Mai ka wā kamaliʻi, ua aʻo ʻia mākou e pono e kamaʻilio i ko mākou mau kūpuna me "ʻoe": nā hoaaloha o ko mākou mau mākua, kahi wahine kūʻai aku i kahi hale kūʻai, kahi malihini ma ke kaʻa. No ke aha e hana ai kēia lula ma ka ʻaoʻao hoʻokahi? Pono paha ka poʻe mākua e hoʻohana i kahi ʻano kamaʻilio mahalo me nā keiki?
Me he mea lā ʻaʻohe mea kupanaha i ka nīnau ʻana i kahi keikikāne ʻewalu makahiki e kū ana i ka laina: "ʻO ʻoe ka hope?". A i ʻole e koi aku i kahi mea hele liʻiliʻi: "Ua hāʻule kou pāpale!". Akā, pololei anei? ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻike pinepine mākou i kēia mau keiki no ka manawa mua a ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke kapa i kā mākou pilina aloha. I nā poʻe mākua i kēlā ʻano kūlana, ʻaʻole mākou e manaʻo e huli iā "ʻoe" - ʻaʻole kūpono kēia.
Ua kamaʻilio pū ke keikikāne ʻo Arthur i kēia kumuhana, nona ka manaʻo i hoʻopaʻa ʻia e kona makuahine ma ka wikiō a paʻi ʻia i kekahi lā ma Instagram: (kahi hui extremist i pāpā ʻia ma Rūsia) ”. ʻO wau anei kou hoaaloha? ʻO wau anei kāu keiki? ʻO wai wau iā ʻoe? No ke aha ʻaʻole "ʻoe"? ʻOiaʻiʻo, no ke aha i manaʻo ai ka poʻe mākua e hiki ke kapa ʻia ka poʻe ʻoi aku ʻo "ʻoe"? He mea hoʻohaʻahaʻa kēia…”
I ka lā, ua loaʻa ka wikiō ma mua o 25 tausani mau manaʻo a hoʻokaʻawale i nā mea hoʻopuka i ʻelua mau kahua hoʻomoana. Uaʻae kekahi me ka manaʻo o Arthur, me kaʻikeʻana he mea pono e kamaʻilio "ʻoe" i nā mea a pau, me ka nānāʻole i ka makahiki o ke kanaka: "Maikaʻi, mai kona wā kamaliʻi e mahalo iā ia iho!"
Akā, ua huhū ka hapa nui o nā mākua i kāna mau ʻōlelo. Ua ʻōlelo kekahi i nā lula o ka ʻōlelo etiquette: "Ua ʻae ʻia e kamaʻilio ʻia nā keiki a hiki i 12 mau makahiki me" ʻoe. Ua kuhikuhi kekahi mea hoʻohana ʻaʻole hiki i nā keiki ke «poop out». ʻIke ʻia, ma ka ikaika o ka maʻa a me ka moʻomeheu. A i ʻole no ka mea, i kona manaʻo, ʻaʻole i kūpono ia: "ʻOiaʻiʻo," ʻo ʻoe "he mea hoʻopiʻi i nā mākua a me ka hoʻokupu."
Aia kekahi poʻe i manaʻo maʻamau i ka manaʻo o ke keiki ma ia kumuhana he mea pōʻino: "A laila, i ka wā ʻelemakule, e loaʻa i kahi makuahine mai ka mea heluhelu heluhelu i nā pane akamai, kūpono a, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻohe mahalo. No ka mea, ua ʻike nui lākou i ko lākou mau pono.
No laila pehea e mālama ʻia ai nā keiki? He pane pololei i kēia nīnau?
Wahi a Anna Utkina, ke keiki a me ka ʻōpio psychologist, hiki iā mākou ke ʻike maʻalahi inā e wehe mākou i nā ʻano moʻomeheu, nā lula o ka etiquette a me ka aʻo ʻana a noʻonoʻo pono: nā keiki. A laila e nīnau pehea lākou e ʻoluʻolu ai i ke kamaʻilio ʻana.
Pono ke keiki e noʻonoʻo i ke kūlana a me ke kamaʻilio
No ke aha he mea nui ia? Ua like anei ke kamaʻilio ʻana o ke keiki iā ia? ʻAʻole ia. "Ma ke kāhea ʻana i ka interlocutor" ʻoe ", mālama mākou i kahi mamao, e hōʻike ana i ka mahalo iā ia. No laila, me ke keiki, mālama mākou i kahi mamao palekana no ia ma ke kamaʻilio ʻana, - wehewehe ka loea. — ʻAe, ʻo ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana iā "ʻoe" e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka hoʻokumu ʻana i ka pilina me ka interlocutor. Akā, hoʻohālike maoli mākou he hoaaloha nona, e lawe i kahi i loko o kona pōʻai i loko. Ua makaukau anei oia no keia?
Hoʻomaopopo ka psychologist he nui nā keiki makemake e mālama ʻia e like me nā pākeke, ʻaʻole like me nā keiki. No laila, hauʻoli nui lākou i ka "hoʻokiʻekiʻe ʻia" ko lākou kūlana. Eia kekahi, ma kēia ala mākou e hoʻonoho ai i kahi hiʻohiʻona maikaʻi no lākou: pono e mālama ʻia kēlā me kēia interlocutor me ka mahalo.
"ʻOi aku ka mea nui ʻaʻole e hoʻokomo i loko o ke keiki i kekahi mau ʻano o ka etiquette, akā e aʻo iā ia e maʻalahi i kāna hoʻokokoke ʻana i kēia pilikia. No ka laʻana, e ʻike i nā kūlana ke hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻololi iā "ʻoe", a ʻaʻole kēia he ʻano hana hewa weliweli. ʻO ka manawa pinepine ka poʻe mākua e makemake i kēia lapaʻau, - wahi a Anna Utkina. - Pono ke keiki e noʻonoʻo i ke kūlana a me ka mea kamaʻilio. A inā kūpono, e kamaʻilio me ke kaohi, ma kahi mamao, a ma kahi e alakaʻi ai i kahi kamaʻilio me ka democratically.