"Ua hanaʻia nā male ma ka lani": he aha keʻano?

ʻO ka ʻōlelo ʻana i ka huaʻōlelo "Ua hana ʻia nā male ma ka lani", ke manaʻo nei mākou i ka hui ʻana o nā kānaka ʻelua: kahi mana kiʻekiʻe i hui pū ai i kahi kāne a me kahi wahine, hoʻomaikaʻi i kā lāua hui a e aloha iā lāua i ka wā e hiki mai ana.

A no laila, e noho pū lākou me ka leʻaleʻa, e hānau a hānai i nā keiki hauʻoli he nui, e hui pū me ka ʻelemakule ma waena o kā lākou moʻopuna aloha a me nā moʻopuna. Makemake au e hoʻohui e make maoli lākou i ka lā hoʻokahi. Ma ka laulā, ʻike ʻia kahi kiʻi idyllic o kahi ola ʻohana hauʻoli. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, makemake mākou i ka hauʻoli, a mau loa - mai ka hoʻomaka a i ka hopena.

A inā he pilikia, a laila ua hewa kekahi mea? A i ʻole he kuhi hewa i ka wā mua? ʻO ka mea ʻoiaʻiʻo e makemake e ʻike - ʻo kēia kaʻu hoa pili i ke ola?

ʻO ia ʻike e hāʻawi i ka hana pili ola, ʻaʻohe mea e hiki mai. Akā hiki iā ʻoe ke noho mālie, me ka ʻike ʻana aia ʻolua ma ke ala pololei. ʻIke ʻoe, huāhuā wau iā ʻAdamu lāua ʻo Eva i kekahi manawa: ʻaʻole i loaʻa iā lāua ka ʻeha o ke koho. ʻAʻohe "mea noi" ʻē aʻe, a ʻo ka male ʻana me kāu mau keiki ponoʻī, nā moʻopuna a me nā moʻopuna, ʻaʻole ia he holoholona!

A i ʻole he mea maikaʻi paha ka nele o kahi koho? A inā ʻelua wale nō ʻolua, e aloha paha ʻoe i kekahi i kekahi? Pehea kēia, no ka laʻana, i hōʻike ʻia i ka kiʻiʻoniʻoni Passengers (2016)? A i ka manawa like, ma ka kiʻiʻoniʻoni "Lobster" (2015), ua makemake kekahi mau mea e lilo i holoholona a make paha, i ʻole e hui pū ʻia me nā mea aloha ʻole! No laila, pohihihi nā mea a pau ma ʻaneʻi.

I ka manawa hea kēia huaʻōlelo i kēia lā?

Nui ka mea i kākau ʻia no ka male ʻana i loko o ka ʻEvanelio, akā makemake au e hōʻike i kēia: “… ( Mataio 19:6 ), i koʻu manaʻo, hiki ke ʻike ʻia ʻo ka makemake o ke Akua e pili ana i nā male.

I kēia lā, ʻōlelo pinepine ʻia kēia postulate i ʻelua mau hihia. A i ʻole e hana ʻia kēia e ka poʻe hoʻomana ikaika i mea e makaʻu ai a noʻonoʻo pū me nā hoa kāne (maʻa pinepine ʻia) e noʻonoʻo ana i ka hemo. A i ʻole pono ʻo ia e hoʻokuʻu iā ia iho i ke kuleana no kāna koho: ʻōlelo lākou, ua hoʻouna ʻia ʻo ia iaʻu mai luna mai, a ke ʻeha nei mākou, ke amo nei mākou i ko mākou keʻa.

I koʻu manaʻo, ʻo ia ka manaʻo like ʻole: ʻoiai ua mālama ʻia ka ʻahaʻaina o ka ʻahaʻaina ma ka luakini, a laila na ke Akua mai kēia male. A ma ʻaneʻi hiki i nā mea he nui ke kūʻē mai iaʻu, e hāʻawi ana i nā hiʻohiʻona he nui i kekahi manawa me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole, ma ke ʻano a i ʻole ka hoʻokamani hoʻokamani, no ka hōʻike ʻana, ua mālama ʻia ka male ʻana o kekahi mau kāne i loko o ka luakini.

E pane au i kēia: aia ma ka lunamanaʻo o nā kāne, no ka mea, ʻaʻohe mana kūikawā o nā kahuna e nānā i ke kiʻekiʻe o ka ʻike a me ke kuleana o ka poʻe makemake e mare.

A inā loaʻa, a laila hiki ke ʻike ʻia ka hapa nui o ka poʻe i makemake ʻole he kūpono ʻole a mākaukau ʻole, a ʻo ka hopena, ʻaʻole lākou e ʻae ʻia e hana i ʻohana e like me nā lula o ka hale pule.

Na wai i ʻōlelo kēlā?

Wahi a ka Palapala Hemolele, ua hana ʻia a hoʻohui ʻia nā kānaka mua e ke Akua ponoʻī. Mai ʻaneʻi paha, ua hoʻomaka ka manaʻo e hoʻokumu ʻia nā kāne ʻē aʻe me ka ʻole o kona ʻike, ke komo ʻana a me ka ʻae.

Wahi a ka noiʻi a ka mea kākau moʻolelo ʻo Konstantin Dushenko¹, hiki ke loaʻa ka ʻōlelo mua o kēia ma ka Midrash - kahi wehewehe Iudaio o ka Baibala mai ka makahiki XNUMXth, ma kāna ʻāpana mua - ka puke o Genesis («Genesis Rabbah»).

Aia ka ʻōlelo ma kahi paukū e wehewehe ana i ka hui ʻana o ʻIsaaka a me kāna wahine ʻo Rebeka: «Ua hoʻohālikelike ʻia nā kāne ma ka lani», a i ʻole ma kekahi unuhi ʻē aʻe: "ʻAʻohe male o ke kāne ke ʻole ma ka makemake o ka lani."

Hiki ke loaʻa kēia ʻōlelo ma kekahi ʻano a i ʻole ma ka Palapala Hemolele. Eia kekahi laʻana, ma ka mokuna 19 o ka Buke Proverbs a Solomona: "ʻO ka hale a me ka waiwai, he hoʻoili ia mai nā mākua, akā,ʻo ka wahine naʻauao, na ka Haku ia."

A eia hou ma ka Baibala hiki i kekahi ke loaʻa pinepine nā kuhikuhi i ka male ʻana o nā makua kāne o ke Kauoha Kahiko a me nā koa i "mai ka Haku."

ʻO nā huaʻōlelo e pili ana i ka lani kumu o nā uniona i kani pū ʻia mai nā lehelehe o nā koa o nā hana moʻokalaleo o ka waena o ke kenekulia XNUMX a ma hope ua loaʻa i nā ʻano hoʻomau like ʻole a me nā hopena, ʻo ka hapa nui o ka hao a me ke kānalua, no ka laʻana:

• “… akā, ʻaʻole lākou manaʻo i ko lākou holomua”;
• «… akā, ʻaʻole pili kēia i ka male koi ʻia»;
• «… akā, ʻaʻole hiki i ka lani ke hana i kēia hana hewa ʻino loa»;
• «… akā, hana ʻia ma ka honua» a i ʻole «… akā hana ʻia ma kahi o ka noho ʻana.»

Ua like kēia mau hoʻomau a pau i kekahi i kekahi: ʻōlelo lākou i ka hōʻino i ka kūleʻa o ka male ʻana, i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e kali maoli ka hauʻoli iā mākou. A ʻo nā mea a pau no ka makemake o ka poʻe mai ka wā kahiko a makemake e hōʻoiaʻiʻo e hiki mai ka hana mana o ke aloha like. A ʻaʻole maopopo iā lākou a ʻaʻole makemake paha e hoʻomaopopo ua hana ʻia kēia aloha i loko o kahi kāne, i hana ʻia e kāna poʻe hui ponoʻī ...

I kēia lā, ʻo ke kānalua i pane ʻia e ka poʻe i ka huaʻōlelo "Ua hana ʻia nā male ma ka lani" ma muli o nā helu hemo: ʻoi aku ma mua o 50% o nā uniona i ka wā i haki. Akā ma mua, i ka wā i hoʻokomo ʻia ai ka nui o nā male ma lalo o ke koi a me ka ʻike ʻole ʻia, ma ka manawa wale nō, he ʻuʻuku nā ʻohana hauʻoli e like me kēia lā. ʻAʻole ʻae ʻia ka hemo ʻana.

A ʻo ka lua, ʻaʻole maopopo ka poʻe i ke kumu o ka male. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ʻaʻole kēia he idyll hui pū, akā he misionari, i ʻike mua ʻia e mākou, pono e hoʻokō nā kāne e like me ke kumumanaʻo o ka Mea Mana Loa. E like me kā lākou e ʻōlelo nei: ʻaʻole hiki ke ʻike ʻia nā ʻaoʻao o ka Haku. Eia naʻe, ma hope mai ua maopopo kēia mau manaʻo i ka poʻe makemake e wehewehe.

ʻO ke kumu o ka male: he aha ia?

Eia nā koho nui:

1) ʻO ka pahuhopu nui loa, i koʻu manaʻo, ʻo ka hāʻawi ʻia ʻana o nā hoa pili kekahi i kekahi no ke ola a i ʻole no kekahi manawa i mea e e hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe iho a hoʻololi no ka maikaʻi. Lilo mākou i kumu a i ʻole, inā makemake ʻoe, he mau hoa sparring.

He mea minamina i ka pinepine o kēia ala hui i mau makahiki wale nō. A laila hiki i kekahi a i ʻole nā ​​hoa ʻelua i kahi pae hou o ka hoʻomohala ʻana a me ka hana ʻana a, i ka loli ʻana, ʻaʻole hiki ke noho maluhia me ka maluhia. A ma ia mau hihia, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka ʻike koke ʻana i kēia a hoʻopuehu maluhia.

2) E hānau a hānai i kahi kanaka kū hoʻokahi a i ʻole no nā keiki hui e ʻike i kahi mea nui. No laila makemake ka poʻe ʻIseraʻela kahiko e hānau i ka Mesia.

A i ʻole, e like me ka mea i hōʻike ʻia ma Life Itself (2018), pono nā mākua e "ʻeha" i mea e hui ai kā lākou mau keiki a aloha kekahi i kekahi. Noʻu, ʻo ka manaʻo o kēia lipine ʻo ia kēia: ʻo ke aloha aloha ʻoiaʻiʻo he mea kakaikahi hiki ke manaʻo ʻia he hana mana, a no kēia mea, hiki ke hoʻopaʻa ʻia nā hanauna i hala.

3) No kēia male ʻana e hoʻololi i ke ala o ka mōʻaukala. No laila, no ka laʻana, ua pau ka male ʻana o ke Kamāliʻiwahine Margarita o Valois me Henry de Bourbon, ka mōʻī e hiki mai ana ʻo Henry IV, ma ka pō o Bartholomew i 1572.

Hiki i kekahi ke kuhikuhi i ko mākou ʻohana aliʻi hope i laʻana. ʻAʻole makemake maoli ka poʻe iā Queen Alexandra, a ʻoi aku ka huhū o nā poʻe i kona ʻano iā Rasputin, ʻoiai ua koi ʻia, no ka maʻi naʻe o kāna keiki. ʻO ka male ʻana o Nicholas II lāua ʻo Alexandra Feodorovna hiki ke manaʻo ʻia he mea koʻikoʻi!

A ma muli o ka ikaika o ke aloha like ʻana o nā kānaka nui ʻelua, i wehewehe ʻia e ka Empress i kāna diary i ka makahiki 1917 (ma hope, ua paʻi ʻia kāna mau memo, heluhelu hou au iā lākou a paipai iā lākou i nā mea āpau), i paʻi ʻia ma lalo o ke poʻo inoa: " Hāʻawi i ke aloha” (Heluhelu hou au i kēlā me kēia manawa a paipai i nā mea a pau).

A ma ke ʻano o ke koʻikoʻi no ka mōʻaukala o ka ʻāina a me ka hale pule (ua hoʻopaʻa ʻia ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa i ka makahiki 2000 a ua hoʻopaʻa ʻia e like me nā haipule). ʻO ka male ʻana o Peter a me Fevronia, ko mākou poʻe haipule Lūkini, ua lawe i ka misionari like. Ua haʻalele lākou iā mākou i kumu hoʻohālike o ke ola male maikaʻi, ke aloha Karistiano a me ke kūpaʻa.

ʻO ka male ʻana me he hana mana

ʻIke au i ke kuleana o ke Akua i ka hoʻokumu ʻana i nā ʻohana i kēlā hui ʻelua kanaka kūpono. I ka wā o ke Kauoha Kahiko, ua hana pololei ke Akua i kekahi manawa - ua hoʻolaha ʻo ia i ka wahine nāna e lawe i wahine nāna.

Mai ia manawa, makemake mākou e ʻike maopopo ʻo wai kā mākou hoʻopalau a he aha kā mākou kumu, no ka loaʻa ʻana o ka pane pololei mai luna mai. I keia la, ua hiki mai keia mau moolelo, o ke Akua "hana" emi maopopo.

Akā, i kekahi manawa, ʻaʻohe o mākou kanalua i ka hopena o kekahi poʻe ma kēia wahi a i kēia manawa ma muli wale nō o ka manaʻo o ka hana mana, ʻo ka mana kiʻekiʻe wale nō ka mea hiki ke hoʻokō i kēia. Pehea e hana ai kēia? E hāʻawi wau i kumu hoʻohālike mai ke ola o kahi hoaaloha.

Ua neʻe koke ʻo Elena i Moscow mai nā panalāʻau me nā keiki ʻelua, hoʻolimalima i kahi hale a hoʻopaʻa inoa ʻia ma kahi pūnaewele pili, kahi paʻa a uku ʻia, ma hope o ka heluhelu ʻana i nā loiloi ma ka Pūnaewele. ʻAʻole wau i hoʻolālā i kahi pilina koʻikoʻi i nā makahiki ʻelua e hiki mai ana: no laila, e ʻike paha i kekahi no kahi leʻaleʻa hui.

He Muscovite ʻo Alexey, ua hemo i ʻelua mau makahiki i hala. ʻO ka makemake e ʻimi i kahi hoaaloha ma hope o ka hoʻāʻo pinepine ʻana e hālāwai me ka offline, ua hoʻoholo e hoʻopaʻa inoa ma ka pūnaewele hoʻokahi ma hope o ka heluhelu ʻana i ka loiloi like a me ka uku ʻana i hoʻokahi makahiki ma mua.

Ma ke ala, ʻaʻole ʻo ia i manaʻo e hui koke ʻo ia i kahi kāne ma ʻaneʻi: ua manaʻo ʻo ia e hoʻoheheʻe ʻo ia i nā leka a me nā hālāwai hoʻokahi manawa "e loaʻa ai ka ikaika libidinal wahine" (ʻo ia he psychologist, maopopo ʻoe).

Ua hoʻopaʻa inoa ʻo Alexey i ka lawelawe i ke ahiahi, a ua hauʻoli nui ʻo ia i kēia kaʻina hana i holo ai ʻo ia ma kona kahua ma ke kaʻaahi a me ka pilikia, ma hope o ke aumoe, hiki i ka hale. Ma hope o kekahi mau hola, ma kekahi ʻāpana o ke kūlanakauhale, ua hana ʻia kēia.

ʻO Elena, ka mea i kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻole i kēlā manawa me nā mea noi no kekahi mau pule, ala koke ʻo ia i ka hola 5 o ke kakahiaka, ʻaʻole i loaʻa iā ia ma mua. A, ʻaʻole noʻonoʻo maoli, e hana ana ma ka makemake, hoʻololi ʻo ia i ka ʻikepili o kāna ʻaoʻao a me nā ʻāpana ʻimi.

I ke ahiahi o ka lā hoʻokahi, kākau mua ʻo Elena iā Alexei (ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hana i kēia ma mua), pane koke ʻo ia, hoʻomaka lākou i kahi leka, kelepona koke lākou a kamaʻilio no hoʻokahi hola, e ʻike ana kekahi i kekahi ...

I kēlā me kēia lā mai ia manawa mai, e kamaʻilio ana ʻo Elena lāua ʻo Alexei no nā hola, e makemake ana kekahi i kekahi i ke kakahiaka maikaʻi a me ka pō maikaʻi, e hui ana i nā Pōʻakolu a me nā Sābati. Loaʻa iā lāua kēia no ka manawa mua ... Ma hope o 9 mau mahina e hui pū ai lāua, a hoʻokahi makahiki ma hope mai, ma ka lā hoʻomanaʻo o ko lāua kamaʻāina, pāʻani lāua i kahi male.

Ma nā kānāwai āpau o ka physics, sociology a me nā ʻepekema ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole pono lākou e hui a hoʻomaka e noho pū, akā ua hiki! He mea nui e hoʻomaopopo i ka mea i hoʻopaʻa inoa ʻia ma ka pūnaewele kaʻa no ka manawa mua, ua hoʻohana ʻo ia ma kahi o hoʻokahi mahina ma luna o ia mea, a hoʻokahi lā wale nō ʻo ia. Ma ke ala, ua ho'āʻo ʻo Aleksey e hoʻihoʻi i ke kālā i uku ʻia no ka makahiki, akā ʻaʻole i loaʻa.

ʻAʻole hiki i kekahi ke hōʻoiaʻiʻo mai iaʻu ua hui wale lākou me ke kōkua ʻole o ka lani! Ma ke ala, ma kahi o hoʻokahi makahiki ma mua o ko lāua hui ʻana, e like me ka mea i ʻike ʻia, aia kekahi mea ʻē aʻe - ua auwana lākou i ka lā hoʻokahi ma nā keʻena o ka hōʻike hoʻokahi (lele ʻo ia i Moscow), akā ʻaʻole lākou i manaʻo e hui. .

Ua hala koke ko lāua aloha, ua wehe ʻia nā aniani ʻulaʻula, a ʻike lākou kekahi i kekahi i kona nani a me kona mau hemahema. Ua hiki mai ka manawa o ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa… A ua hoʻomaka ka hana lōʻihi o ka ʻae ʻana i kekahi i kekahi, hoʻokumu i ke aloha. Ua loaʻa iā lākou a pono e hele a hana i nā mea he nui no ko lākou hauʻoli.

Makemake au e hōʻuluʻulu i ka naʻauao o ka poʻe: hilinaʻi i ke Akua, akā mai hana hewa ʻoe iā ʻoe iho. Inā makemake ʻoe e ola hauʻoli ma hope, pono ʻoe e hana ikaika iā ʻoe iho a me nā pilina. Ma mua o ka male ʻana a ma ke kaʻina o ka noho pū ʻana, ʻelua kūʻokoʻa (hele i kahi psychologist) a hui pū (e hele i nā hui psychotherapy ʻohana).

ʻOiaʻiʻo, hiki me ka ʻole o mākou, psychologists, akā me mākou ʻoi aku ka wikiwiki a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ʻo ka male hauʻoli e pono ai ke oʻo, ka ʻike, ka ʻike, ka hiki ke noʻonoʻo a me ke kūkākūkā ʻana, ka hoʻomohala ʻana i nā pae like ʻole o ke ʻano o nā hoa ʻelua: kino, naʻauao, naʻau, socio-cultural a me ka ʻuhane.

A ʻo ka mea nui loa - ka hiki ke aloha! A hiki ke aʻo ʻia kēia ma ka pule ʻana i ke Akua no ka makana o ke Aloha.

¹ http://www.dushenko.ru/quotation_date/121235/