Palekana i ke aloha: 7 ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no nā kaikamahine

Makemake nā mākua maikaʻi i ka maikaʻi no kā lākou mau keiki. A i ka wā e ulu ai kahi kaikamahine i ka ʻohana, ʻo kā lākou hana ke hoʻomākaukau iā ia no ka pilina mua, no ke aloha mua. A ʻo ia hoʻi - i kāna mau haʻawina e pili ana i kēlā me kēia o mākou e hele ai.

Ke hilinaʻi nei ko mākou wā e hiki mai ana inā hiki iā mākou ke hoʻoulu i nā wahine ʻōpio ikaika, hilinaʻi, hauʻoli a mahalo iā lākou iho i hiki i nā pilina olakino, wahi a ke kumu ola a me ka loea i ka hana ʻana me nā wahine a me nā ʻohana ʻo Samin Razzaghi.

ʻO ka mea pōʻino, i ka honua hou, hoʻomau ka hana ʻino i nā kaikamahine a me nā wahine, ma ke kino a me ka noʻonoʻo. ʻO nā kaikamāhine ka poʻe pilikia loa, a na nā lunakahiko e kōkua iā lākou e pale i nā pilina maikaʻi ʻole a aʻo e hana i nā hoʻoholo kūpono e pili ana i ko lākou ola pilikino. ʻOiaʻiʻo, hiki i nā kāne ke pilikia i ka hanaʻino a me ka hanaʻino, akā i kēia hihia ke kamaʻilio nei mākou no nā wāhine.

Wahi a RBC, mai Ianuali a Sepatemaba 2019, ʻoi aku ma mua o 15 tausani mau hewa ma ke kahua o ka ʻohana a me nā pilina pili i hana ʻia e kūʻē i nā wahine ma Rūsia, a ma 2018, ua hoʻopaʻa ʻia he 21 tausani mau hihia o ka hana ʻino. Ma ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa, he awelika o ʻekolu wahine e make i kēlā me kēia lā ma ka lima o kahi hoa hana mua a i ʻole i kēia manawa. ʻAʻole emi iki nā helu helu no nā ʻāina ʻē aʻe, inā ʻaʻole ʻoi aku ka weliweli.

"E kū'ē i nā moʻolelo mele kaulana, hiki ke hana ʻino i loko o nā ʻohana me nā loaʻa kālā like ʻole a me nā lāhui like ʻole," wehewehe ʻo Samin Razzagi.

I kekahi mau makahiki, hele nā ​​kaikamahine ʻōpio i kahi pae e lilo ai ka pilina me nā hoa a me nā hoa pili aloha i mea nui. A hiki i nā mākua ke kōkua iā lākou e aʻo pehea e kūkulu ai i nā pilina olakino i kēia wā koʻikoʻi.

Hāʻawi ʻo Samin Razzaghi i ʻehiku mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i ke aloha e pono ai kēlā me kēia kaikamahine.

1. Hilinaʻi i kou intuition

No ka wahine, ʻo ka intuition kahi mea hana hoʻoholo ikaika, no laila e aʻo ke kaikamahine e hilinaʻi iā ia iho. He ʻano koʻikoʻi nō hoʻi ia e ʻike ai, akā, i loko o kā mākou moʻomeheu "kāne", kahi e waiwai ai ka noʻonoʻo a me nā ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo mākou iho e uhaki i ka pilina o kā mākou mau kaikamahine me kēia makana. 'Ōlelo pinepineʻia nā kaikamāhineʻo ka mea a lākou i manaʻo ai he koho kūponoʻole ia.

I ka pili ʻana, hiki i ka intuition ke kōkua i nā kaikamahine e pale i ka hoʻoikaika kino mai nā hoa, e ʻōlelo i ke koho kūpono o ka hoa, a manaʻo i ko lākou mau palena. Hiki i nā mākua ke aʻo i kā lākou kaikamahine e hilinaʻi i kāna panana i loko ma ka nīnau ʻana, "He aha kāu e ʻōlelo ai?" aiʻole "He aha kou manaʻo mua i kēlā kūlana?"

2. E noʻonoʻo pono

Pono nā kaikamāhine e hoʻomaopopo i ko lākou manaʻo i kahi pilina olakino e hoʻopili ʻia e kā lākou ʻike ʻike - mele, puke, ʻoihana pūnaewele, hoʻolaha. Hoʻohālike kūlana a i ʻole nā ​​nīnau e like me "He aha ke ʻano o ke ʻano he kaikamahine i kā mākou moʻomeheu?", "Pehea e pono ai ka launa ʻana?", "Pehea ʻoe i ʻike ai i kēia?" etc.

No ka loaʻa ʻana o ka noʻonoʻo koʻikoʻi, e like me Samin Razzaghi, e nīnau iā ʻoe iho: "He aha kaʻu e manaʻo ai he ʻoiaʻiʻo? No ke aha wau e manaʻoʻiʻo ai? He oiaio anei? He aha ka hewa maanei?

3. E hoʻomaopopo i ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o ke aloha a me ke aloha

I ka honua o nā ʻoihana pūnaewele a me nā smartphones, he mea nui kēia. ʻO ke kamaʻilio ʻana i nā ʻelele a me ka nānā ʻana i nā pou a nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e hana i ka manaʻo wahaheʻe e ʻike maoli mākou i kekahi. Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole kūlike ke kiʻi o ka poʻe i ka ʻoihana pūnaewele me ko lākou ʻano maoli.

Pono e aʻo ʻia nā kaikamāhine e ʻike mālie i ke kanaka. Pono lākou e ʻike he manawa a me ka hoʻoikaika ʻana e kūkulu i nā pilina. I kekahi manawa, pololei pololei nā manaʻo mua. I ka manawa like, i nā lā, ho'āʻo nā kānaka e hōʻike i ko lākou ʻaoʻao maikaʻi loa, no laila ʻaʻohe pono e wikiwiki e hoʻokokoke.

"Ua like nā kānaka me nā aniani," i kākau ai ka mea kākau, "e aʻo i nā kumu waiwai a me nā ʻano, pono ʻoe e ʻili iā lākou i kēlā me kēia papa." A ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hana me ka waimaka ʻole ...

4. E hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole ʻo ka lili he hōʻailona o ke aloha.

ʻO ka lili ka mana, ʻaʻole ke aloha. He kumu nui kēia o ka hana ʻino i ka pilina o nā ʻōpio. I nā uniona olakino, ʻaʻole pono nā hoa e hoʻomalu kekahi i kekahi.

Hele pū ka lili me ka lili. Hoʻokumu ʻia kēia manaʻo ma luna o ka makaʻu a i ʻole ka nele i kekahi mea. Pono nā kaikamāhine e ʻike ʻaʻole e hoʻokūkū me kekahi akā iā lākou iho.

5. Mai hoʻokūkū me nā wāhine ʻē aʻe

ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e inaina iā ʻoe iho, ʻo kēlā me kēia kanaka a me nā ʻāpana holoʻokoʻa, a pono ʻoe e aʻo e haʻalele i kēlā mau ʻano. ʻO ka hana hui a nā wahine, ʻo ia ke aʻo ʻana i nā kāne pehea e mālama pono ai iā lākou.

Ma muli wale nō o ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana o ke kāne, ʻaʻole ia he ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke kaikamahine ʻē aʻe. 'O ia ho'i, he mau pilikia 'o ia me ka 'oia'i'o a me ka 'oia'i'o. Eia kekahi, e hana like paha ʻo ia i kāna hoaaloha hou e like me ka mea ma mua, no ka mea, ʻaʻole "kūikawā" ka mea hou ma mua o ka mua.

6. E hoʻolohe i kāu mau pono

ʻO kekahi makana i loaʻa i nā wahine, ʻo ia ka hiki ke aloha a hōʻike i ke aloha, ka hiki ke kōkua i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Pono kēia ʻano, akā inā hāʻawi mau ke kaikamahine i kāna mau mea e pono ai, a laila, ma hope a ma hope paha o ka huhū, e hōʻiliʻili paha ka huhū i loko ona, a i ʻole e maʻi kino.

Pono nā mākua e aʻo i kā lākou kaikamahine ʻo ke ala wale nō e hāʻawi ai i kekahi mea i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e pili ana i ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ko lākou pono a me ka hiki ke kamaʻilio iā lākou i kahi hoa, e ʻae ana i kāna hōʻole ʻana i kekahi mau hihia.

7. E kau mua i ke aloha nona iho

Ma muli o ko lākou hānai ʻana, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā kaikamahine i ka pilina ma mua o nā keikikāne. He makana makamae kēia, akā i kekahi manawa alakaʻi ia i ka luku ʻana iā ia iho. Ua hopohopo pinepine nā kaikamāhine i ko lākou manaʻo. Ke ulu nei lākou, hopohopo paha lākou inā makemake kekahi kāne iā lākou ma mua o ko lākou ʻike ʻana i ko lākou makemake nui iā ia. Kōkua lākou i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe me ka uku ʻana iā lākou iho.

Aʻo nā mākua maikaʻi i kā lākou kaikamahine i ke aloha pilikino olakino. ʻO ke ʻano o ka waiho ʻana i kou pono ponoʻī a me kou olakino ma mua, ke kūkulu ʻana i kahi pilina olakino me ʻoe iho - hoʻololi, ulu, ulu. ʻO kēia ka haʻawina koʻikoʻi loa no kahi kaikamahine e ʻike ai i nā pilina ikaika a hilinaʻi i ka wā e hiki mai ana, kahi kahi o ke aloha a me ka mahalo.

He hana paʻakikī ka lilo ʻana i makua no kahi kaikamahine ʻōpio. Akā paha ʻo ka mea maikaʻi loa e hiki i nā makuahine a me nā makuakāne ke aʻo i kā lākou mau kaikamahine pehea e kūkulu ai i nā pilina maʻamau i lilo ko lākou aloha mua i mea palekana a olakino.

E pili ana i ka loea: He kumu aʻo ola ʻo Samin Razzagi, loea i ka hana ʻana me nā wahine a me nā ʻohana.