Nā Manaʻo Hui Pū ʻIa: Nalo ʻAʻole au makemake e noho hou me

ʻO kēlā me kēia hoʻowalewale, ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻokaʻawale i ka honua i ʻelua mau pou maʻalahi a hoʻomaopopo: ʻeleʻele a keʻokeʻo, maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole, a mālama i nā kānaka a me nā hanana e like me ia. He pālua ko mākou ʻano, a ʻike pinepine mākou i nā ʻike pālua i paʻakikī ke hoʻokaʻawale. Hōʻike kā mākou mea heluhelu i nā manaʻo kū'ē i ka haʻalele ʻana me kahi kanaka āna i manaʻo ʻole ai he kumu pili i loko ona.

ʻO kekahi manawa ma hope o ka hemo ʻana, ua hōʻoia koke wau iaʻu iho i koʻu manaʻo nostalgic no ko mākou ola maʻamau. Ke nānā nei au i hope, ʻike au i nā mea he nui me ka maopopo a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. Paʻa mau mākou i ka ʻaina ahiahi, a laila noho mākou me ko mākou mau lima i kekahi i kekahi, e nānā ana i nā kiʻiʻoniʻoni, a aloha mākou i kēlā mau hola wale nō. Ke hoʻomanaʻo nei au i kona paʻa ʻana i koʻu lima i ka wā i ʻōlelo ʻia ai mākou e loaʻa kahi keiki kāne. ʻOiaʻiʻo, i kēia manawa ua ʻike wau i kēlā manawa he pilina ʻo ia me kekahi wahine.

Ke hoʻomanaʻo wau i kēia mau ʻāpana, hauʻoli wau, kaumaha, a ʻeha ʻole. Nīnau au iaʻu iho: no ke aha wau i kaumaha nui ai i kekahi manawa ʻaʻole i holo maikaʻi kahi pilina me kekahi aʻu i makemake ʻole e ʻike ma hope oʻu? I kekahi manawa me he mea lā iaʻu he nele kēia i ka manaʻo. Hauʻoli wau ʻaʻohe mea ʻē aʻe e pāʻani me koʻu mau manaʻo, a i ka manawa like ke mihi nei au no ka hiki ʻole iā mākou ke lilo i kāne hauʻoli. ʻAʻole wau makemake e noho me kēia kanaka, akā ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke "hoʻopau" i koʻu mau manaʻo.

ʻOiai ua hoʻopunipuni ʻo ia a hana i nā mea a pau e hōʻeha ai iaʻu i ka ʻeha o kā māua hemo ʻana, ʻaʻole naʻe wau e minamina i ka wā i aloha ai mākou a ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻokaʻawale iā mākou iho mai kekahi i kekahi. Ua maopopo iā mākou e noho pū mākou i ke koena o ko mākou ola. ʻAʻole loa au i ʻike i kekahi mea e like me ka nalu magnetic i kāʻili iā mākou.

ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke hōʻole i ka manawa hauʻoli i loko o kā mākou pilina, a no laila ke mahalo nei au iā ia

I ka manawa like, inaina au i koʻu ex. ʻO ke kanaka i hehi i koʻu hilinaʻi a waiho i koʻu mau manaʻo i mea ʻole. ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke kala aku iā ia ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hele mai iaʻu i ka wā i hāʻawi ai kā mākou pilina i ka māwae mua a ua kaumaha ʻo ia. Akā, ua hoʻāʻo ʻo ia e ʻimi i ka ʻike a me ke kākoʻo mai kekahi. Me kēia wahine ua kūkākūkā ʻo ia i ko mākou mau pilikia pilikino. Ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia i ka pilina me ia i koʻu hāpai ʻana i kā māua keiki, a ua paʻakikī au, ʻeha a hilahila hoʻi no kāna ʻano.

Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hōʻole i ka manawa hauʻoli i loko o kā mākou pilina, a ke mahalo nei au iā ia. ʻAʻole kēia manaʻo makemake wau iā ia e hoʻi, a ʻaʻole hoʻi e hoʻopau i ka ʻeha āna i hana ai iaʻu. Akā ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke poina i ko mākou ʻakaʻaka me ka mālama ʻole, ka huakaʻi, ke aloha, ka moeʻuhane no ka wā e hiki mai ana. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo paha i loaʻa iaʻu ka ikaika e ʻae aku i koʻu mau manaʻo paʻakikī i kaʻu kāne mua i ʻae iaʻu e haʻalele i kēia pilina. ʻO kēia wale nō paha ke ala e neʻe ai.

"Ma ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana i ke ola me kahi hoa mua, hoʻohaʻahaʻa mākou iā mākou iho"

ʻO Tatyana Mizinova, ka mea hoʻonaʻauao

Hiki iā ʻoe ke hauʻoli maoli no ka heroine o kēia moʻolelo, no ka mea, ʻo kona ʻike ʻana i kona mau manaʻo āpau ke ala maikaʻi loa e pane ai i ke kūlana. Ma keʻano he kūlana,ʻaʻole mākou e komo i nā pilina me nā poʻe iʻoluʻoluʻole iā mākou. Noho mākou i nā manawa olaola a kū hoʻokahi ʻaʻole hiki ke hana hou. Ke kali nei mākou i nā pilina ʻē aʻe i kūpono iā mākou, akā ʻaʻole like lākou, no ka mea, hoʻololi nā mea āpau - ʻo mākou a me kā mākou ʻike.

ʻAʻohe pilina kūpono, he hoʻopunipuni. Aia mau ka ambivalence i loko o lākou. Aia kekahi mea maikaʻi a koʻikoʻi i hui pū ai ka poʻe a hoʻopaʻa pū iā lākou, akā aia kekahi mea e lawe mai ai i ka ʻeha a me ka hōʻeha. Ke ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka huhū mau ma mua o ka leʻaleʻa, hoʻopuehu nā kānaka. ʻO kēia ke ʻano he pono ʻoe e poina i nā mea maikaʻi a pau a haʻalele i kou ʻike ola? ʻAʻole! He mea nui e hele mākou i nā manawa a pau o ke kanikau: hōʻole, huhū, kūʻai aku, kaumaha, ʻae.

ʻO ka manawa pinepine, nā hoaaloha maikaʻi, e ho'āʻo ana e kākoʻo, e ho'āʻo e hōʻino i kā mākou ex-hoa e like me ka hiki. No ke aha e hopohopo nui ai inā he kanaka waiwai ʻole ʻo ia, he mea ʻokoʻa a he ʻino? A lawe mai ia i ka hoʻomaha iki ... I kēia manawa wale nō ua ʻoi aku ka pōʻino mai kēia.

ʻAʻole mākou e haʻalele i kahi kanaka, akā i nā manawa aloha i ko mākou puʻuwai e pili pū ana me ia

ʻO ka mea mua, ma ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana i ka "ʻenemi", hoʻohaʻahaʻa lākou iā mākou, e hoʻomaopopo ana ua koho mākou i kekahi ʻaʻole i kiʻekiʻe kā mākou pā. ʻO ka lua, paʻa mākou i ka wā o ka huhū, a ke hoʻolohi nei kēia i ke ala i waho o ke kūlana traumatic, me ka waiho ʻole ʻana i kahi kumu no ke kūkulu ʻana i kahi mea hou.

Ma hope o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana me kahi hoa, ʻōlelo ʻoiaʻiʻo mākou ʻaʻole makemake mākou i nā pilina hou aku me kēia kanaka. No ke aha mākou e nalo ai a hoʻomanaʻo iā ia? Pono e nīnau iā ʻoe iho i kahi nīnau pololei: he aha kaʻu e nalo nei? ʻO ka mea nui, e ʻike ʻia ʻaʻole mākou e haʻalele i ke kanaka, akā ʻo kēlā mau manawa aloha i ko mākou puʻuwai e pili pū ana me ia, nā manawa hauʻoli i noho pū ʻia, a me nā manaʻo noʻonoʻo a kā mākou hoa i hoʻāla ai i loko o mākou.

No kēia mau manawa mākou e mahalo ai, aloha lākou iā mākou, no ka mea he ʻāpana koʻikoʻi lākou o ko mākou ʻike ola. Ke ʻae ʻoe i kēia, hiki iā ʻoe ke neʻe a hilinaʻi iā lākou ʻo kāu kumu waiwai nui loa.

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