I kekahi manawa ʻaʻole mākou e ʻike iki i ko mākou mau palena, a i kekahi manawa, ma kahi ʻē aʻe, hana ʻeha mākou i ka haʻihaʻi liʻiliʻi o lākou. No ke aha kēia hana? A he aha ka mea i komo i loko o kā mākou wahi pilikino?
Aia kekahi manaʻo i loko o ko mākou kaiaulu he pilikia o nā palena. ʻAʻole mākou maʻa loa i ka manaʻo a mālama iā lākou. No ke aha i kou manaʻo e pilikia mau ana mākou i kēia?
Sofia Nartova-Bochaver: ʻOiaʻiʻo, ua nāwaliwali kā mākou moʻomeheu o nā palena. Aia nā kumu maikaʻi no kēia. ʻO ka mea mua, mōʻaukala. E ʻōlelo wau i nā kuʻuna mokuʻāina. He ʻāina kolekivist mākou, he mea nui loa ka manaʻo o ka catholicity no Russia. Ua kaʻana like nā Lūkini, nā Lūkini i ko lākou wahi noho me kekahi poʻe ʻē aʻe.
ʻO ka ʻōlelo maʻamau, ʻaʻole lākou i loaʻa i ko lākou wahi pilikino kahi e noho hoʻokahi ai lākou me lākou iho. Ua hoʻoikaika ʻia ka mākaukau o kēlā me kēia kanaka no ke kaiāulu me kekahi e ka hoʻolālā mokuʻāina. Ma muli o ko mākou noho ʻana i kahi kūlana paʻa, ua paʻa nā palena o waho, a ʻo nā palena o loko ua maopopo loa. Ua alakaʻi ʻia kēia i ka mana ikaika loa e nā hale pili kaiaulu.
ʻOiai nā hoʻoholo pilikino hohonu, e like me, no ka laʻana, no ka hemo ʻana a i ʻole ka hemo ʻana, pono e kūkākūkā ʻia a ʻae ʻia mai luna mai.
ʻO kēia hoʻokomo ikaika i loko o ke ola pilikino ua lilo mākou i mea ʻole i nā palena a mākou i hoʻonoho ai iā mākou iho a me ka ʻole. I kēia manawa ua loli ke kūlana. Ma ka lima hoʻokahi, globalization: hele mākou a pau a nānā i nā moʻomeheu ʻē aʻe. Ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, ʻike ʻia ka waiwai pilikino. No laila, ua lilo ka pilikia o nā palena. Akā, ʻaʻohe moʻomeheu, ʻaʻohe mea e pale ai i nā palena, i kekahi manawa e noho liʻiliʻi lākou, kamaliʻi a i ʻole ka manaʻo pilikino.
Hoʻohana pinepine ʻoe i kēlā manaʻo e like me ka mana kūʻokoʻa, e hoʻomanaʻo koke iā ʻoe i ka mana aupuni. He aha kāu e hoʻokomo nei?
ʻO ka mea like ma waena o ka mokuʻāina a me ke kanaka, kūpono loa ia. ʻO nā ʻāʻī ʻelua ma waena o nā kānaka a me nā hakakā ma waena o nā mokuʻāina e ala mai no nā kumu like. Hoʻokaʻawale ka mokuʻāina a me nā kānaka i nā kumuwaiwai like ʻole. He ʻāina a he ikehu paha. A no ka poʻe, ʻo ia ka ʻike, ke aloha, ke aloha, ka ʻike, ka kaulana… Kaʻana mau mākou i kēia mau mea a pau, no laila pono mākou e kau i nā palena.
Akā ʻo ka huaʻōlelo "sovereignty" ʻaʻole ia he kaʻawale wale nō, ʻo ia hoʻi ke ʻano o ke aupuni ponoʻī. ʻAʻole mākou e kau i ka pā a puni kā mākou māla ponoʻī, akā pono mākou e kanu i kekahi mea ma kēia māla. A ʻo ka mea i loko, pono mākou e haku, noho, pilikino. No laila, ʻo ke kūʻokoʻa ke kūʻokoʻa, autonomy, kūʻokoʻa ponoʻī, a ma ka manawa like hoʻi ʻo ia ka hoʻoponopono ponoʻī, piha, ʻoluʻolu.
No ka mea, ke kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i nā palena, manaʻo mau mākou e hoʻokaʻawale i kekahi mea mai kekahi mea. ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻokaʻawale i ka ʻole mai ka ʻole.
He aha nā mea nui o ke ea?
Makemake au e huli ma aneʻi iā William James, ka mea nāna i hoʻokumu i ka pragmatism in psychology, nāna i ʻōlelo, ma ke ʻano ākea, ʻo ke ʻano o ke kanaka ka huina o nā mea āpau i hiki iā ia ke kapa iā ia iho. ʻAʻole wale kona ʻano kino a noʻonoʻo, akā ʻo kona ʻaʻahu, ka hale, ka wahine, nā keiki, nā kūpuna, nā hoaaloha, ka inoa a me nā hana, nā ʻāina, nā lio, nā moku moku, nā poʻo nui.
Hoʻomaopopo maoli ka poʻe iā lākou iho, hui pū me kā lākou waiwai. A he mea nui kēia.
No ka mea, ma muli o ke ʻano o ke ʻano, hiki ke ʻokoʻa loa kēia mau ʻāpana o ke kaiapuni.
Aia kekahi kanaka e hoʻomaopopo pono iā ia iho me kona manaʻo. No laila, ʻo nā waiwai kekahi ʻāpana o ka wahi pilikino, i hoʻoikaika ʻia ma muli o ka mana. Hiki iā mākou ke lawe i ko mākou kino ponoʻī ma laila, ʻoiaʻiʻo. Aia kekahi poʻe i waiwai nui ko lākou kino. ʻO ka hoʻopā ʻana, ka ʻoluʻolu ʻole o ka noho ʻana, ka uhai ʻana i nā hana physiological - he mea koʻikoʻi kēia mau mea no lākou. E hakakā lākou e pale aku i kēia.
ʻO kekahi mea hoihoi ka manawa. He mea maopopo, he mau mea no ka manawa pokole kakou a pau. ʻO nā mea a mākou e manaʻo ai a manaʻo paha, hiki mau ia i kekahi manawa a me kahi ākea, me ka ʻole ʻaʻole mākou e ola. Hiki iā mākou ke hoʻopilikia maʻalahi i ke ʻano o kekahi ke koi mākou iā ia e noho ma kahi ʻano ʻē aʻe ma mua o kona. Eia kekahi, ke hoʻohana mau nei mākou i nā kumuwaiwai queue.
Ma ka manaʻo ākea, he mau lula nā palena. Hiki ke ʻōlelo ʻia, ʻōlelo ʻia, a i ʻole ka manaʻo. Me he mea lā iā mākou, ua like ka manaʻo o nā poʻe a pau. Pīhoihoi mākou i ka ʻike koke ʻana ʻaʻole kēia ka hihia. Akā, ma ka laulā, ʻaʻole like nā kānaka a pau.
Manaʻo paha ʻoe he ʻokoʻa ka manaʻo o ke aupuni, ma ke ʻano o nā palena ma waena o nā kāne a me nā wahine?
Me ke kanalua ole. Ma ke kamaʻilio maʻamau e pili ana i nā kāne a me nā wahine, loaʻa iā mākou nā wahi punahele o ka wahi pilikino. Aʻo ka mea e hopu ai i ka maka i ka mea mua, ua kākoʻoʻia e ka nui o ka noiʻi: nā kāne e mālama i ka'āina, ka waiwai a me ke aloha waiwai. A oi aku ka pili o na wahine i na «movable». Pehea e wehewehe ai nā wāhine i ke kaʻa? Wahine wahine, manaʻo wau: ʻo kaʻu kaʻa koʻu ʻeke nui, he ʻāpana o koʻu hale.
ʻAʻole naʻe no ke kāne. Loaʻa iā ia nā hui like ʻole: he waiwai kēia, he leka e pili ana i koʻu mana a me koʻu ikaika. ʻOiaʻiʻo. ʻO ka mea ʻakaʻaka, ua hōʻike mua nā psychologists Kelemania ʻoi aku ka kiʻekiʻe o ka manaʻo ponoʻī o ka mea nona, ʻo ka liʻiliʻi ka nui o ka mīkini i kāna kaʻa.
ʻOi aku ka conservative o nā kāne i ka wā e pili ana i nā maʻamau regimen
ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o nā wahine, no laila, ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, hoʻololi mākou i nā ʻano o ke aupuni, a ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole mākou e hōʻeha nui inā hoʻoikaika kekahi iā lākou e hoʻololi. ʻOi aku ka paʻakikī no nā kāne. No laila, pono e noʻonoʻo ʻia kēia. Inā ʻike ʻia kēia hiʻohiʻona, a laila hiki ke hoʻomalu ʻia.
Pehea e pane ai i nā kūlana ke manaʻo mākou ua uhaki ʻia ko mākou mau palena? No ka laʻana, ma ka hana a i ʻole ka ʻohana, manaʻo mākou ua komo kekahi i ko mākou wahi, hoʻowahāwahā iā mākou, noʻonoʻo i kā mākou mau maʻamau a ʻono iā mākou, a hoʻokau paha i kekahi mea.
ʻO kahi hopena maikaʻi loa ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā manaʻo. He pane pololei kēia. Inā "ale" mākou i ka mea e hopohopo nei iā mākou a ʻaʻole hāʻawi i ka manaʻo, a laila ʻaʻole mākou e hana pololei loa, a laila e paipai nei i kēia ʻano hewa. ʻAʻole manaʻo paha ka mea kamaʻilio ʻaʻole mākou makemake iā ia.
Ma keʻano laulā, hiki ke hana pololei a ʻaʻole pololei paha nā ana pale palena. A eia nā mea a pau e pili ana i ka paʻakikī pilikino o ka interlocutor. Inā kamaʻilio nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi a i ʻole nā kānaka maʻalahi, kamaliʻi, a laila no lākou ka pane kūpono loa he pane pololei, mirroring. Ua kau ʻoe i kāu kaʻa ma koʻu kahua kaʻa - ʻae, no laila, i ka manawa aʻe e hoʻopaʻa wau i kaʻu i kāu. Ma ke ʻano loea, kōkua ia.
Akā inā ʻoe e hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia hoʻolālā a me ka hiki ke kamaʻilio hoʻohiki me kēia kanaka, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole maikaʻi loa kēia.
Maʻaneʻi he mea maikaʻi ke hoʻohana ʻana i nā ʻano pale ʻole: nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, nā inoa, irony, ka hōʻike ʻana o ka ʻae ʻole o kekahi. ʻAʻole naʻe ma ka ʻōlelo i uhaki ʻia ai ko mākou wahi, akā ma ka waha, ma kahi ʻē aʻe, ma o ka wehe ʻana, ma o ka nānā ʻole ʻana i nā pilina.
ʻAʻole pono mākou e poina ʻaʻole ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana o nā palena i ko mākou ʻano mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, e pale pū kekahi i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe mai iā mākou. A no ke kanaka makua, he mea nui keia.
I ka wā i kākau ai ʻo Ortega y Gasset e pili ana i ka ʻike lehulehu a me nā poʻe āna i kapa ai ʻo "mass people" ma ke ʻano like ʻole me nā aristocrats, ua ʻike ʻo ia ua maʻa ke aliʻi i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i nā mea ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole e hoʻopilikia i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, a ʻoi aku ka mālama ʻana i kona hōʻoluʻolu i kekahi. nā hihia pākahi. No ka mea ʻaʻole koi ka ikaika i ka hōʻoia, a hiki i ke kanaka makua ke haʻalele i kahi pilikia nui iā ia iho - ʻaʻole e hāʻule kona manaʻo ponoʻī mai kēia.
Akā inā pale ʻeha ke kanaka i kona mau palena, a laila no mākou nā psychologists, he hōʻailona hoʻi kēia o ka palupalu o kēia mau palena. ʻOi aku ka nui o ia poʻe e lilo i mea kūʻai aku i kahi psychotherapist, a hiki i ka psychotherapy ke kōkua maoli iā lākou. I kekahi manawa ʻo ka mea a mākou e manaʻo ai he hoʻokō ʻo ia kekahi mea ʻē aʻe. A i kekahi manawa hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻalele iā ia. Ke kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i ka wehewehe ʻana i ko mākou mau palena, he mea mau ia o ka hiki ke hōʻike i kā mākou "makemake", "makemake", "makemake" a hoʻoikaika i kēia hiki me nā mākau o kahi moʻomeheu o ka hoʻomalu ponoʻī.
Ua hoʻopaʻa ʻia ka nīnauele no ka papahana hui o Psychologies magazine a me ka radio "Culture" "Status: i kahi pilina."