Ke loli mau nei mākou, ʻoiai ʻaʻole mākou e ʻike mau. Hiki i nā loli ola ke hoʻohauʻoli a kaumaha paha, hāʻawi iā mākou i ka naʻauao a i ʻole e hōʻeha iā mākou iho. Aia nā mea a pau inā mākaukau mākou no ka loli.
1. Ke ano o ka holoholona
ʻO ka nui o nā mea makemake ma lalo o nā kiʻi me nā pōpoki ma nā ʻoihana pūnaewele e kamaʻilio eloquently e pili ana i ke aloha i nā holoholona ʻehā wāwae. ʻAʻole kēia he nūhou: hana nā holoholona i kahi lewa o ka hōʻoluʻolu, kōkua e hoʻokō i ke kaumaha a me ka hopohopo. Ma nā hale kahi e noho ai kahi pōpoki a ʻīlio paha, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ka poʻe i ka maʻi puʻuwai. Nui nā poʻe e koho i kahi holoholona no lākou iho, e mālama pono iā ia e like me ka ʻohana.
Akā ʻo ka ʻīlio pā hale maʻamau a i ʻole ka pōpoki mai kahi puʻuhonua hiki ke lilo i kumu hauʻoli no ka manawa lōʻihi. ʻO ka poʻe e pāʻani me nā holoholona no 15 a 20 mau minuke i ka lā e hoʻonui i nā kiʻekiʻe o ke serotonin a me ka oxytocin, nā neurotransmitters e pili pū ana me ka hauʻoli a me ka hauʻoli. He ʻoiaʻiʻo nō hoʻi ka hope: i nā ʻīlio, piʻi pū ka pae oxytocin i ka wā e launa pū me ka mea nona.
2. Ka male ʻana
ʻO ke koʻikoʻi a mākou e ʻike ai i ka wā e hoʻolālā ai i ka male ʻana e hoʻopau ʻia e ka hauʻoli o ka manaʻolana e pili ana i ke ola me kahi mea aloha. Ma waho aʻe o ka loaʻa ʻana o ka loaʻa, loaʻa i ka poʻe male ka palekana noʻonoʻo - ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ke kaumaha, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ka lilo ʻana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau, a ʻoi aku ka māʻona iā lākou iho a me ko lākou ola ma mua o ka poʻe hoʻokahi. ʻOiaʻiʻo, loaʻa kēia mau pōmaikaʻi i ka poʻe i mare hauʻoli.
ʻO ke ʻano o ka hoʻonā hakakā ʻana o nā wahine e pili ana i ka manaʻo nui a me ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i ka manaʻo o ka hoa.
I loko o nā ʻohana dysfunctional, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ke ʻano psychological, ʻoi aku ka pōʻino o nā mea hoʻoweliweli i helu ʻia. ʻO ke koʻikoʻi, ka hopohopo a me ka hoʻomāinoino ʻana i ka manaʻo e pili nui i nā wahine. ʻAʻole naʻe lākou e lawe i nā mea āpau i ka puʻuwai.
Aia ke kumu i loko o nā ʻano o ka hoʻonā hakakā: ʻo ke ʻano o nā wahine e pili ana i ka empathy a me ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā manaʻo o kahi hoa, ʻoiai ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ka pane ʻana o nā kāne a i kahi kūlana hakakā ʻoi aku ka makemake e pale i kahi kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻole.
3. Wehewehe
ʻO ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana me kahi mea i aloha nui ʻia ma mua, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka hoʻāʻo koʻikoʻi ma mua o kona make ʻana. ʻOiaʻiʻo, i kēia hihia, ʻike mākou i ka hōʻeha ʻino - i kā mākou koho, ko mākou mau manaʻolana a me nā moeʻuhane. Hiki iā mākou ke nalo i ko mākou mau ala a hāʻule i loko o ke kaumaha hohonu.
4. Hānau keiki
Me ka hiki ʻana mai o nā keiki, ʻoi aku ka mālamalama a me ka waiwai o ke ola. ʻO ia ka ʻōlelo a ka manaʻo maʻamau. Akā, hōʻike nā helu ʻaʻole maopopo loa nā mea. Ua hōʻike ʻia kahi haʻawina 2015 e ʻike nā mākua i ka nūhou o kahi hoʻohui hou i ko lākou ʻohana me ka hauʻoli a me ka hauʻoli. Akā ma hope mai, ʻelua hapakolu o lākou i ʻike i ka hāʻule ʻana o nā pae hauʻoli i ka makahiki ʻelua o ka hānai ʻana i kahi keiki, i ka wā i hala ai ka euphoria mua a hoʻi ke ola i kahi papa paʻa.
Pono ka hāpai ʻana, a pono mākou e ʻike i ke kākoʻo mai nā mea aloha, ʻoi aku hoʻi i nā makahiki mua.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻoi aku ka manaʻo o kahi noiʻi mua: i kēia lā, ʻaʻole hauʻoli nā mākua ma mua o 20 mau makahiki i hala, akā ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli ma mua o ka poʻe ʻaʻohe keiki. No nā kūlana e hoʻoholo ai inā he mea maikaʻi ka hānau ʻana o ke keiki iā mākou, ua aneane lokahi ka poʻe psychologists: makemake ʻia ka hāpai ʻana, a pono mākou e manaʻo i ke kākoʻo mai nā mea aloha, ʻoi loa i nā makahiki mua.
5. Ka make o na makua
ʻOiai ke hele nei mākou a pau i kēia a hoʻāʻo paha e hoʻomākaukau iā mākou iho ma mua, ʻo ka nalowale ʻana o kahi mea aloha he mea pōʻino. ʻO ka ikaika o ke kaumaha e pili ana i ka pilina me ka makua. ʻO ka mea maʻamau, ʻoi aku ke kaumaha o nā kāne no ka nalowale ʻana o ko lākou makuakāne, ʻoiai ʻo nā kaikamahine he paʻakikī ke ʻike i ka nalowale o ko lākou makuahine.
ʻO ka ʻōpio mākou, ʻoi aku ka ʻeha. ʻO nā keiki i nalowale i ko lākou mau mākua i ko lākou wā liʻiliʻi, ʻoi aku ka nāwaliwali o nā ʻōnaehana pale a ʻoi aku ka pilikia o ke kaumaha a me ka pepehi kanaka. Piʻi aʻe ka pilikia inā ʻaʻole hauʻoli nā mākua a hala i ka pepehi kanaka.