Manaʻo ʻia me kēlā me kēia kuhihewa e loaʻa iā mākou ka ʻike a me ka naʻauao. Akā, ʻoiaʻiʻo nō? Ua kamaʻilio ʻo Psychoanalyst Andrey Rossokhin e pili ana i ka stereotype "aʻo mai nā hewa" a hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole hiki i ka ʻike i loaʻa ke pale aku i nā kuhi hewa.
"Makemake nā kānaka e hana hewa. Akā, ʻo ka naʻaupō wale nō ke koi nei i kāna kuhihewa" - ʻo kēia manaʻo o Cicero, i kūkulu ʻia ma kahi o 80 BC, hoʻoulu i ka manaʻo manaʻo nui: inā pono mākou i nā hoʻopunipuni i mea e hoʻomohala ai a neʻe i mua, a laila pono ke nalowale!
A i kēia manawa, hoʻoikaika nā mākua i ke keiki i loaʻa i kahi deuce no ka haʻawina home ʻaʻole i hana ʻia: "E lilo kēia i haʻawina iā ʻoe!" A i kēia manawa ke hōʻoiaʻiʻo nei ka luna i nā limahana ua ʻae ʻo ia i kāna kuhi hewa a ua paʻa ʻo ia e hoʻoponopono. Akā, e ʻoiaʻiʻo kākou: ʻo wai ka mea o kākou ʻaʻole i hehi hou i ka rake like? ʻEhia ka mea i hoʻopau i kahi maʻamau maikaʻi ʻole i hoʻokahi manawa? ʻO ka nele paha o ka manaʻo e hewa?
ʻO ka manaʻo e ulu aʻe ke kanaka ma ke aʻo ʻana mai nā hewa he alakaʻi alakaʻi a luku. Hāʻawi ia i kahi manaʻo maʻalahi loa o kā mākou hoʻomohala ʻana ma ke ʻano he neʻe mai ka hemahema i ka hemolele. I loko o kēia loiloi, ua like ke kanaka me kahi robot, kahi ʻōnaehana e pili ana i ka hemahema i hiki ke hoʻoponopono ʻia, hoʻoponopono ʻia, hoʻonohonoho i nā hoʻonohonoho pololei. Manaʻo ʻia ʻo ka ʻōnaehana me kēlā me kēia hoʻoponopono e hana ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, a ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o nā hewa.
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hōʻole kēia ʻōlelo i ka honua o loko o ke kanaka, ʻo kona ʻike ʻole. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole mākou e neʻe nei mai ka maikaʻi loa i ka maikaʻi. Ke neʻe nei mākou - i ka ʻimi ʻana i nā manaʻo hou - mai ka hakakā a i ka hakakā, ʻaʻole hiki ke pale ʻia.
E ʻōlelo kākou ua hōʻike ke kanaka i ka huhū ma mua o ke aloha a me ka hopohopo e pili ana iā ia, me ka manaʻo ua hana hewa ʻo ia. ʻAʻole maopopo iā ia i kēlā manawa ʻaʻole ʻo ia i mākaukau no kekahi mea ʻē aʻe. ʻO ia ke kūlana o kona ʻike, ʻo ia ke kiʻekiʻe o kona hiki (koe naʻe, ʻoiaʻiʻo, he hana ʻike, ʻaʻole hiki ke kapa ʻia he kuhi hewa, akā, he hōʻino, he hewa).
Ke loli mau nei ka honua o waho a me ka honua i loko, a ʻaʻole hiki ke manaʻo ʻia ʻo kahi hana i hana ʻia i ʻelima mau minuke i hala aku nei e noho hewa.
ʻO wai ka mea ʻike i ke kumu e hehi ai ke kanaka i ka rake like? Hiki i nā kumu he nui, me ka makemake e hōʻeha iā ia iho, a i ʻole e hoʻāla i ke aloha o kekahi kanaka, a i ʻole e hōʻoia i kekahi mea - iā ʻoe iho a i kekahi. He aha ka hewa maanei? ʻAe, pono mākou e hoʻāʻo e hoʻomaopopo i ka mea e hana ai mākou i kēia. Akā ʻo ka manaʻolana e pale aku i kēia i ka wā e hiki mai ana he mea ʻē.
ʻAʻole ko mākou ola ʻo "Groundhog Day", kahi hiki iā ʻoe ke hana hewa, e hoʻoponopono iā ʻoe, e ʻike iā ʻoe iho ma ka manawa like ma hope o kekahi manawa. Ke loli mau nei ka honua o waho a me ka honua i loko, a ʻaʻole hiki ke manaʻo ʻia ʻo kahi hana i hana ʻia i ʻelima mau minuke i hala aku nei e noho hewa.
He mea maʻalahi ke kamaʻilio ʻana ʻaʻole e pili ana i nā hewa, akā e pili ana i ka ʻike a mākou e hōʻiliʻili ai a hoʻopaʻa ʻia, ʻoiai e ʻike ana i nā kūlana hou i hoʻololi ʻia, ʻaʻole pono ia. He aha ka mea e hāʻawi mai iā mākou i kēia ʻike?
ʻO ka hiki ke hōʻiliʻili i kou ikaika i loko a hana ʻoiai e noho mau ana i ka pilina pololei me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a me ʻoe iho, kou mau makemake a me kou mau manaʻo. ʻO kēia pilina ola e hiki ai i kēlā me kēia pae aʻe a me ka manawa o ke ola - e like me ka ʻike i hōʻiliʻili ʻia - e ʻike a loiloi hou.