Nui nā wāhine e makaʻu i ka ʻōlelo ʻole. ʻOi loa i ka pili ʻana i ka moekolohe. Makaʻu nā wahine e pili ana kēia i ka kumakaia o kā lākou kāne, hoʻokuke iā ia, hewa. Ma muli o kēia, nui ka poʻe e hoʻoikaika iā lākou iho e moe i ka wā ʻaʻole lākou makemake. Akā ʻaʻole hiki ke hana i kēia. A ʻo ia ke kumu.
ʻO ke kino wahine he ʻōnaehana paʻakikī e pili ana i nā kumu like ʻole. A ʻo ka makemake o ka wahine e hilinaʻi paha i nā pae o ka pōʻaiapuni, e hoʻololi i nā pae hormonal (no ka laʻana, ka hāpai ʻana, ka umauma, ka menopause, ke kaumaha). A ma ka laulā, i kekahi manawa ʻaʻole makemake i ka moekolohe he mea maʻamau no kēlā me kēia kanaka ma ke kumu.
He mea nui e lohe iā ʻoe iho - he aha ia "ʻAʻole wau makemake." He mea nui e hoʻomaopopo iā mākou iho ke kuleana no ko mākou libido. Inā moe, he mea nui e noʻonoʻo i ke kumu. Malia paha he luhi wale nō, a laila pono ʻoe e mālama iā ʻoe iho a hoʻomaha, hoʻihoʻi i ka ikaika a me kou pae ikehu. Akā ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī, nā kumu huna.
Inā loaʻa nā palena olakino i loko o kahi kāne, a laila he kuleana ko kēlā me kēia hoa e hōʻole i ka pilina. A ʻo kahi "ʻaʻohe manaʻo" maʻalahi "ʻAʻole wau makemake i kēia manawa" ʻike ʻia e kēlā ʻaoʻao me ka huhū ʻole a me ka huhū. Hoʻomaka nā pilikia ke lilo nā hemahema. ʻO ia hoʻi, ʻaʻole makemake hou kekahi o nā kāne i kekahi.
He aha ka hopena o ka makemake o nā wahine?
- ʻO nā pilikia i ka pilina o ka kāne a i ʻole nā pilikia noʻonoʻo pilikino. ʻAʻole paha i maʻalahi nā mea a pau me kāu kāne, ua hōʻiliʻili ka huhū a i ʻole ka huhū i ka pilina, a no laila ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake i ka pilina. Hiki pinepine nā pilikia ma kahi moe i nā paio i hoʻoholo ʻole ʻia ma nā wahi ʻē aʻe - no ka laʻana, kālā.
- "Ka hale". Hiki nō hoʻi ke haʻalele loa i kahi huna, aloha aloha, a ʻaʻohe mea makemake e lawe i ke kuleana no ka hoʻomaha ʻana i ka pilina a me ka hanu ʻana i ka ikehu iā lākou.
- Ka nele i ka leʻaleʻa a me ka ʻoluʻolu. ʻAʻole ʻike ka nui o nā wahine i ka orgasms i ka wā o ka moekolohe, no laila ʻaʻole hoihoi paha ka moekolohe iā lākou. I kēia hihia, he mea pono i ka wahine - hoʻokahi a me kahi hoa - e hoʻomaka i ka ʻimi ʻana i kāna moekolohe, kona kino, a ʻike i ka mea e hauʻoli ai. He mea nui hoʻi pehea e mālama ai ka hoa i ka leʻaleʻa o ka wahine, no ka mea, inā manaʻo wale ʻo ia iā ia iho, ʻaʻole paha e wela ka wahine me ka makemake.
- Nā mea paʻakikī a me nā hoʻonohonoho hoʻopunipuni. ʻO ka pinepine o ke kumu o ka "moe" he paʻakikī ("kekahi mea i hewa i koʻu kino, honi, ʻono", a pēlā aku) a i ʻole nā poloka psychological ("makemake sex is ino", "sex is inndecent", "I'm not wahine ino» a me na mea e ae). Hoʻokomo pinepine ʻia lākou i loko o mākou i ka wā kamaliʻi - e ka ʻohana a i ʻole ke kaiāulu, a ʻaʻole pinepine ka hoʻohewa ʻia ʻana i ka wā ʻelemakule. A laila he mea nui e lohe i ka leo o kēia poʻe ʻē aʻe iā ʻoe iho a noʻonoʻo hou i kēlā mau ʻōlelo.
- Nā leo o nā kuʻuna makua kāne. "ʻAʻole au e lawelawe iā ia i kēlā me kēia kelepona!", "Eia kekahi! ʻAʻole au makemake e ʻoluʻolu iā ia!» — i kekahi manawa hiki iā ʻoe ke lohe i kēlā mau ʻōlelo mai nā wahine mai. Akā, nani nā mea a pau. He aha ka hopena iā ia i ka wā e lilo ai ka pilina pili i "lawelawe" no ka wahine?
ʻIke loa, aia ka pilikia i nā koena patriarchal: ma mua, pono ka wahine e hoʻolohe i kāna kāne - a ma kahi moe pū kekahi. I kēia lā, hoʻokumu kēia manaʻo i ke kūʻē, hiki ke hele i kahi ʻē aʻe - ka hōʻole ʻana i ka pilina, i manaʻo ʻia e pono wale i ke kāne.
Akā i loko o kahi pilina olakino, hoʻopili ka pilina pili i nā hoa pili, a he mea maʻamau ia e ʻoluʻolu no lāua. A inā ʻaʻole mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka hana ʻino, a laila he mea kūpono ke ʻike inā pili ia ʻano ala i kā mākou pilina maoli. Malia paha, ma ka hoʻonele ʻana i kā mākou kāne i ka moekolohe, hoʻonele mākou iā mākou iho?
E uku i ka aie male?
Ke kū'ē ka wahine i kāna moe kolohe a i ʻole ua ulu ʻo ia me ka manaʻoʻiʻo i ka moe kolohe, hiki iā ia ke mālama iā ia ma ke ʻano he kuleana male. Inā ʻaʻole mākou e ʻae iā mākou iho e ʻōlelo "ʻaʻole" a hoʻoikaika mau iā mākou iho e pili pono, hiki ke nalo loa ka hoihoi i kahi hoa.
No ke aha he mea paʻakikī iā mākou ke hōʻole i ke kāne inā ʻaʻohe makemake? A hiki iā mākou ke hōʻike i ka wā e ʻike ʻia ai? He mea nui e pane i kēia mau nīnau a loaʻa hou ke kuleana e hōʻole.
ʻO ka manaʻo i ka moekolohe ma ke ʻano he kuleana, ʻo ka pilina ma o "ʻAʻole wau makemake" e hōʻino nui i ka maikaʻi o ke ola moe kolohe a me ke ʻano o ka naʻau o ka pilina. He mea leʻaleʻa i nā kāne ke manaʻo e hoʻoikaika ka wahine iā ia iho. ʻOi aku ka ʻoluʻolu no nā mea ʻelua ke moe ka wahine, makemake. ʻO ia ke kumu he mea nui e mahalo like i ke kūʻokoʻa o nā mea a pau e makemake a makemake ʻole.