Ke hoʻokō ʻole ko lākou makemake e manaʻo i kahi pēpē i ka hāpai ʻana, huli nā kāne he nui i AMP (Assisted Reproductive Medicine) a i ʻole AMP. Ma kahi mamao loa mai ka pili ʻana o ka male, hopu ʻia mākou i kahi protocol olakino e lilo i mea koʻikoʻi i ka hoʻokō ʻana i kā mākou papahana. I ko mākou hoʻāʻo ʻana, hoʻohana ʻia ko mākou kino i nā mea hana, kikoo i ka hoʻokō ʻana i ka papahana a kēia keiki.
Kākoʻo Psychological
I kēia lā, ua holomua nui nā hui lapaʻau e kākoʻo i nā kāne i manaʻo i ka pono. I ka wā o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana, kākoʻo ʻia mākou i ʻole e hoʻokuʻu iā mākou iho i ka manaʻo o ka huhū, ka pono ʻole, a i ʻole ke kaumaha; e hiki ke hoʻohuli hou i kā lākou mau manaʻo i ka manawa o ka hāpai ʻana, i ka pēpē i manaʻo ʻia, ʻaʻole i ka makemake hoʻokahi e lilo i mau mākua i mea e like ai me nā kāne ʻē aʻe. I kekahi manawa, pono ʻoe e kiʻi i ke kōkua mai kahi psychologist, e ʻimi i ke ala o ke kamaʻilio me kāu hoa inā pono. (a ʻaʻohe mea e hilahila ai!)
Pilikia nui
Ke hiki mai ka hāpai ʻana, ʻike mākou he lanakila maoli, ʻike mākou i kahi manawa hauʻoli nui, ʻo ia ka mea e hele pū me ka hoʻolaha ʻana i kahi hanana hauʻoli. A e ala mai nā kānalua a hopohopo paha e like me nā mākua a pau e hiki mai ana, i kekahi manawa ʻoi aʻe ka hoʻokūkū. Ma hope o kēlā kali lōʻihi, ikaika loa ka makemake e loaʻa kahi keiki, mākaukau mākou e hoʻokipa i kahi pēpē a mālama iā ia. Akā i ka manawa i hānau ʻia ai ka pēpē, ua kūpono i kekahi manawa a ʻike mākou iā mākou iho i ka uē ʻana, ka hoʻokumu ʻana i nā mele hiamoe, nā pilikia hānai liʻiliʻi. Aia nā po'e 'oihana ma'i a me nā kamali'i mua (nā kauka, nā palekeiki, nā kahu hānai) e ho'omākaukau me ka mālie no kā mākou kuleana hou, 'a'ole ma ke 'ano he "mākua hemolele" akā he "mākua mālama".
Lawe ʻia kēia ʻatikala mai ka puke kuhikuhi a Laurence Pernoud: J'attends un enfant 2018 edition)