Nā pilina hou: pehea e lanakila ai i ka hopohopo a hauʻoli i ke ola

Ke hoʻomaka mua ʻoe e launa pū me kekahi, ʻo ka hopohopo a me ka hopohopo he mau manaʻo kūlohelohe no ka mea hiki ʻole ke ʻike ʻia ka pilina a hiki ke weliweli i kekahi manawa, kākau ʻo Greene. Akā ʻaʻole maikaʻi loa ka hopohopo i kēlā ʻano kūlana: hiki i ka kānalua ke hoʻokaʻawale i kahi hoa. ʻAʻole maopopo paha kāu mea i koho ai i ke ʻano o ia mea, akā e manaʻo ʻo ia ʻaʻole ʻoluʻolu ʻoe iā ia, ʻo ia hoʻi ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake iā ia.

I ʻole e nīnau i nā nīnau premature e pili ana i kahi e alakaʻi ai ka pilina, a ʻaʻole hoʻi e hoʻoikaika i nā mea ma ka hāʻawi ʻana i ka hoa i ka manaʻo aia ʻo ia ma lalo o ke kaomi, ʻōlelo ʻo Green i ka haku ʻana i ʻekolu mau ʻenehana.

1. E mālama i kou hopohopo me ke aloha

ʻO ka leo o kou ʻōlelo hoʻohalahala i kekahi manawa, akā inā ʻoe e hoʻolohe pono, e hoʻomaopopo ʻoe ʻaʻole kēia he kanaka makua e ʻōlelo nei, akā he keiki makaʻu. ʻO ka pinepine, hoʻopaʻapaʻa mākou i kēia leo a hoʻopaʻapaʻa paha, akā hoʻonui wale kēia i ka hakakā kūloko. A ʻaʻohe mea lanakila ma ka hakakā ʻana me kekahi.

Manaʻo ʻo Green e noʻonoʻo ana i kahi kaikamahine liʻiliʻi e hele mai ana iā ʻoe a nīnau mai, "ʻAʻole lawa wau?" ʻAʻole paha ʻoe e uwē iā ia, akā e wehewehe he nani ʻo ia a hoʻāʻo e noʻonoʻo pehea ʻo ia i hiki ai i kēlā hopena. E hoʻolohe pono ʻoe i ka moʻolelo o ke kaikamahine a kōkua iā ʻoe e nānā iā ia ma ke ʻano hou mai ke kūlana o kahi kanaka makua i ʻike maopopo he pono ke aloha o kēia keiki.

Pela no ma mua o ka la. 'Ōleloʻo Greene e kākau i nā mea a pau e hopohopo nei iāʻoe a komo i kahi kūkākūkā maikaʻi me kēia mau manaʻo, me ka mālamaʻana i ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho. E nīnau i kahi kanaka makua iā ʻoe iho:

• He oiaio anei keia olelo?
• Pehea koʻu manaʻo ke noʻonoʻo au iā ia?
• Aia ma kahi o ʻekolu mau hiʻohiʻona e hiki ke hōʻoia i ka ʻokoʻa?

ʻO ka mālama ʻana i nā ʻaoʻao like ʻole o mākou iho me ke aloha a me ke aloha, ʻoiai e kū mālie ana i nā manaʻoʻiʻo e kaupalena iā mākou, e hoʻomaikaʻi wale ka manaʻo ponoʻī, wahi a Greene.

2. E hoʻoholo i kāu mea e pono ai a hiki i kāu poʻe aloha

Nui nā ala e pale aku ai i nā manaʻo ʻeha. ʻAi kekahi, nānā kekahi i ka TV, ʻike kekahi i ka hōʻoluʻolu i ka waiʻona. Ke hana ikaika nei kekahi e pale aku i ke kaumaha, ka makaʻu, ka huhū, ka huāhuā, a me ka hilahila. He nui ka poʻe hopohopo inā e ʻae lākou iā lākou iho e ola i kēia mau manaʻo, e hāʻule mau loa lākou i loko o ka hohonu o nā ʻike a ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke puka i waho o lākou, wahi a Green.

Akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo nā manaʻo ke ʻano o nā hōʻailona alanui e kuhikuhi ana i ke ala i ko mākou pono a me nā waiwai, a me pehea e hoʻokō ai. Hāʻawi ke kaʻi i kahi laʻana: E noʻonoʻo e kau i kou lima i loko o ka umu wela a ʻaʻole manaʻo i kekahi mea. ʻO ka mea nui loa, e hele mai ʻoe i ka manaʻo hewa e hoʻomoʻa ʻia ana kekahi mea i loko o ka lumi kuke, no ka mea, ʻala ʻo ia e like me ka meaʻai. ʻO ka ʻeha ka mea i manaʻo ʻia e haʻi aku iā ʻoe ua hewa kekahi mea.

Eia naʻe, pono e noʻonoʻo kekahi i ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o ka pono a me ka pono. ʻO ka makemake e hōʻike ana i kahi koi wikiwiki no ka hoa e hoʻokō koke i nā mea āpau a mākou e makemake ai. Ua ʻike ʻia kēlā me kēia manaʻo i kēlā me kēia manawa, wahi a Green. Eia kekahi, ua ʻike mākou a pau i nā poʻe e koi ana e hana i kekahi mea e like me kā lākou i ʻōlelo ai, ʻaʻohe mea ʻē aʻe.

Loaʻa nā manaʻo o kēlā me kēia kanaka, a inā mākou e haʻalele iā lākou, a laila ʻaʻole pono mākou i nā pilina a hoʻokuke mākou i ka poʻe e hoʻāʻo e hāʻawi iā mākou i ka hauʻoli. Akā ʻo ke olakino noʻonoʻo maoli aia i ka hiki ke ʻike i nā mea a mākou e pono ai a loaʻa i nā ala he nui e loaʻa ai. Ma kēia ala e hiki ai iā mākou ke hoʻokō i kā mākou mau pono a ʻaʻole e nānā pono i ka hopena o kēia.

ʻO ka manawa aʻe e loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole, ʻōlelo ʻo Greene e nīnau iā ʻoe iho: "He aha kaʻu e makemake nui ai?" Pono paha ʻoe e nānā hou aku mai kāu hoa pili, akā ua hoʻomaka ʻoe i ka launa pū ʻana, a ua hiki wawe ke nīnau iā ia. He mea pono ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kēia noi i ka poʻe āu i pili ai - ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha. ʻO ka hilinaʻi ʻana i ka pilina pili me lākou e lilo i kumu no ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho, e kākoʻo iā ʻoe i kahi lā.

Me he mea lā he mea kūʻē paha kēia ʻano hana iā ʻoe, akā i ka wā e ʻike ai mākou iā mākou iho i kahi lā me kahi mea a mākou e makemake nui ai, manaʻo pinepine mākou me he mea lā he ʻanuʻu mākou mai ka hoʻokō ʻana i kā mākou moeʻuhane. Paʻa loa kēia manaʻo iā mākou a paʻakikī loa ke hoʻololi i kahi mea ʻē aʻe. Akā ʻo ia ka mea pono e hana ʻia, wahi a Green. Hiki i nā hoaaloha a me nā ʻohana ke kākoʻo nui iā mākou.

ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e haʻalele loa i ka pilina, akā inā ʻoe e hoʻololi iā lākou me nā hālāwai me nā mea aloha, e maʻalahi ke ola.

3. E kamaʻilio e pili ana i kou mau manaʻo a me kou makemake ma ke ʻano e hoʻoulu ai iā ʻoe.

Inā ʻaʻole mākou i hilinaʻi iā mākou iho, hoʻopau pinepine mākou i kā mākou makemake a hana i nā mea kūpono no nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Akā,ʻaʻole e nalowale ka hopohopo mai kēia, akā e ulu wale a alakaʻi i ka huhū. I ka manawa e kaʻana like ai i ko mākou mau manaʻo, e hoʻokau nui nā manaʻo iā mākou i mea e pale ai ka hoa pili iā ia iho, a e alakaʻi kēia i ka hakakā.

ʻO ka poʻe i hilinaʻi iā lākou iho e haʻi i ko lākou mau ʻike a me nā makemake a hāʻawi e kūkākūkā iā lākou. Manaʻo lākou he mea nui kēia no kahi hoa a hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa mau i kahi kuʻikahi. No ka laʻana, inā he mehameha ʻoe, ʻōlelo ʻo Greene e kaʻana like i kou mau manaʻo, e like me, "ʻO ka mea i hana ʻia i kēia manawa ua hoʻolei iaʻu mai koʻu mau wāwae, akā kōkua nui ke kamaʻilio ʻana iā ʻoe. Hiki paha iā mākou ke kamaʻilio pinepine?

Ma mua o ka hui ʻana me kāu hoa, e hāʻawi manawa iā ʻoe iho e ʻike i kou mau manaʻo, e nānā i nā palena i hoʻonohonoho ʻia e ka hopohopo, a kamaʻilio pū me nā mea aloha. A i ka wā e ʻike ai ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kahi lā, mai makaʻu e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāu mau makemake - e ʻae i kāu hoa e manaʻo hiki iā ia ke kākoʻo maoli iā ʻoe.