He maʻalahi ke hoʻopau i ka manaʻo mua i ka wā e hui ai. ʻOi loa inā he introvert ʻoe a he extrovert kāu interlocutor. Pehea mākou e pale aku ai kekahi i kekahi a hiki iā mākou ke hoʻololi i ko mākou manaʻo e pili ana i kahi kamaʻāina hou?
Hele mai ʻoe e kipa a ʻike i nā poʻe hou āu i ʻike ʻole ai. Nānā ʻoe iā lākou – a hopu koke kou maka i kahi mea āu e kamaʻilio ʻole ai i kēia lā! Pehea ʻoe i hoʻoholo ai i kēia a no ke aha, me ke kamaʻilio ʻole ʻana me kahi kamaʻāina hou, hōʻole koke ʻoe e kamaʻilio?
Aia paha ka pane ma ka ʻaoʻao inā he kanaka hoʻokalakupua ʻoe, a ʻo ka mea āu i ʻike koke ai he kanaka kūpono ʻole no ka kamaʻilio ʻana he extrovert, wahi a Jack Schafer kanaka loiloi.
"ʻO ka poʻe Extroverts he mea hilinaʻi iā lākou iho, palaka, hoʻopaʻapaʻa a haʻaheo i nā introverts. ʻO nā introverts, mai ka manaʻo o nā extroverts, ʻoluʻolu a noho mālie, ʻaʻole i kūpono i ke kaiāulu, "wahi a Schafer. A ʻaʻohe mea āu e ʻōlelo ai, no ke ʻano o kou ʻano i ka wā e hiki mai ana, e noʻonoʻo ʻia kāu mau hana a pau ma o ka prism o ka manaʻo mua.
Makemake mākou i ka wā e hōʻike ai ka poʻe a puni mākou i ko mākou manaʻo i ke ola. No laila, ʻike pinepine ʻia nā extroverts a me introverts i ka wā mua ʻaʻole loaʻa nā manaʻo pumehana no kekahi. Hoʻokomo ʻia ka manaʻo o ka mea mua e ka honua o waho, mālama ka hope i kā lākou ʻike i loko. Eia kekahi, ʻo ke kumu nui o ka ikehu no ka extrovert ke kamaʻilio me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, ʻoiai ʻo ka introvert, e ala ana i ke kakahiaka me kahi "pākuʻi piha piha", ua pau loa i ke ahiahi ma muli o ka launa pū ʻana me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. A i mea e loaʻa ai ka ikaika, pono ʻo ia e noho mālie - a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka mehameha.
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ʻO ia ka ʻokoʻa o ka nohona a me ka ʻike honua e hiki ai ke hōʻeha i waena o nā kānaka ʻelua ma nā "pole" like ʻole, wahi a Jack Schafer.
ʻAʻole like me nā extroverts, e haʻi mālie a i kekahi manawa me ka hauʻoli i nā mea ʻē aʻe e pili ana i kā lākou ʻike, ʻaʻole mākaukau ka poʻe introvert e haʻi i ko lākou mau manaʻo. A ʻo ka huhū i hoʻokumu ʻia e nā hoa pili hiki ke hōʻiliʻili i loko o lākou no ka manawa lōʻihi. A inā ʻaʻole hiki i ka introvert ke kāohi hou iā ia iho, hōʻike ʻo ia i ka extrovert me kahi papa inoa o kāna "hewa". A hiki ke nui loa!
Nui nā extroverts makemake e hoʻopau i nā ʻōlelo a ka interlocutor i ʻōlelo ai.
Pehea e huhū ai nā extroverts i ka wā e hiki mai ai i ka hālāwai mua?
Makemake lākou e ʻōlelo i ko lākou manaʻo me ka hopohopo ʻole i ka manaʻo o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Introverts, ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, noʻonoʻo mua e pili ana i ka leo ʻana i ko lākou mau manaʻo, a ʻaʻole maopopo maoli pehea ʻoe e haʻalele ai i nā ʻike o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
Eia kekahi, makemake nui nā extroverts e hoʻopau i nā huaʻōlelo i ʻōlelo ʻia e ka interlocutor. ʻO ka poʻe introverts, ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, makemake lākou e hoʻopili i kā lākou ʻōlelo me nā hoʻomaha i mea e hone i ko lākou mau manaʻo, e lawe iā lākou i ka hemolele. A ʻaʻole lākou e ʻae iā lākou iho e noʻonoʻo no nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Ke hoʻopau koke ka extrovert i ka interlocutor a hoʻopau i kāna ʻōlelo, hōʻino ka introvert.
Hāʻawi i hoʻokahi manawa hou
ʻO ka mea pōʻino, he paʻakikī loa ka manaʻo mua e hoʻololi, hoʻoikaika ka mea akamai. A inā i ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ke kamaʻilio ʻana he manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole mākou i kekahi, ʻaʻole makemake mākou e hoʻomau i ke kamaʻilio ʻana a hui hou me ia. A me ka hui ʻole ʻana, ʻoi aku ka hua a me ka ʻoluʻolu, ʻaʻole hiki ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā loli.
Aia kekahi kūlana koʻikoʻi. Ke loaʻa iā mākou ka manaʻo mua o kekahi, lilo ia i mea paʻakikī iā mākou e hoʻololi i ko mākou manaʻo. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ʻo ka ʻae ʻana ʻaʻole ʻino loa ka mea kamaʻilio ʻo ia ka ʻae ʻana ua hana hewa mākou i kā mākou hoʻoholo. A me ka noho ʻoiaʻiʻo i ka manaʻo mua, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ka hopohopo ma mua o ka hoʻoholo ʻana e hōʻoia ua hewa mākou, maopopo ka mea akamai.
ʻO ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ke ʻano o nā ʻano like ʻole o ka poʻe e kamaʻilio e kōkua iā mākou e launa pū me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
Pehea mākou e hoʻohana ai i kēia ʻike i ke ola maoli? ʻO ka mea mua, inā mākou e hoʻomanaʻo i ka ʻokoʻa o ka ʻano ma waena o nā extroverts a me introverts, e emi ana ka hopohopo no nā kumu i makemake ʻole ai mākou i kekahi. Malia paha ʻo ia "mai kahi pahu one ʻē aʻe".
ʻO ka lua, ʻo ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ke ʻano o ke kamaʻilio ʻana o ka poʻe e kōkua iā mākou e pili pū me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Malia paha e makaʻala nui mākou i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a i ʻole hiki ke kamaʻilio me nā ʻano o kā lākou kamaʻilio ʻana.
E pili ana i ka mea kākau: ʻO Jack Schafer kahi mea loiloi ʻano.