ke kuleana. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoikaika i ka mahalo. Hoʻopau ka hana ʻino i ka mahalo. ʻAʻole i helu ʻia ka servility o ke kahua hoʻomoana «sixes». Makemake mākou e loaʻa i kā mākou mau keiki ka manaʻo maʻamau o ka hanohano kanaka. ʻO ia ke ʻano o ke kanaka, ma kona kūlana he lunakahiko, pono e nānā pinepine i ke aniani noʻonoʻo a me ka pono: hiki i nā keiki ke mahalo iā ia? He aha kā lākou e lawe mai ai iā ia? Makemake anei kāna keiki e like me ia?
Ke kali nei nā keiki…
ʻIke mākou i kekahi manawa ma ka pale i nā maka o nā keiki e kali nei: ke kali nei lākou i kahi e hele mai a lawe iā lākou i loko, ke kali nei lākou i kahi e kāhea mai iā lākou ... ʻAʻole wale nā keiki makua ʻole ke kali nei. E nānā i nā helehelena o nā keiki a me nā ʻōpio ʻōpio - ma ka lawe ʻana, ma nā laina, ma ke alanui wale nō. Aia nā helehelena e kū koke me kēia sila o ka manaʻolana. Maanei ua noho wale ia, kūʻokoʻa iā ʻoe, komo i kāna mau mālama ponoʻī. A hiki koke mai, ke ʻike nei i kou maka, me he mea lā e ala aʻe, a mai ka lalo o kona mau maka e ulu ana kahi nīnau ʻike ʻole "... ʻO ʻoe? ʻO ʻoe nō?"
Hoʻokahi manawa i ʻā mai kēia nīnau i loko o kou ʻuhane. ʻAʻole paha ʻoe i hoʻokuʻu i ke kaula kuʻi nā manaʻolana o kahi hoaaloha kahiko, kumu… E pōkole ka hālāwai, akā he mea nui ia. ʻO ka make wai ʻole, ka pono o kahi hoaaloha kahiko - aneane like me kahi ʻeha hāmama no ke ola ...
Akā, mai hāʻawi i ka manaʻo mua ʻole i hoʻopaʻa ʻia, Mai hoʻohiki i kāu mau keiki i kahi mea hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi! He mea paʻakikī ke ʻōlelo pōkole e pili ana i ka pōʻino o ka ʻuhane o ke keiki palupalu i ka wā e hina ai i kā mākou mau ʻōlelo hoʻohiki ʻole, ʻaʻohe mea ma hope!
Ke wikiwiki nei ʻoe e pili ana i kāu ʻoihana, a ma waena o nā wahi he nui e noho ʻia e kahi puke, kahi hālāwai aloha, pôpeku, lawaiʻa, ʻelua mau pia… Maalo ʻoe i kahi keikikāne e hahai ana iā ʻoe me kona mau maka… Alien? He aha ka mea ʻo wai kāna keiki! ʻAʻohe keiki ʻē aʻe. Inā huli ʻo ia iā ʻoe - e pane iā ia ma ke ʻano aloha, e hāʻawi iā ia i ka liʻiliʻi āu e hiki ai, ʻaʻole ia e uku iā ʻoe: aloha aloha, hoʻopā mālie! Ua koi ka lehulehu i kahi keiki iā ʻoe i ka lawe ʻana - pale iā ia, a e hoʻokomo i ka mana maikaʻi iā ia mai kou lima!
"ʻO wau iho", ʻo ka makemake no ke kūʻokoʻa he mea hoʻokahi. He ʻokoʻa ka "makemake au iā ʻoe, e ka hoaaloha". ʻAʻole loaʻa ka ʻōlelo waha i ka ʻōpio, akā ʻo ia! A ʻaʻohe mea kūʻē ma waena o ka mua a me ka lua. ʻAʻole keʻakeʻa kahi hoaaloha, akā kōkua i kēia "ʻO wau iho" ...
A i ka wā e huli aʻe ai nā ʻōpio a haʻalele iā mākou, e pale ana i ko lākou kūʻokoʻa, e kūʻē nui ana i nā mea a pau e hiki mai ana mai iā mākou, ʻo ia hoʻi ke ʻohi nei mākou i nā hua o ko mākou manaʻo noʻonoʻo ʻole iā lākou a, hiki paha i ko mākou kumakaia. Inā ʻaʻole makemake ka ʻelemakule kokoke e aʻo pehea e lilo ai i hoaaloha no ka ʻōpio, ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia e hoʻomaopopo i kāna mau pono noʻonoʻo koʻikoʻi, ua kumakaia ʻo ia iā ia ...
Hoʻopilikia loa iaʻu ʻaʻole wau ʻōpio, he wahine wale nō wau, i hoʻokau mau ʻia e nā pilikia o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. A i kekahi manawa ho'ōki au i nā ʻōpio. Mai nā malihini i ka pane ʻana i kaʻu "hello", hiki iā ʻoe ke lohe i kēia: "A aloha mākou i nā hoaaloha!" A laila, huli haʻaheo a haʻalele paha: “Akā, ʻaʻole mākou e aloha aku i nā malihini!” Akā ʻo kēia mau ʻōpio hoʻokahi, i ka lohe ʻana i kaʻu "hello" no ka lua o ka manawa, hōʻike lākou i ka ʻike a ʻaʻole wikiwiki lākou e haʻalele ... ʻAʻole pinepine kekahi e kamaʻilio me lākou me ka mahalo a me nā mea like ... ʻAʻohe o lākou ʻike e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea koʻikoʻi, akā. loaʻa i ko lākou mau manaʻo ponoʻī i nā ʻano he nui o ko mākou ola! I kekahi manawa ua like keia mau kanaka opio e auwana ana mai kela a me keia puka me na ipu kaawale e kali ana e hoopihaia. ʻAʻole manaʻo hou kekahi e kāhea kekahi iā lākou. ʻAe, inā kāhea lākou - ma hea?
E nā kāne, e hele i nā keiki - iā ʻoe iho a me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, i nā keiki o kēlā me kēia makahiki! Pono lākou iā ʻoe!
Ua ʻike au i hoʻokahi kumu-matematika - ʻo Kapiton Mikhailovich Balashov, nāna i hana a hiki i ka wā ʻelemakule. Ma kahi o ka pau ʻana o ka makahiki ʻeiwa, haʻalele ʻo ia i nā papa kula. Akā, ua lawe ʻo ia i ke ʻano o ke kupuna kāne ma ke kula kindergarten kokoke loa. Ua hoʻomākaukau ʻo ia no kēlā me kēia hālāwai, hoʻomaʻamaʻa, me ka manaʻo e "haʻi i kahi moʻolelo moʻolelo", nā kiʻi i koho ʻia nona. Me he mea lā ʻo ke kupuna kāne kahiko - ʻo wai ka mea e pono ai kēia? Pono!! Aloha nui nā keiki iā ia a kali: “Ahea lā e hele mai ai ko kākou kupuna kāne?”
Ke kali nei nā keiki - liʻiliʻi a nui - iā ʻoe me ka ʻike ʻole. Ke kali nei ka poe nona na makua ola. He mea paʻakikī ke haʻi aku ʻo wai ka mea ʻilihune: ʻo ka poʻe i ʻike ʻole i ko lākou makuakāne, a i ʻole nā keiki i hele i loko o ka inaina, ka hoʻowahāwahā a me ka inaina i ko lākou makuakāne ponoʻī ...
He mea pono i kekahi o oukou ke hele mai e kokua i kela kanaka. No laila… Aia paha kekahi o lākou ma kahi kokoke. E noho me ia no kekahi manawa. E hoʻomau ʻoe i kahi hoʻomanaʻo, akā e hoʻokomo iā ia me ka mana māmā, inā ʻaʻole hiki ke hana ma ke ʻano he kanaka ...
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Nā kumuhana o ke kamaʻilio ʻana: He aha ke ʻano o ka wahine e pono ai ʻoe i mea e male kūleʻa ai? ʻEhia mau manawa e mare ai nā kāne? No ke aha he kakaikahi na kanaka ma'amau? keiki ʻole. Ka makua. He aha ke aloha? He moʻolelo i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. ʻO ka uku no ka manawa kūpono e pili kokoke i kahi wahine nani.