Pono ʻoe e lilo i kāne maoli!

Aʻo mākou i kā mākou mau keikikāne ʻaʻole uē nā keikikāne. E aʻo e hūnā a kāohi i nā manaʻo, e haʻalele i kou mau manaʻo a mai nāwaliwali. A inā e kūleʻa mākou i ka hānai ʻana, e ulu lākou he "kāne maoli" ... akā naʻe, hauʻoli.

Ke kākau nei au i kēia me ka noho ʻana ma kahi pā pāʻani kaʻawale ma waho o ke kula haʻahaʻa kahi e hele ai kaʻu mau keikikāne. I kēia manawa, i nā lā hope o ke kauwela, ua mālie a mālie. Akā i loko o hoʻokahi pule, i ka wā e hoʻomaka ai nā haʻawina, e hoʻopiha ʻia ke kula i ka ikaika o kaʻu mau keiki a me kā lākou mau hoa papa. Eia kekahi, nā memo. He aha nā leka e loaʻa iā lākou mai ke kula kula e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka lilo ʻana i keikikāne a lilo i kāne?

ʻO ka mea i hala iho nei, ua hū ka pipeline 93 makahiki ma Los Angeles. 90 miliona lita o ka wai i kahe ma nā alanui o ke kūlanakauhale a me ka pā kula o ke Kulanui o Kaleponi. No ke aha i pohā ai ka paipu? No ka mea, ua kūkulu ʻo Los Angeles, kanu, a hoʻokomo iā ia i loko o kahi hoʻolālā makahiki XNUMX e hoʻololi i nā mea hana.

He mea maʻamau ia mau hihia. No ka laʻana, ua waiho ʻia ka pipeline e hāʻawi ai i ka wai i ka hapa nui o Wakinekona ma mua o ka lilo ʻana o ʻAberahama Linekona i pelekikena. A ua hoʻohana ʻia i kēlā me kēia lā mai ia manawa. ʻAʻole paha e hoʻomanaʻo ʻia a pahū ʻo ia. Penei kā mākou mālama ʻana i ka wai paipu: kanu mākou i ka lepo a poina iā ia, a laila ʻohi mākou i ka uku ke pau nā paipu i ka pale ʻana i ke kaomi.

A pēlā mākou e hānai ai i nā kāne.

'Ōlelo mākou i nā keikikāne e pono lākou e kanu i ko lākou mau manaʻo inā makemake lākou e lilo i kāne, kanu iā lākou a mālamaʻole iā lākou a hiki i ka wā e pahū ai. Manaʻo wau inā e aʻo kaʻu mau keiki i ka mea a ko lākou poʻe mua i aʻo ai no nā keneturi: pono nā keikikāne e hakakā no ka nānā ʻana, ʻaʻole e kuʻikahi. ʻIke ʻia lākou no ka lanakila, ʻaʻole no ka manaʻo. Pono nā keikikāne e paʻa i ke kino a me ka ʻuhane, e hūnā i nā manaʻo palupalu. ʻAʻole hoʻohana nā keikikāne i nā huaʻōlelo, hoʻohana lākou i ko lākou lima.

Manaʻo wau inā e huki kaʻu mau keikikāne i kā lākou manaʻo ponoʻī e pili ana i ke ʻano o ke kāne: hakakā nā kāne, hoʻokō a lanakila. Mālama lākou i nā mea a pau, me lākou iho. He mana ko lākou a ʻike lākou i ka hoʻohana ʻana. He mau alakaʻi hiki ʻole ke kāne. ʻAʻohe o lākou manaʻo, no ka mea he nāwaliwali nā manaʻo. ʻAʻole lākou kānalua no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou e hana hewa. A inā, me kēia mau mea a pau, ua mehameha ke kanaka, ʻaʻole pono ia e hoʻokumu i nā pilina hou, akā e hopu i nā ʻāina hou ...

I ka pule i hala aku nei ua hana au ma ka hale, a ua pāʻani kaʻu mau keiki kāne a me nā hoaaloha ma ko mākou pā hale. I koʻu nānā ʻana i waho o ka pukaaniani, ʻike wau ua kuʻi kekahi o nā kāne i kaʻu keiki i ka honua a e hahau ana iā ia. Ua holo au i lalo o ke alapiʻi me he meteor lā, wehe aʻe au i ka puka o mua, a ʻuhu aku i ka mea lawehala, "E hele i waho i kēia manawa! E hoʻi i ka home!»

Holo koke ke keiki i ke kaʻa, akā ma mua o kona huli ʻana, ʻike wau i ka makaʻu i kona mau maka. Makaʻu ʻo ia iaʻu. Ua ālai au i kona huhū me kaʻu ponoʻī, ua nalowale kona huhū iaʻu, ua ʻoki ʻia kona huhū i loko o kekahi. Ua aʻo au iā ia e lilo i kanaka… Ua kāhea aku au iā ia, noi aku iā ia e nānā i loko o koʻu mau maka a ʻōlelo aku: “ʻAʻohe mea e hoʻomaʻamaʻa iā ʻoe, akā inā manaʻo ʻoe e hōʻeha i kekahi mea, mai hōʻeha ʻoe i kekahi. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi e haʻi mai iā mākou i ka mea i hana ʻia.

A laila ua pohā kāna «wai wai», a me ka ikaika i kāhāhā iaʻu, he psychotherapist akamai. Kahe nā waimaka ma nā kahawai. ʻO ka manaʻo o ka hōʻole ʻana a me ka mehameha i piha i kona mau maka a me koʻu pā hale. Me ka nui o ka wai hoʻonaʻauao e kahe ana ma o kā mākou mau paipu a ʻōlelo ʻia e kanu hohonu aʻe, ua haki mākou. Ke aʻo mākou i nā keikikāne e kāohi i ko lākou mau manaʻo, hoʻonohonoho mākou i kahi pahū.

ʻO ka pule aʻe, e hoʻopiha ʻia ka pā pāʻani ma waho o ke kula haʻahaʻa o kaʻu mau keikikāne i nā leka. ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻololi i kā lākou ʻike. Akā, ma hope o ke kula, hoʻi nā keikikāne i ka home, a ʻo nā mea ʻē aʻe, kani kā mākou mau leka ma laila. Hiki iā mākou ke hoʻohiki iā lākou:

• ma ka home, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hakakā no ka nānā ʻana o kekahi a mālama i kou maka;
• hiki iā ʻoe ke hoaaloha me mākou a kamaʻilio e like me ia, me ka hoʻokūkū ʻole;
• maanei lakou e hoolohe ai i ke kaumaha a me ka makau;
• ʻO ke koi wale nō e hoʻokō ʻia ma ka home he kanaka;
• eia lakou e hana hewa, aka, e hana hewa kakou;
• hiki ke uē i nā hewa, e ʻimi mākou i kahi ala e ʻōlelo ai "E kala mai" a "Ua kala ʻia ʻoe";
• i kekahi manawa e uhai mākou i kēia mau ʻōlelo hoʻohiki.

A ke hoʻohiki nei mākou i ka wā e hiki mai ai, e lawe mālie mākou. A e hoʻomaka hou kāua.

E hoʻouna i kā mākou mau keikikāne i kahi leka. ʻAʻole ka nīnau inā e lilo ʻoe i kāne a ʻaʻole paha. He ʻokoʻa ke kani ʻana o ka nīnau: he ʻano kanaka ʻoe e lilo ai? E kanu hohonu anei ʻoe i kou mau manaʻo a hoʻopiha i ka poʻe a puni ʻoe me lākou i ka wā e pohā ai nā paipu? A i ʻole e noho ʻoe ʻo wai ʻoe? ʻElua wale nō mea e pono ai: ʻo ʻoe iho - kou mau manaʻo, hopohopo, moeʻuhane, manaʻolana, ikaika, nāwaliwali, hauʻoli, kaumaha - a me kahi manawa liʻiliʻi no nā hormones e kōkua i kou kino e ulu. ʻO ka mea hope loa, e nā keikikāne, aloha mākou iā ʻoe a makemake mākou e hōʻike piha iā ʻoe iho me ka hūnā ʻole.

E pili ana i ka mea kākau: ʻO Kelly Flanagan he kanaka psychologist a he makua kāne ʻekolu.