ʻO ke kōkua manaʻo mua i ka hakakā

ʻAʻole maʻa ka poʻe he nui i ka hoʻokau mua ʻana i ko lākou pono ponoʻī, akā i nā kūlana hakakā he mea maʻamau ke mālama mua iā ʻoe iho. ʻAʻole kēia he hōʻike o ka manaʻo ponoʻī. ʻO ka manaʻo ponoʻī - e mālama wale iā ʻoe iho, ke kuha ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.

Ke kamaʻilio nei mākou e pili ana i ka mālama ʻana iā ʻoe iho - pono ʻoe e kōkua mua iā ʻoe iho i loaʻa iā ʻoe ka ikaika a me ka manawa e kōkua ai i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. No ka lilo ʻana i kāne maikaʻi a wahine paha, makua, keiki, hoaaloha, a me ka mea hana, pono mākou e mālama mua i ko mākou pono ponoʻī.

E laʻana i nā pilikia e pili ana i ka mokulele, i haʻi ʻia iā mākou ma ka pōkole ma mua o ka lele. ʻO ka manaʻo ponoʻī - e kau i kahi mask oxygen ma luna ou a poina i nā mea ʻē aʻe. ʻO ka hoʻolaʻa piha ʻana i ka hoʻokomo ʻana i nā masks i nā poʻe a puni mākou i ka wā e ʻeha nei mākou. Mālama pono iā ʻoe iho - kau mua i ka mask iā mākou iho i hiki iā mākou ke kōkua i ka poʻe a puni mākou.

ʻAʻole aʻo ke kula iā mākou pehea e hana ai i nā kūlana e like me kēia. Ua ʻōlelo paha ke kumu ʻaʻole e hoʻolohe ke kāhea mai lākou iā mākou i nā ʻōlelo ʻino. A he aha, ua kōkua kēia ʻōlelo aʻo? ʻAʻole naʻe. He mea ʻē aʻe ka nānā ʻole ʻana i ka ʻōlelo pupule a kekahi, he ʻano ʻē aʻe ka manaʻo e like me ka "rag", e ʻae iā ʻoe iho e hōʻino ʻia a mālama ʻole i ka pōʻino a kekahi i hana ai i ko mākou manaʻo ponoʻī a me ka mahalo iā ʻoe iho.

He aha ka Emotional First Aid?

1. E hana i kou makemake

Hoʻohana mākou i ka ikaika nui e hoʻāʻo e hōʻoluʻolu i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a waiho ʻole iā lākou me ka ʻoluʻolu ʻole. Pono mākou e ho'ōki i ka hanaʻana i nā mea kūponoʻole a hoʻomaka e hana i kahi mea kūpono, e hana i nā hoʻoholo kūʻokoʻa e kūlike me kā mākou mau kumu. E koi ana paha kēia iā mākou e ho'ōki i kā mākou hana a mālama i ko mākou hauʻoli ponoʻī.

2. E hoʻohana i kou ʻike a me ka noʻonoʻo maʻamau

He poʻe mākua mākou, a ua lawa kā mākou ʻike e hoʻomaopopo ai i nā ʻōlelo a ka interlocutor i kūpono, a me kāna ʻōlelo e hōʻeha wale iā mākou. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e lawe pilikino. ʻO kona huhū, ʻo ia ke ʻano o ke kanaka makua o ka huhū kamaliʻi.

Ke ho'āʻo neiʻo ia e hoʻoweliweli a hoʻohana i nā'ōlelo hoʻonāukiuki a me ka leo huhū e hōʻike i ke kūlana kiʻekiʻe a me ka hoʻouna ikaika. Hiki iā mākou ke ʻae i kona mau manaʻo akā ʻae ʻole i kāna ʻike i nā ʻoiaʻiʻo.

Ma mua o ka hāʻawi ʻana i ka makemake instinctive e pale iā ʻoe iho, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka noʻonoʻo maʻamau. Inā manaʻo ʻoe e hoʻomaka ana ʻoe e lawe i ke kahawai o ka hoʻomāinoino i ka puʻuwai, me he mea lā e hōʻike maoli ana nā huaʻōlelo i kou waiwai ma ke ʻano he kanaka, e haʻi iā ʻoe iho "hoʻomaha!" Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ʻo ia kā lākou makemake mai iā mākou.

Ke hoʻāʻo nei ʻo ia e hoʻokiʻekiʻe iā ia iho ma ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana iā mākou no ka mea makemake nui ʻo ia i ka hōʻoia ʻana iā ia iho. ʻAʻole i loaʻa i ka poʻe mahalo iā lākou iho ka pono. He mea maʻamau ia i ka poʻe nele i ka mahalo iā lākou iho. Akā, ʻaʻole mākou e ʻōlelo like iā ia. ʻAʻole mākou e hoʻohaʻahaʻa hou iā ia.

3. Mai hoʻokuʻu i kou mau manaʻo

Hiki iā mākou ke hoʻihoʻi i ka mana o ke kūlana ma ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana he koho kā mākou. ʻO ka mea kūikawā, mālama mākou i nā mea a pau a mākou e ʻōlelo ai. Manaʻo paha mākou e wehewehe, pale, hoʻopaʻapaʻa, ʻoluʻolu, kūʻē kūʻē, a hāʻawi aku a waiho aku, akā hiki iā mākou ke kāohi iā mākou iho mai ka hana ʻana pēlā.

ʻAʻole mākou i ʻoi aku ka hewa ma mua o kekahi o ka honua, ʻaʻole pono mākou e lawe maoli i nā ʻōlelo a ka interlocutor. Hiki iā mākou ke hōʻoia i kona mau manaʻo: "Ke manaʻo nei au ua ʻeha ʻoe," "He mea ʻeha loa ia," a i ʻole e mālama i ka manaʻo iā mākou iho.

Hoʻoholo mākou i ka mea a mākou e makemake ai e hōʻike a i ka manawa. I kēia manawa, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻoholo e ʻōlelo ʻole i kekahi mea, no ka mea, ʻaʻohe kumu o ka ʻōlelo ʻana i kekahi mea i kēia manawa. ʻAʻole makemake ʻo ia e hoʻolohe iā mākou.

ʻAʻole kēia manaʻo e "hoʻowahāwahā" mākou iā ia. Hoʻoholo mākou e hāʻawi i kāna mau hoʻopiʻi i ka nānā pono ʻana iā lākou - ʻaʻole loa. Hoʻohālike wale mākou e hoʻolohe. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kunou no ka hōʻike.

Hoʻoholo mākou e noho mālie, ʻaʻole e hāʻule i kāna makau. ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke hoʻonāukiuki iā mākou, ʻaʻohe pili o nā ʻōlelo iā mākou. ʻAʻohe pono e pane, hoʻohana mākou i ka noʻonoʻo maʻamau a hoʻoholo e noho mālie. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e hoʻolohe mai iā mākou.

4. E hoʻihoʻi i kou mahalo iā ʻoe iho

Inā mākou i lawe ponoʻī i kāna mau ʻōlelo hōʻino, aia mākou i ke kūlana eo. Aia iā ia ka mana. Akā hiki iā mākou ke hoʻomaikaʻi hou iā mākou iho ma ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana iā mākou iho he waiwai mākou me ko mākou mau hemahema a me nā hemahema āpau.

ʻOiai nā mea a pau i ʻōlelo ʻia, ʻaʻole i emi iki ka waiwai o ke kanaka ma mua o kekahi. ʻOiai inā he ʻoiaʻiʻo kāna mau hoʻopiʻi ʻana, e hōʻike wale ana ʻo ia he hewa ʻole mākou, e like me nā mea ʻē aʻe. ʻO kā mākou "kūʻole" i huhū iā ia, a hiki iā mākou ke mihi.

ʻAʻole hōʻike kāna ʻōlelo hoʻohewa i kā mākou waiwai. Akā naʻe, ʻaʻole maʻalahi ka hele ʻole i ka kānalua a me ka hoʻohewa ʻana iā ia iho. No ka mālama ʻana i ka mahalo iā ʻoe iho, e hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe iho ʻo kāna mau ʻōlelo he mau ʻōlelo a ke keiki i loko o ka hysterics, a ʻaʻole lākou e kōkua iā ia a iā mākou ma kekahi ʻano.

Hiki iā mākou ke kāohi iā mākou iho a ʻaʻole e hāʻawi i ka hoʻowalewale e hāʻawi i ka pane kamaliʻi like ʻole. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, he poʻe mākua mākou. A hoʻoholo mākou e hoʻololi i kekahi «mode». Hoʻoholo mākou e hāʻawi mua iā mākou iho i ke kōkua noʻonoʻo, a laila pane i ka interlocutor. Hoʻoholo mākou e hoʻomaha.

Hoʻomanaʻo mākou iā mākou iho ʻaʻole mākou he waiwai ʻole. ʻAʻole kēia manaʻo ua ʻoi aku mākou ma mua o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. He ʻāpana mākou o ke kanaka, e like me nā mea ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka mea kamaʻilio ma mua o mākou, ʻaʻole mākou i ʻoi aku ka hewa ma mua o ia. He mau kanaka kūpono ʻole mākou, me ka nui o nā mea i hala e pili ana i ko mākou pilina me kekahi.

E pili ana i ka mea kākau: ʻO Aaron Carmine he kanaka psychologist ma Urban Balance Psychological Services ma Chicago.